16 September 2014 / submitted by Faye, Australia

Q. Hi friend,

Even though Chris is the only band member in the True Love video were the other band members required at the video shot, possibly to make any decisions or make sure they are happy as a whole band with what was happening? THE ORACLE REPLIES >

No. Unless the band are all in the video, they're not required at the shoot and weren't on set for True Love.

 

16 September 2014 / submitted by Tricia, Philippines

Q. Hello O,

Mabuhay!

Just curious, during tours or in between recordings, do our boys hang out in a single room and watch a particular TV show or something?

What are they collectively interested in other than the music they create together?

 

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

If it's a TV/radio appearance or awards show type set up, there's a green room where the guys will chill out beforehand. Here they may read, chat, listen to music, watch a film, play video games (solo or against each other), make phone calls or whatever.

When they're on tour, it's a much bigger operation. There are several rooms for band personnel, family & friends plus the band have one large dressing room and warm up room(s).

They may also go and kick a ball about, go for a run or visit catering.

 

16 September 2014 / submitted by Maribel Dionisio, United States of America

Q. Hey Oracle!

So I have currently downloaded the Origami Star because, well, I obviously wanted to try it out and I got stuck on Step 7. I need help! I feel like a complete idiot for not being able to understand it. I love Coldplay, and in my opinion, they're the best band ever. Anyways, have a wonderful day or evening Oracle!

-Yours Truly,

A Teen.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

I admit I am useless at following such instructions. Luckily for us, someone made a YouTube video. Hopefully you will recognize step 7 when you're watching and successfully complete your star.

Good luck!

17 September 2014 / submitted by Peter, United Kingdom

Q. Does Coldplay have a tour bus?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

No. They used to travel by tour bus but now it's mostly cars and planes with an occasional train. The last time I was on a bus with the band was the short journey from the airport terminal to the plane. Before that it was when a group of us went on an away day (paintballing) - we all got a coach there.

 

17 September 2014 / submitted by Joshua, Indonesia

Q. Hello, O. Is it true that Chris can't or couldn't read music sheet? Do you think that the capability of reading music is needed to expand musical talent? Thanks and sorry if someone has asked this before.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

The first part has been asked before - it's true.

 

Regarding the second part - you tell me. I don't think it is needed.

Isn't Chris proof that no, it's not necessary at all?

 

17 September 2014 / submitted by Jerry Balot , Philippines

Q. Hello again Oracle,

 

I just noticed that Coldplay releases a new album every three years ever since A Rush of Blood to the Head in 2002. Is it possible (or even true) that the next Coldplay album will come out in 2017?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Not necessarily, there were only two years before the first two albums: 2000, 2002, 2005, 2008, 2011 & 2014.

As we discussed in Team Oracle a couple of weeks ago, anything is possible (within reason), so yes it is possible the next album could be released in 2017 though as Chris has already been on record saying they are recording, it's likely to come well before then.

 

17 September 2014 / submitted by George, United States of America

Q. Hi Oracle,

After lyrics are posted on coldplay.com, are they ever amended if Chris sings something different on the actual recording than the written lyrics?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Chris only usually changes the lyrics when performing live after the song is released into the big wide world. We keep the website's lyrics as originally recorded. They are only amended if there has been a mistake.

 

18 September 2014 / submitted by Guillaume , France

Q. Hi Oracle !

 

 

I was at the Royal Albert Hall on July 1 and saw some of the concert setlist on the table next to you! I tried to come and ask you a set list but you left at that time. Have you still setlist?

 

Thanks you!

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

I think you must have mistaken my identity for someone else because I wasn't sat near a table. I did have a setlist with me though...

Always in My Head

Charlie Brown

Paradise

Magic

Clocks

The Scientist

God Put a Smile Upon Your Face

Til Kingdom Come

Don't Panic

Everything's Not Lost

Ink

True Love

Viva La Vida

Midnight

Every Teardrop Is a Waterfall

 

Encore:

Oceans

A Sky Full of Stars

Fix You

18 September 2014 / submitted by Nick, United States of America

Q. Oracle, what instruments do you compose with?

 

P.S. It's great to hear you have original music. With all of you life wisdom, I'm sure you've made some hauntingly-beautiful creations.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

I don't; I have songs in my head but they never make it out of there. My tunes usually come late at night just before I doze off. I don't make a voice memo & hardly ever remember them the next morning. That makes me think they can't be that good in the first place or I would remember. At the time though, I think they are ace!

 

19 September 2014 / submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?

 

As you may know, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday we open questions of a personal nature to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.

 

ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to [email protected] before midnight Thursday 25 September.

 

I've been going through a beautiful but also rather tough time this summer. My little sister developed a depression and hasn't been the same lately and although I'm positive about it and know it'll be alright again I sometimes feel guilty for departing from her because it affects me so much and it's hard finding energy every day to help her. I'm scared of being selfish! To which extent is it okay to think of my own well-being?

Thank you in advance,

Francis, Germany.

 

Look forward to reading your replies.

 

The Oracle.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

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19 September 2014 / submitted by Aubrey, Australia

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #184

I have been through a lot of depressing stuff lately, a lot has been going wrong in my life. I don't know who I am anymore, and my personality has changed for the worse. I've been really depressed. My school life is terrible, my grades are going downhill rapidly, and I don't get on with my family, I'm the odd one out. All my friends have said they hate me now, after a false rumor was spread about me. I only ever let my feelings out in my writing and drawing, as well as when I play my guitar. I love all of Coldplay's songs, they really express how I feel a lot of the time. You see, I had a boyfriend, secretly, but my parents found out about it and are preventing me from seeing him again. I didn't get to say goodbye, or even explain why I'm not talking to him, it was all so sudden. I'm scared of what he thinks of me, but I couldn't help it. I miss him a lot in my life, he was the only person who understood me. Do you have any encouraging thoughts for me? Thank you.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Growing up can be tough. There are a lot of changes to navigate through. You sometimes have to make decisions that you don't feel ready for and life can be overwhelming. Whether it's academic or personal, when you're going through puberty, you may not be aware that your hormones are also raging. They don't help matters!

The good news is it doesn't last and that almost everyone your age will be experiencing similar things.

Kids can be cruel (oh, there's bad news - so can adults) but you don't have to put up with bullying.

Your creativity serves as an excellent outlet to expel your frustrations and unhappiness. Keep on expressing your feelings in this way but I think you need to talk to people too.

Speak to a teacher about the rumours - they should be able to help in some way. Maybe there's a school counsellor you can also make an appointment with.

Talk to your 'friends' and put your side of the story across. If they don't listen, get new friends, as they're not worth your time.

You also need to speak with your parents. They were your age once and maybe they forget that sometimes as they try to do what they think is best for you. They may find it hard to accept you're growing up. If you feel unable to discuss how you feel, write them a letter.

I think you should also write your boyfriend a letter to explain what happened but at this point, respect your parents' decision to not see him until a time you have had a conversation with them.

Tell them he's your closest friend and you'd like them to meet him. Try to appeal to their younger selves that hopefully still lie within them somewhere.

Remember, they are trying to protect you, not punish you. Talking to them about how you feel in a calm, mature manner may help them see things from your view.

If you're ever a Mum, you may understand their side one day too.

It's hard work to keep up good grades when there's other stuff going on but try hard to focus on your studies.

Sometimes when bad things happen, we see everything through negative eyes and suddenly it feels like the world is against us and everything is going wrong when in fact, it can all be fixed.

One step at a time, deal with each problem. Write a list and go through it systematically.

Things can get better but it will take effort. Don't give up.

Over to you.

 

I understand when you say music, writing and drawing are the things that allow you to express your feelings. I used to have a lot of problems and music was one of the things that kept me sane.

 

I really think it would be helpful if you considered seeking some professional help. In my case, it wasn't until I started therapy that I got to understand many of my problems, their causes, and that I was finally able to learn how to deal with them and even solve them. It takes a lot of work, because you are confronted with many things of your past, but along the way, you learn a lot about yourself: why you act in a certain way, why you see the world the way you do, why you react in a certain way sometimes. Changing for better is possible if you are committed to it and work hard for it. I also have a friend that struggles with depression (he has a medical condition), so it's very important for you to seek for help sooner than later, so you can start taking back the control of your life.

As for your parents, the only thing I can tell you is there are some periods in life when we don't understand them and they don't understand us, but that doesn't mean you don't care about each other and that your relationship is never gonna be good. I can make you sure of that. So try to understand their point of view and to objectively see what reasons they could have not to accept your boyfriend.

Hope it all goes well. Noelia, Argentina.

 

That is such a horrible experience to go through Aubrey, and unfortunately I understand what you are going through. Through my struggles with loneliness, isolation, family issues, and others, I have learned through it all that if you are able to keep going through pain and keep marching on, it gives you character and courage, and those things will help you through anything in life. Keep playing your guitar and drawing and writing. If you are able to find a way to turn your depression into something beautiful, it is a gift and it is a wonderful one. In my opinion, if your ex-boyfriend meant that much to you, your parents should let you two be together. Just tell them all he has done for you and a good person should understand and let love prevail. Love and happiness in your life outside of school will hopefully change your life in school for the better. So keep making beautiful things, fight for your love and just keep going on with life, and it is ok to be depressed sometimes because it shows you don't bottle up your emotions (which is really bad to do) so feel what you feel but don't let it destroy your own life. Happiness, Love, and Healing, three words to think about at the end of this. I hope you take my advice into consideration Aubrey and I wish you love, happiness, and luck in this world

Yours,

Catherine, Connecticut.

 

The best thing you can do now since you are suffering from depression is to seek professional help. That's the best thing you have to do right now.. You see, being depressed is really not healthy for someone it may cause harmful effects to your body, and that's the first thing that I want to advice to you. About your friends, if they believed with all the fake rumors that spreading about you, then they are not your real friends. Because, real friends don't believed in other people's words they'll believe in your words. And about your parents have you asked them why they are so against with your boyfriend? If not then asked them, I believed that parents wants only the best for their kids. And to your boyfriend, I think it's best if you'll tell him why you're not seeing him anymore so he'll know your current situation and what your parents think of him. And when he knew about it, maybe he can man up and tell your parents that he has good intentions towards you. Hope this helps. I wish you nothing but the best in the world! Love, Shaine from Philippines. Xxo

 

I'm sorry that you feel this way but keep your head up! At some point everyone feels lost one way or another. You are not alone even though it might seem that way. If you feel like you can't talk to anybody you know about this, I would suggest you seek counsel with a professional. It could be a psychologist or a counsellor at your school, just know that there is no shame in seeking help, it only means you are strong. Stouie.

 

This sounds very hard. I am not going through the same but can relate to you. Last week it seems everything came at once, very stressful and I have been very depressed too. I listened to much Coldplay during these weeks.

Please don't be too shy to ask for help. Maybe in school a teacher to trust.

If you don't feel comfort in your family anymore, ask if you can go to a boarding school or something like this.

Changing your school might be helpful.

Well I don't know your age but you could search help at a psychologist.

You play guitar and play Coldplay songs on it. Go for it, get better and better and maybe this is your chance to break out of this life you live now. If you could play in public for example.

Or in writing, maybe you could write a book.

Nothing lasts forever - neither the worse days in your life. It's hard to believe it, I know cause of self-experience.

Wish you all the best. Maren.

 

I understand that it is very difficult to get away from the people you love because it also happened to me, my sister also had a boyfriend in secret and when my parents knew it it punished a long time I guess it's almost the same thing that happens to you but don't let that affect you too at school advise of demonstrate you to your parents with your grades that you deserve to have more freedom in your life and maybe so they understand because you want to be with your boyfriend. If you worry that he does not know the reason why you drifted from it I think it means as happened all things and when everything had all it will be as before. Best of luck in all Aubrey a hug from Argentina on the part of Daniela.

 

The positive part of your story is that you realize your having some problems with your attitude, so try to make some changes. My first suggestion is to remember every good thing you have done. I'm sure you have succeed in many aspects what it means you are not a complete failure. In the case of your relationship with your family, keep in mind that they'll be there for you anytime you need them. Don't get frustrated if they don't agree with you. Just listen to them patiently, what they say might be true because parents are more experienced than we are. As we get older, we realize how true their advices and comments were. In the case of your friends, I believe that sometimes it is better to stay alone than to be with someone who doesn't trust in you. It hurts I know, it happened to me. My friends started to believe in others rather than in me. I didn't explain them anything. I just treated them like anyone else with respect. They realized by themselves that I wasn't the kind of person they thought I was and they changed their attitude. My last suggestion is to keep writing your thoughts, the good ones and the bad ones. That help you to express what you feel. Talk is a good song to listen to. It encourages me to express what I keep on my mind. Best wishes, Isabel.

 

I'm sorry to hear things haven't been working out the way you'd hoped lately. You're going to a rough time right now and nothing I say will make you instantly feel better, because everyone experiences moments in their lives where they feel like things are going downhill for a while. But I do know one thing though, things will get better! Trust me they will. Talk to your parents about how your boyfriend made you happy, be open and honest with them and ask them to give him a fair chance. Find the time to talk to your boyfriend and let him know what happened. Tell your friends the rumor was false, talk things out with them. There's lots of forums on the internet filled with people who also love to draw, write and play the guitar, maybe you could try talking to them and share your creativity with them. It feels good to share you're passions with others in that way and it might make you feel better too. And don't forget, you're not alone in this. Good luck! Amanda

 

Thanks to all those who replied to this week's question. Remember, Team Oracle is open to anyone so if you fancy replying, click to read this week's, and send us your answer.

22 September 2014 / submitted by Amal, United Kingdom

Q. Dear the great Oracle,

Will Coldplay ever perform any songs from Parachutes ever again? I only ask because this is my favourite album of Coldplay and to hear them perform it again would mean the world to me.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Yes, I'd put money on it though I can't say what, when or where. They played Don't Panic and Yellow on the last tour.

 

22 September 2014 / submitted by John, United Kingdom

Q. Is this the official video for What If?

 

It's not from an official Coldplay account so I'm not sure, plus the person playing the piano doesn't seem to look like Chris.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

I think I may have answered this before as I recognise it but... FOURTEEN + MILLION?! Can't quite believe how many views this unofficial video has got. This is NOT endorsed by the band or the label neither does it feature Chris at the piano. There was no video for What If; it was a radio only single in select territories.

 

22 September 2014 / submitted by Crashnz, New Zealand

Q. via twitter

 

Coldplay's first producer Mike Beever (crashnz on twitter) releases 5th album of Music For Film.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Mike tweeted about his new album. For those who don't know who he is or where he fits into the Coldplay timeline, here's the story...

Mike engineered /produced Brothers and Sisters, Only Superstition and Easy to Please for the Fierce Panda release. In the words of Phil Harvey, he is "one of the good guys!"

 

Mike recalls, "I met the band in '99 and did a 3 track EP with them for Fierce Panda Records.

We did it over a weekend - locked ourselves in the studio and did all the backing tracks on the Saturday and then Chris's vocals Sunday and mixed it Monday - 200 quid all up. For the ambient track Easy to Please we had all 4 members in different rooms and the front doors open to capture the rain and thunder sounds. I played some keyboards on that track.

I developed a close bond with the band over a month and gave them a lift up to Oxford in my beat up car and saw them a couple of times in London.

I've watched their rise to the top with great pride - hugely talented bunch."

 

Chronologically Nikki Rosetti produced Coldplay's first tracks, (Safety EP), soon followed by Mike (Brothers & Sisters). Chris Allison was involved briefly (Blue Room EP) before Ken Nelson got on board for the album (Parachutes).

 

23 September 2014 / submitted by PrinceOfChina, United Kingdom

Q. Hello Oracle. I decided to go on YouTube and look up songs preformed on the Royal Albert Hall shows on July 1 and 2. I watched the legendary performance of Don't Panic where Jonny sang his verse like he did on the original track. Tell me, how did the rest of the band persuade "the shyest man in the universe" to sing his verse?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Jonny didn't need persuading because he always sings vocals on the second verse of Don't Panic - can't recall a time he didn't. The RAH shows weren't the first time on the Ghost Stories tour, they also played it on 26 April, 2014 in Baden-Baden, Germany.

Chris did make a big thing of it at the London shows and on the second night, made Jonny sing it more than once. I think it was just a bit of fun because it was the last show for a while.

 

23 September 2014 / submitted by Ana, United States of America

Q. Is the song Charlie Brown slightly based in the 1987 Joel Schumacher "The Lost Boys" movie?

I saw the movie again over the weekend and it was all very familiar. .... Took a car downtown where the lost boys meet and took what they offered me to set me free... coincidence?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

I haven't heard any reference to the film being an influence. As you may know, The Lost Boys are first and foremost characters in Peter Pan and Charlie Brown is a Peanuts character.

Many of you will know the working title for a while was Cartoon Heart before they settled on Charlie Brown, Charlie Brown being an original lyric that got dropped.

 

 

24 September 2014 / submitted by Jessica, United Kingdom

Q. What was the setlist for iheart radio festival?

Thanks!!

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

The iHeartRadio Music Festival set was short & sweet:

 

Clocks

Viva La Vida

Paradise

Ink

A Sky Full of Stars

 

24 September 2014 / submitted by Guido, Argentina

Q. Hi Oracle.

What is this? Ghost Stories: amgvjcnkjajrmyrm ?

Live 2012: ymcvjmajrnkcam

Mylo Xyloto: ?jmyamgnatrcvjj

Thanks.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

I know I have answered this before but... there was a little mistake in the last reply so as Guido has asked about all 3, here it is again.

 

They are all a variation of the same thing, Guido. They are credits for the partners, children - & their mothers - but in initial form.

 

You need to be very careful where you stick a question mark in this question by the way. A ? appears when there's a baby on its way! Hence the ? for Mylo Xyloto as R hadn't arrived.

 

 

24 September 2014 / submitted by Guillaume , France

Q. Hi Oracle!

 

In the clip True Love at 3:50 of the video we can see Chris and his partner dance, and in the background we see the decors representing a sun. Personally I find that the sun is behind a lot like the world of album cover Parachutes.

 

Thank you for the answer Oracle!

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

A few people have mentioned this. I can see what you mean but it's a sun and there is no intentional resemblance to the Parachutes globe cover. It's just a coincidence.

 

 

24 September 2014 / submitted by Jacob, United States of America

Q. Do you know if any members of the band have an opinion on Frank Ocean's cover of Strawberry Swing? Thanks!

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

I can't give you a direct quote on that specific cover but I can assume they like it because they invited Frank to open for their European shows on the MX tour in 2012. Sadly, he had to cancel.

 

25 September 2014 / submitted by Ihab, Jordan

Q. Is it possible to get the EPs of Coldplay before they were named Coldplay?

Thank you

 

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

No, there aren't any. The band didn't record or distribute Starfish demos.

 

25 September 2014 / submitted by Isabel, Mexico

Q. Hi dear Oracle!

 

It is my birthday on September 28, I know it's hard to say happy birthday to every coldplayer who asks this but I hope you answer it. Could you share with me and all coldplayers a beautiful, wonderful, amazing photo taken in the UK? This is my second favorite country and it'll be one of the special gifts I've been given.

 

Best wishes.

 

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Do you mean a photo of the band taken in the UK?

If you do, I have chosen one of the earliest photos of the band outdoors. Taken by Tom Sheehan for the Parachutes album shoot on Saturday 05 May 2000.

It is Blackpool - a seaside resort in the North West of England. They had played the night before (supporting Embrace) at the Blackpool Tower Ballroom in the iconic Blackpool Tower.

 

I have included some non-band related photos of the UK too.

25 September 2014 / submitted by Erik, Brazil

Q. Hi Oracle, I was wondering, back in 2000 when the boys were almost like anonymous, how did they get Shiver to the top 40 on UK?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Coldplay were already signed to Parlophone when Shiver was released and weren't unknown on the music scene although yes, they were new kids on the block (NOT actually New Kids On The Block.

Before a record is released, radio pluggers and TV/press promotion teams (either in-house at the label or out of house) are working away to get it written about and played on the radio /TV.

Coldplay had been championed early on by Steve Lamacq (& Jo Whiley) at Radio 1 and other stations followed suit. Shiver picked up radio airplay and that's why it charted at #35. That was by no means considered a hit by the way as it only just made the Top 40. Soon after Yellow was released. The band's profile was higher and gained them a #4 hit.

 

26 September 2014 / submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?

 

As you may know, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday we open questions of a personal nature to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.

 

ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to [email protected] before midnight Thursday 2 October.

 

Lately I've been feeling something strange. I haven't told anyone out of fear of sounding weird or dumb. Seeing people my age (I'm 18) who are famous and very successful (such as Lorde or Harry Styles) makes me wish I could have the success or happiness that they have. I've been feeling like because I am not famous, my life won't feel as significant or awesome, and I won't be able to do all of the cool things they get to do. Have you ever felt this? I'm curious to see your answer. Thank you. Gabby, USA.

 

Look forward to reading your replies.

 

The Oracle.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

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26 September 2014 / submitted by Francis, Germany

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #186

I've been going through a beautiful but also rather tough time this summer. My little sister developed a depression and hasn't been the same lately and although I'm positive about it and know it'll be alright again I sometimes feel guilty for departing from her because it affects me so much and it's hard finding energy every day to help her. I'm scared of being selfish! To which extent is it okay to think of my own well-being?

Thank you in advance.

 

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

What a tricky situation, Francis. As your sister didn't write to me, I'm afraid I can't advise her through you; I can only address your issue.

She's lucky to have you. How can you be selfish when you have written to me about your concern?

I don't think it's as easy as having a yardstick to measure an acceptable level of thinking of your own well-being. It's your life and it'd be pointless to be dragged down by someone else's troubles.

That said, it's natural to worry about your sister.

Unfortunately, unless your positivity transfers to her, it's not going to do much good because I'm sorry to say, you can't know it's going to be alright. I am a positive person too and believe that it can possibly be alright but she needs to work that out for herself. You can only try to help her if she is willing to accept it. There's not a lot you can do if she isn't.

You haven't mentioned your parents but it's their job to look after her so if they aren't aware of her depression, now might be the time to discuss it with them.

Your sister first needs a diagnosis from a doctor to establish whether she is depressed or just feeling down in a slump. It sounds like it's not been going on for long so maybe she's just going through a sad time.

If it's the latter without sounding harsh, try not to be an enabler. Sometimes people in this situation stay stuck there because of the attention and sympathy.

If I assume your sister wants to get better, she will need your love, understanding and encouragement. You may not be able to be with her physically every day but in today's world of technology, you'll never be that far away. Let her know you're there for her.

You can talk with her and your parents about her options and support her if she gets the help she needs but you can't fix it so there may be more tough times ahead before it can get better.

In the meantime, live your life without guilt and you can still be a great sister.

Over to you.

 

I have a friend that has a mental condition and often faces depressive periods. It breaks my heart every time I look at him and see in his eyes he is going through a depressive period again. But I know there's not much I can do, because he has a medical condition: I cannot prevent him to feel the way he does and I cannot make it stop.

The only thing you can do for your sister is letting her know you are there for her and doing small things (maybe something she asks you, maybe preparing some food: small but nice things). Since she has a medical condition, there is nothing you can do to avoid her suffering.

 

The fact that someone you love is going through such a terrible situation must be overwhelming. But it sounds like it affects you a lot and it's not selfish at all to take care of yourself too. Depression is not a battle that you can win for your sister. You cannot prevent her to feel the way she does. So taking some time apart is not bad; it doesn't mean that you are not there for her. It just means you took a minute to take a breath, to get some fresh air. You won't be able to be helpful in case your sister or your family needed something if you are not fine. And it wouldn't be helpful if your sister saw you feeling bad and associated it with her condition.

Hope it all goes well. Noelia, Argentina.

 

I have been through this and still go through it every single day. I don't know when exactly it's right to stop thinking about people and start thinking about myself. All I know is that you should try to divide your thoughts between you and others. Don't only think about people but also try not to make yourself all what you think about. As for your sister, I am glad you know its all going to be fine eventually. The only thing you need to know is that it will take some time so don't give up on her. If you're going through something like GCSEs or college, try to give yourself a little more time since this period of time can be very stressing. All in all, take care of yourself and make it one of (but not all) your priorities. I hope you'll be able to figure this puzzle called life out. Solaf.

 

I think that it's very important for you to think about your own well being. If you're a mess too, how are you going help her? I believe that depression is a very hard to go through and deal with, not only for the person that suffers it, but for those who are around as well. That angst can be kind of contagious and that it's not good for you or your sister. Allow yourself to take a breath of fresh air and disconnect. I'm going through the same thing actually, and I know it's not easy, I'm having a hard time following my own advice. I feel so useless sometimes, and I can even get so angry at my sister. I wish I could just shake it off her, but it doesn't work like that. Try to find a good balance, take care of yourself so you can be there for her as well. And as a last piece of advice, find someone you can talk to about it outside your own family, it helped me. I hope it gets better. Best, Caro.

 

I feel I can relate to your question, I have been on both sides of this coin. What I can tell you is it is really draining to be the person who cares for someone suffering from depression, you need to remember to care for yourself and do fun things that are just for you. Feeling guilty is a byproduct of depression, likely your sister feels guilty too and really may not want lot of attention. You may feel helpless and like you just want to make it go away but you can't. She is best helped by your support and by a trained professional counselor or mental health professional. You need to be on the look out for any sign she may bring harm to herself, be attentive and listen to what she says. Sometimes just being with someone who cares is enough support. It sounds like she is getting better but be aware it can resurface again, in fact once we have a depressive episode, chances are good it won't be our last. Be there for her, help her to look for help if she needs it. She will have good days and bad days, celebrate the good ones and ride out the bad ones. I wish you and her all the best as you deal with it, take care, Laurie.

 

Thinking of your own well-being should always be your first instinct, although I can understand how that can go in a different direction when dealing with a loved one's emotional problems. It is normal to feel you are not doing enough or being selfish, especially if you hold on to the belief that it is somehow in your power to get your sister out of the depression. She will walk on her journey, and you are there to accompany her - but you cannot walk this journey in her place... I don't have any advice for you, but I hope I was able to clarify the source of some of the feelings you're experiencing. Remember, you are there to help your sister (because you want to) but you must find where it is that your are 'not' in her story - and rejoice in finding out where the line is drawn between her depression and your life: you might find that your freedom lies in this. Also, keep in mind the depression hasn't taken over your sister's power, it is only a crisis and hopefully it will pass in its own time whilst making her stronger. Be happy you can be there for her in as much as you can - that you can be there for her is already a gift and I am sure she feels your presence is enough.

Lovingly, Irina from Montreal!

 

Of course it's ok to think of your own well-being! It's very sweet of you to be there for your sister and to support her through this difficult time. But you can't just drop everything that's going on in your own life. You must find a way to be there for her at certain times, but also continue with your own life or you'll end up getting depressed too. I'm sure your sister wouldn't want you to give up everything to be with her all day. Ask other relatives or friends to look out for her as well. You're not being selfish at all, time apart from her also gives you the chance to clear your mind. You can't really be of any help to her unless you help yourself first and keep your own life in order. Be there for her when she truly needs you, but make sure you get enough personal "me" time as well. Good luck! Amanda.

 

Thanks to all those who replied to this week's question. Remember, Team Oracle is open to anyone so if you fancy replying, click to read this week's, and send us your answer.

 

29 September 2014 / submitted by Jason, United Kingdom

Q. Hi Oracle

I have just returned from Las Vegas after seeing the wonderful Coldplay at the IHeart radio concert. I have been very lucky (and spent a fortune) to be able to have seen them in NY x2 , London & now Vegas

Whilst I was there I saw the local sights. Do any of the band get to see the local sights whilst they are in town i.e. being a tourist if they have time?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

I'm guessing the more times a band travels around the world, the less they see of it.

The schedules are quite tight so there's not a lot of tourist time worked in these days - the band rarely get to see the sights.

When I have travelled with the band, I had the opportunity to visit places on occasion but obviously that's less tricky when you're not recognised.

I have encountered attention arriving / leaving hotels and venues though and witnessed high speed chases by the paparazzi so it's not quite as simple as popping to Sugarloaf Mountain without it causing a commotion.

 

29 September 2014 / submitted by Princess of China, United States of America

Q. Hello to all!

Quick question:

Recently I visited Chris Martin's biography profile at Wikipedia.

And I noticed a big change!

Chris' name is listed as Christopher James John Martin ! Then lists his birth name, the name we know he by Christopher Anthony John. So my question is, Why the name change and is this official? Thanks a lot. Peace and love.

Say hi to the boys of Coldplay!

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

As you say, under the photo of Chris on the right hand side, it correctly gives his name as Christopher Anthony John Martin.

I love Wikipedia but it is not gospel and so anything you read there may not have been verified and isn't to be taken as 100% truth.

 

29 September 2014 / submitted by Bruno, Argentina

Q. Hello there! I just wanted to know what Parachutes song was WRITTEN first. I'm getting into music writing and recording, and Coldplay is one of my biggest inspirations.

Thank you!

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Don't Panic closely followed by High Speed. The former was always a consideration for the album but the latter wasn't. High Speed was an abandoned demo that was resurrected.

 

30 September 2014 / submitted by Anna, United States of America

Q. Dear Oracle;

 

There were these awesome leggings featured on the fanfare website under the "New in Store" display. However, I can't find them anywhere else on the site for sale/for purchase...

Do you know where I can find them? If they aren't available yet, do you have any idea what they are or when they are available?

:)

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

I must have missed those - not ringing any bells at all.

The shop is a separate entity so maybe ask via their contact form .

Alternatively, call them using the numbers give on the site.

 

30 September 2014 / submitted by Ethan, United States of America

Q. Hello Oracle,

 

Are The Darktones for hire?

What I mean is... Is there any chance in the world that Rik and Guy can be contacted with demo's, or would they only pursue a project they want to work on and not the other way around?

 

Ethan

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

They work on projects they love. They're always very busy even when not working with Coldplay that time wouldn't allow for demos to be submitted. It happens, but usually from an introduction, rather than an unsolicited demo.

 

30 September 2014 / submitted by Carlos , Mexico

Q. Hi Oracle, I was just listening to the Safety EP and then I wondered, why Coldplay haven't played any of those recordings live? Are they ashamed of they very early recordings?

 

Thanks. :)

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

They have played them, just not for a very long time. They're not ashamed at all - ah, actually, they'd probably never play Ode to Deodorant (the first song recorded after the Safety EP) because they do feel something - not ashamed but they agree it's not their finest work (I love it).

 

1 October 2014 / submitted by Simon, United Kingdom

Q. Hi Oracle. Whilst watching the Winter Olympics, in the men's Short programme figure skating, Germany's Peter Liebers did his routine to a version of Clocks that I've never heard, but enjoyed. It sounded mainly piano and violins, no lyrics and nothing else as far as I'm aware. Just wondering where would I find this version to download?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

That was great, wasn't it? There are many times when you may hear an instrumental version of a song whether as a soundbed or like here, as a performance piece, but I'm afraid those versions aren't available to download.

1 October 2014 / submitted by Simon, United Kingdom

Q. Hi Oracle. Whilst watching the Winter Olympics, in the men's Short programme figure skating, Germany's Peter Liebers did his routine to a version of Clocks that I've never heard, but enjoyed. It sounded mainly piano and violins, no lyrics and nothing else as far as I'm aware. Just wondering where would I find this version to download?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

That was great, wasn't it? There are many times when you may hear an instrumental version of a song whether as a soundbed or like here, as a performance piece, but I'm afraid those versions aren't available to download.

 

1 October 2014 / submitted by Eleanor, United States of America

Q. Love the ASFoS video, so joyful! Was it shot in one take to really give it a "live" feel? If not, it still feels that way.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Although it does look like it was filmed in one take, it actually wasn't.

 

1 October 2014 / submitted by Greg, United States of America

Q. I was listening to The Pierces last album, produced by Guy, and was wondering if the others produced albums for others. I think I read somewhere Jonny did work on a song, and I know there are several songs that Chris worked on, but are there any examples of entire albums they produced?

 

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Guy is the only member to fully produce an album despite all the guys having worked on other projects.

 

2 October 2014 / submitted by Tshepo, South Africa

Q. Hey Oracle

 

I was wondering in the video of ASFOS, what video was playing on the television sets as Chris was playing his guitar?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

As you may know, there was another video made before they went to Australia but the band didn't like it. What you can see on those TV sets in the shop window is a snippet of that ditched video.

 

October 2014 / submitted by Sarah, United Kingdom

Q. Hi dear Oracle,

 

We know that Chris had to convinced the band to include A Sky Full Of Stars in Ghost Stories.

Do you know why? Was the song written at the end of the Ghost Stories' process?

 

Cheers.THE ORACLE REPLIES >

They tried ASFOS many ways and Will, Guy & Jonny weren't completely convinced by the version that Chris was determined to release. It is is one of the first times that Chris was so adamant that they finally relented and agreed on the version. I have to admit, I wasn't sure either but Chris was right.

I believe it was written later in the session because Chris describes the song as being the light at the end of the tunnel; a happy ending of hope if you will. He said all the other songs lead to ASFOS.

2 October 2014 / submitted by Maida, Chile

Q. Hi Oracle!

A few days ago I was searching for videos in YouTube and I saw one in which was Chris and the actor of Spiderman kissing... omg is this really true?

 

thanks,

Maida.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Truth... well, it's true that it happened but it was a set-up joke on a U.S TV show.

Andrew Garfield and Emma Stone (& Chris) were guests on Saturday Night Live back in May (2014). There was a skit where Andrew & Emma were recreating a Spiderman film scene that involved kissing. The premise was they couldn't get it right which is when Chris stepped in to say that he can show them how it's done. That's how the kiss* came about.

*Chris was wearing a wig.

 

3 October 2014 / submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?

 

As you may know, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday we open questions of a personal nature to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply. This week, I have chosen a broader Q which may - or may not - have an emotional attachment.

 

ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to [email protected] before midnight Thursday 9 October.

 

Do you have a favourite line of lyrics from any of the Ghost Stories songs? And from any of the other era songs? Is there any particular line that always gets to you? Thanks in advance if you answer this! Love from India. Teresa. x

 

Look forward to reading your replies.

 

The Oracle.

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3 October 2014 / submitted by Gabby, United Kingdom

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #187

Lately I've been feeling something strange. I haven't told anyone out of fear of sounding weird or dumb. Seeing people my age (I'm 18) who are famous and very successful (such as Lorde or Harry Styles) makes me wish I could have the success or happiness that they have. I've been feeling like because I am not famous, my life won't feel as significant or awesome, and I won't be able to do all of the cool things they get to do. Have you ever felt this? I'm curious to see your answer. Thank you.

 

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

I have never felt this way but will try to offer some help.

Some people achieve and succeed through talent, determination, hard work but usually a little luck thrown in.

I can understand a desire to be able to do cool stuff but I don't equate it with being famous.

If there is something you want to buy, save for it. If there's something you want to do, learn how to do it. You can make it happen for you just as they did if you REALLY want it - once you work out what your "it" is.

If you do have a talent (in any field), there's no reason you can't get to the same level as Lorde, Harry et al.

If not, why not find a project to work on. You could be raising awareness for a great cause or finding funding for a scheme or giving your time to a charity. That's worthwhile in my book.

Celebrity does bring opportunities but it's not unattainable for us mere civilians. I wouldn't want to be famous for any amount of money in the world!

Rather than feel envious about wealthy celebrities your age, why not take some motivation from it to achieve whatever your goal is? Just be the best you can be. Money does not necessarily bring happiness. Perhaps you should concentrate on what makes you happy and if it's money, maybe you need to find something more worthwhile to focus on.

Only you can make your life significant so don't waste it - go out and do amazing things. Every small thing you do can be significant. You can make changes and make it count but please try not to get fixated on the transience of fame and its trappings. There is more to life than celebrity. Find what makes you happy and let go of the comparisons.

Over to you.

 

Yes.. I thought of it and felt it too sometimes. Like why other people my age are seems to be more successful than me. Like.. why are they like this and why I'm not like that. But even though they seem to be more successful (like Lorde or Harry Styles) than I am. I don't feel less significant or awesome. Why? Because I have with me the people that makes me feel significant and awesome. The people who you love and loves you back. It doesn't mean that you cant do awesome stuff because your not famous. You just have to work hard for it to achieve it you know.. Like what other always say "Work hard, Play harder". You're 18, you're still young and probably studying. You can still be able to get the cool things if you focus on setting your goals. You can have the success in life if you have goals. and I think it'll be best if you don't compare yourself to other people's achievements because we all have the ability to do what they can do. You just have to have your dreams faith eagerness to achieve that.

Hope this answer you question. Wish you the best! Love, Shaine from Philippines.

 

Yes Gabby everyone has thought of fame at least once in their lifetime. Some have thought of it for the fun, some for the money, others just for pure curiosity. I have gone through that phase, but coming to think of it, fame isn't all about people loving you and tonnes of cash, fame has a dark, dark side to it. When one is at this stage in life (teenage phase) and becomes famous, they tend to become frustrated and act somewhat unlike themselves, due to this phase being the most delicate and sensitive phase in one's life. Yes you can use fame in good ways (such as the charitable Coldplay) but that's not how most teenagers think. I would love to be famous, as I am very much inspired by Coldplay. I know it's hard and that it comes with so many cons, but being able to do what I love and at the same time help people means the entire world to me. Solaf.

 

Anyone who pays attention to the history of music or show business in general knows that fame doesn't guarantee happiness or fulfilment. Look at how many artists have become addicts or killed themselves despite their success.

Instead of seeking fame, seek a path that will fulfil you. Ask yourself, what makes me delighted? What fascinates me so much that time disappears when I'm engaged in that activity? What do you like to share with people you care about?

Fame is a by-product of being fabulous at what you do (hopefully) and not a goal. Find your own happiness and follow it, if fame follows, you'll need to deal with a laundry list of other issues. If it doesn't, maybe you'll just be really happy. Jamie.

 

I understand what you're talking about. I'm 24 and I've read about the campaign Emma Watson is supporting. So here I have a huge example of success. But the point is not feeling sad because you don't have what others have. Every one on their fields have achieved their goals; it doesn't matter how much impact it has in the society. I believe every single human being has given a mission or a talent (either you believe in God or the universe, etc). We're here for a reason, it could be to become a singer, an actor, a teacher or it could be to make people happy, to give advice (thanks Oracle), to support everyone in the hardest times. Sometimes all we have to do is to follow our hearts. If you think you can become a famous singer or actress look for it. Nothing comes for itself. We have to work hard to make our dreams come true. And remember this envy is one of the most horrible feelings. Happiness could be find in the simplest things, but if you start to wish what other people have you won't see it. All you need to make cool things is to enjoy what you have because even those who have suffered have found the way to live and enjoy life. Never give up, Isabel.

 

I've felt this way before. In fact, I've gone into some deep-ish depression because of that among other things. You gotta keep in mind that everything you do, good or bad, big or small, affects others. For instance, one of my sister's old friends, who I haven't seen or talked to in a long time, has a little brother. His family went to one of my ice hockey games (when I still played hockey). He soon started to play it and became very good. Recently, I went on Twitter and stumbled upon my sister's friend's account. She had posted something about her little brother winning a hockey tournament, and I thought to myself, "I had a major part in this role." I might not have known it, but something I did, not even directly, played a big role in his life. Taylor.

 

Well-known feeling here, too.

But think about this: they pay a price for being famous.

They have less private life than "normal " persons. Who does really know if they are REALLY happy when they are out of the spotlights ?

I guess everyone in the world has his own part in the world and a life-task and you have to find it..maybe you will search all your life for it.

But I don't think that your life will be less significant. You can have fun with your family & friends and for someone you love and who loves you back you will always be ( one of ) the most important person (s). Success has many faces .

Search for little luck instead of waiting for big luck, my Grandma always told me.

All the best. Maren.

 

First of all what I wanna say to you is be your self and try to get things out of your life for the best. You are already amazing without being famous, and being jealous is the worst thing. It looks like you aren't happy with your self. Try to find your own luck, you can do it.

I think it's not everything to being famous it's really hard work. Got one more thing to say, live your own life, take it with your both hands because there's only one you! Take care and good luck! Greetzz Marianne.

 

First of all, you don't sound weird or dumb Gabby no worries. I think almost everyone has a period in their lives where they wish they were famous. Keep in mind though that fame doesn't necessarily equal happiness. On TV and in front of the cameras Lorde and Harry Styles may seem very happy and awesome, but that doesn't mean everything is always going well for them. Take Robin Williams for example. On TV he was always funny and seemed to be doing great, but in real life he was depressed and not happy with his life at all. Maybe you can't do the exact same things they do, but that doesn't mean your life can't be significant or awesome. Life is what you make of it. We can't all be famous, but we can definitely all be awesome and enjoy what we do have! Good luck! Amanda.

Ps: It's never to late to have a go at stardom if you really want to.

 

Thanks to all those who replied to this week's question. Remember, Team Oracle is open to anyone so if you fancy replying, click to read this week's, and send us your answer.

 

6 October 2014 / submitted by Georgie, United Kingdom

Q. Recently I bought a Yellow EP, with a cardboard case, with the words 'your skin and bones turn into something beautiful' on the inside front cover. However other people seem to have a plastic case version of the same EP? Why was there two different versions?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

If it is indeed an official item, I would imagine you have a promo single, not an E.P, though I have never seen one fitting that description. I've seen a promo in a yellow card sleeve but nothing gatefold, that opened up.

 

6 October 2014 / submitted by Isabelle, Netherlands

Q. Dear Oracle,

 

I think everyone who bought Ghost Stories can agree with the following: Midnight is a very unique song. I didn't knew any other artists who made music in Midnight's style. A few days ago I noticed that Jon Hopkins' music does sound a bit like Midnight. So, was Midnight inspired by Jon Hopkins, or did Coldplay really create a new 'style' on its own?

 

Isabelle, Netherlands

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

It's not a new style; Jon nor the band invented it but the ambient Midnight was based upon a previously unreleased song - Amphora - and another track both written by Jon. He's a highly talented fella & we love him.

 

ctober 2014 / submitted by Ethan, United States of America

Q. Hello Oracle!

I hope that you have been doing well lately!

I was listening to the song Low and during I believe before the 2nd verse there appears to be a metallic sound in the background. Can you tell me more about that sound?

Thanks so much, I really enjoy looking at your responses everyday!

Ethan:)THE ORACLE REPLIES >

It's not metallic; it's actually crystal wine glasses.

 

7 October 2014 / submitted by Yannick , Mexico

Q. Dear Oracle, in the Parachutes era had be attemped to change the name of Coldplay to another one?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

No, in 1998 the band changed their name from Starfish to The Coldplay. By the end of the year, they had dropped "The" and Coldplay was their name. There were no further discussions to change it after that.

 

7 October 2014 / submitted by Peter, United Kingdom

Q. Hello Oracle,

 

Is the lyric "Living in Perfect Symmetry" from Low a nod to the Keane album?

 

Thanks, Peter.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

No. That would be impossible unless Coldplay had a crystal ball*. Perfect Symmetry by Keane came out THREE years after X&Y.

It's not a unique phrase.

 

*Crystal Ball was 1 year later than X&Y but couldn't resist.

 

7 October 2014 / submitted by Diego, Spain

Q. Hi Oracle! I have finally completed my Coldplay CD collection, but somehow I feel like it's not enough. I know you have been asked a lot about this kind of songs, but could you please write a list with all the B-sides and unreleased songs ever recorded by the band? Thanks a lot, and please continue supporting us "best fans in the world" with your awesome help for a looong long time!

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

B sides are listed with the singles in our Recordings section along with all other official releases. There are a few EPs that may be hard to come by these days (due to being limited in number) but I'm afraid your coveted collection may always remain incomplete. Unreleased tracks aren't supposed to be available which is why I won't list them. There are LOTS but I've seen a pretty comprehensive list online elsewhere so you'll be able to find out what they are even if you won't be able to get hold of a copy.

 

October 2014 / submitted by Anthony, United States of America

Q. Why does Chris have a piece of tape covering the Air Jordan logo on his sneakers while performing? THE ORACLE REPLIES >

That must have been for a TV performance. Some channels have stringent advertising policies and won't show labels or logos in case it's seen as promotion. Not that Chris is endorsing a brand but as some companies pay for such exposure, it's not wise for the TV stations to have product placement.

 

8 October 2014 / submitted by Lauren, United States of America

Q. Helloooo Dearest Oracle,

 

Next year as you know is the 15th Birthday of Parachutes. Any chance of a greatest hits tour? 15 years of Coldplay. Is this something the band has even talked about or considered? Would be a grand idea in my opinion.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Fifteen years, blimey! I always think that Greatest Hits feels like a finale. It's not really the band's style to do a tour just of greatest hits; there'll be new music to play when they next hit the road, with some hits thrown in.

 

 

8 October 2014 / submitted by Chris, United Kingdom

Q. During the X & Y era, Penny Howle (tour photographer?) took photos of Coldplay. I have recently obtained one of these photos which is signed by all of the Coldplay members. Apparently Coldplay sent these to fan's upon request, some of which are even personalised. Can you confirm this is true? It would help all of us budding collectors out there! Thanks Oracle.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Penny was the tour photographer and I know the photo - I have it right here. There were signed photos but very few would have been personalized. Even back in 2005, the demand for photos was high and it wasn't possible to dedicate them individually. There are some forgeries out there but hopefully yours is genuine.

 

9 October 2014 / submitted by Lea, Germany

Q. Hello lovely Oracle,

I have a question to an unreleased song called Wedding Bells Chris played on an Apple Event once. Some people in the internet say that it became UFO, some others say it became Christmas Lights. What is true?

Thanks for your help, greetings from Germany! :)

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

I don't really hear any resemblance between Wedding Bells (2009) and UFO (2011) but I can certainly hear similarities to Christmas Lights (2010). Before the Apple event in 2010, a clip of Wedding Bells appeared in 2009 on The South Bank Show.

It's not that Wedding Bells "became" another song but it was a work in progress and elements lyrically & sonically ended up being incorporated into Christmas Lights.

 

9 October 2014 / submitted by Andreia, Brazil

Q. Have Coldplay ever been hypnotized before recording a song? I've heard about that before but I'm not sure if it's true.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

It's true but it wasn't before one particular song; it was during the Viva recording sessions.

Here's what Jonny & Chris said about it.

 

JB: "Brian Eno knew a hypnotist and we thought it might get some interesting results. We all went upstairs, sat down, and he walked around us. He got us into some strange kind of trance, and we came down and played some more."

 

CM: "Quite a long time, I think. It did work, actually. We came up with a lot of interesting noises, which we used. I think the whole process of getting our own place and working with Brian has been really liberating for us. Because it was starting to become a little difficult to be in Coldplay - there's so much opinion, expectation, and criticism. We wanted to be free from that for a bit, to try things and just be a little group, which Brian really spearheaded. So things like the hypnotism, all these little crazy experiments that he tried with us was just an effort to say, 'It's OK. Not everybody hates you because you're in Coldplay. Just play some music and don't worry about it.'"

 

Chinese Sleep Chant has been mentioned as a song written after the experience but I can't confirm that.

10 October 2014 / submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?

 

As you may know, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday we open questions of a personal nature to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.

 

ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to [email protected] before midnight Thursday 16 October.

 

In the last months my life seems to be a bit flat. I often feel sad, weak, empty. It's like something's missing, maybe happiness.

I really need to change the situation because I don't think I would stand it any longer. What can I do?

Ivana, Italy.

 

Look forward to reading your replies.

 

The Oracle.

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10 October 2014 / submitted by Teresa, India

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #188

Do you have a favourite line of lyrics from any of the Ghost Stories songs? And from any of the other era songs? Is there any particular line that always gets to you?

Thanks in advance if you answer this! Love from India.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

This was such a popular question, Teresa.

It's so hard to look back over 16 years and choose one (as you will see below) so I'll go with the most recent.

The first lyric that popped into my head anyway was "Tell me you love me, if you don't then lie, oh lie to me". The first time I heard that, it punched me in an animated Batman KAPOW painful way (True Love from Ghost Stories).

I've mentioned before that I have always loved, "I'd rather be a comma than a full stop" from Every Teardrop Is A Waterfall (MX). It stood out immediately and I can relate to that.

Even though I've had a week to think about it, I'm sure I'll kick myself later when another one comes to mind!

Over to you.

p.s. Teresa herself replied - see further down.

 

My favourite Lyrics from the GS-Era is from the track Ghost Story, and my favourite line in that song: 'What's the point of feeling love for you when you don't believe I'm here?' Impossible love, a well-known problem.

I think the way Coldplay connects a Ghost to people who are invisible to the person they love, is very cool.

It is my favourite lyrics of all eras, though I also love Viva la Vida's lyrics. It's a lyric about the French Revolution (I think), which is one of my favourite aspects in history. In the French Revolution, the King was dethroned and killed, as well as all the nobility. Most of the stories tell that was good, but Coldplay lyrics shows the 'other side' of the story, in a beautiful way (with some awesome music).

Isabelle, the Netherlands.

 

Oh dear! Once I laid eyes on this question I couldn't help but think of -not one- but three of the most beautiful Coldplay lines that always get me shivering. One is "I wouldn't change a single thing" in Til Kingdom Come. It reminds me of how I strongly feel about Coldplay. The second line holds a very special place in my heart, since it saved my life from being taken away by myself. This is "I'll start before I can stop, or before I see things the right way up." in Speed of Sound. It made me realise that I hadn't even started living life and already wanted to end it, therefore changing my whole outlook on life. The third and final one, is the short and sweet lyrics to O part 2. "Oh, don't ever let go" I think of it whatever I am stressed or angry and it hits me so hard and makes me feel much stronger. I have so many more tales I can tell, due to Coldplay speaking in such metaphors that explain everything I go through in the journey of life. Due to bounds being put, I can only tell those. Stay lovely! Solaf.

 

On Ghost Stories, I have so many favourite lines I couldn't possibly list them all. But a few include, Ink, "Just want a way of keeping you inside;" True Love, "Remember once upon a time/ When I was yours and you were blind/ A fire would sparkle in your eyes/ And mine;" A Sky Full of Stars, "I don't care, go on and tear me apart;" and the entire song of Always in my Head.

Sorry I couldn't be more accurate, but it's just that I love Coldplay and every song line that comes with them. Victoria.

 

Last year was my first year away from home at college, and I was feeling really torn up and homesick about it when I heard Midnight for the first time. 'Millions of miles from home' really summed up how I felt then, but it made me feel so comforted and secure to hear 'Leave a light on' because I know I'll always have a loving home to go back to. Emily.

 

My favorite line is the one out of Magic. "Call it magic, call it true, when I'm next to you." This is the way I feel when our son Jazz was born. It felt like magic!

Love from the Netherlands, Samantha.

 

Yes I actually do have a favorite line from Ghost Stories Album. It's "I still believe in Magic, Yes I do, of course I do." Because I do believe that anything is possible and everything can happen if you have Determination and Positivity and all that. But the lyric that always gets to me is from "EVERY TEARDROP IS A WATERFALL" still from Coldplay, and it goes like this. "I feel my heart stop beating to my favorite song". I think you already know the answer why this is my lyric feels. Since I'm a huge fan of Coldplay and a music enthusiast every time I hear them (Coldplay or to "my other" favorite Bands e.g. Coldplay) on radio or see them on MTV or other music channels. I always feel like my heart skips a beat or (exaggerated may it seem) will pop out over my chest. So yep, I hope this answers your question. Wish you the best! :) Love, Shaine from Philippines! x

 

'Tell me you love me; if you don't, then lie.'

This reminds me of my first relationship and my current one.

I can't begin to describe what emotions are evoked when I listen to True Love: joy, pain, paranoia combined. Orlagh.

 

The first time I heard Always in my Head, the last lyric stood out to me and made me tear up a little: "This, I guess, is to tell you you're chosen out from the rest." I really love it because I want someone to love me and always think of me like the song says. It just hit close to my heart when I hear it and think that I don't have someone to love me like that yet. But my all-time favorite lyric is from Lovers in Japan because it has been my saving grace on moments where I've felt like there was no hope or happiness: "Dreaming of the Osaka sun... dreaming of when the morning comes." It always reminds me that I have to keep on trying because it will get better.

Love, Jo from the U.S.

 

Death And All His Friends is the song that pulled me to love Coldplay, and I love the line "no I don't want to battle from beginning to end no I don't want to cycle or recycle revenge no I don't want to follow death and all of his friends"

From Ghost Stories my favorite lyric is "tell me you love me. If you don't then lie. Lie to me" because it has so much emotion. Brooklynn.

 

My favorite line of lyric of all time has to be "Questions of science, science and progress, do not speak as loud as my heart" from The Scientist. It hits home every time I hear it and is the reason that is my absolute favorite song. Sha.

 

My favorite lyric from Ghost Stories is probably the chorus (I think) from Fly On (O).

'Fly on, ride through, maybe one day, I can fly with you...'

Overall though, I'd have to say Parachutes is my favorite lyric-wise.

'In the haze, in the stormy haze, I'll be 'round, I'll be loving you always, always...' Taylor.

 

From Ghost Stories my favourite lines are "My body moves, goes where I will / But though i try, my heart stays still" and "Fly on, ride through / Maybe one day I'll fly next to you". There's just something so simple about the lyrics from Ghost Stories that really gets me.

Other than that, I think X&Y is the best album lyrically - I especially love the lyrics from Square One ("Under the surface trying to break through / Deciphering the codes in you"), White Shadows ("You're part of the human race / All of the stars in the outer space"), Fix You ("When you lose something you can't replace"), and Swallowed In The Sea ("And I could write a song / A hundred miles long"). Rhys.

 

Where do I begin??? One lyric that spoke to me many years ago and was a catalyst for a huge life change, was a line from Fix You, "If you never try, you'll never know just what you're worth". Those lyrics spoke to me and caused me to embark on a path that led to me finding my wonderful husband.

I could go on for an hour about how lyrics have touched me. Every era had lyrics I have loved but more recently ASFOS really came at an opportune time. I had been going through a depression and it honestly felt like a warm blanket around my troubled soul, even now as I face more challenges the line "cause you get lighter the more it gets dark" and "I think I see you" speak to me in dark moments.

It is wonderful to feel connected to such lovely music. I hope it never ends. Laurie.

 

Speaking about Coldplay lyrics, I want to name Green Eyes song. It is written purely about my feelings to one wonderful girl. In my time of difficulty she became a light I fell in love in, with her beautiful green eyes. No more words, just that I love her. "The green eyes, you're the one I always wanted to find".

Andy, Odessa.

 

I have so many favourite lyrics lines from every Coldplay Album, it's very hard to choose.

Entire lyrics of Fix You.

"I know that everything's not lost" - Everything's Not Lost.

"Nobody said it was easy" - The Scientist.

"Do you feel like a puzzle?

You can't find your missing piece" - Talk.

"Just because I'm losing

Doesn't mean I'm lost" - Lost!

"When she was just a girl,

She expected the world,

But it flew away from her reach,

So she ran away in her sleep." - Paradise.

"I'd rather be a comma than a full stop " - ETIAW.

"A simple plot but I know one day

Good things are coming our way " - Up with the birds.

"And I call it magic

And I call it true" - Magic.

"Every time I try to walk through walls

More walls appear

What's the point of feeling love for you

When you don't believe I'm here?

What's the point of trying to raise your voice

If no one ever hears?

Every time I try to pull you close

You disappear" - Ghost Story.

"You want to stop before you begin

You want to sink when you know you could swim

You want to stop just before you begin

Never give in; never give in" - Crests of Waves.

"So fly on, ride through,

maybe one day I'll fly next to you" - O.

But one line means soo much to me from Ghost Stories hidden track... DON'T EVER LET GO. When I listened to Chris during Zane Lowe interview, it was very clear to me.

I got a tattoo of these lyrics. Maren, Germany.

 

I really like the way the line, "Tell me you love me, if you don't then lie" was delivered in True Love, both for what it says and the melody with which it is sung. It really does sting you when you hear that, doesn't it?

My favourite line from all the albums so far though, would definitely have to be:

"Bullets fly, split the sky. But that's alright, sometimes sunlight comes streaming through the holes."

I've easily listened to this song at least 70 times and it still gives me goosebumps whenever I listen to that part. What an incredible line!

Having said that, I think X & Y and Viva la Vida were the two albums where I saw Coldplay's lyrical best. Suhit.

 

"Every one of is scared, everyone of us is hurt. Everyone of us has hope, for you."

For You, Parachutes era.

"Here I am and I'll wait in line, always..."

Parachutes, Parachutes era.

"So I crawl back into your open arms."

Warning Sign, A Rush of Blood to the Head era.

"Give me strength; reserve control..."

Politik, A Rush of Blood to the Head era.

"I tried to sing but I couldn't think of anything."

The Hardest Part, X&Y era. Haya.

 

"Tell me you love me, come back and hunt me" always gets me because it's so deep and beautiful, and I love it

Bye, Rui.

 

I threw this question up because one of the big reasons I've always loved Coldplay is their lyrics. Chris consistently manages to come up with the most beautiful metaphors and imagery that somehow describe exactly what someone is going through. You can't help but be moved when the words are so powerful and heartfelt.

Parachutes holds a special place in my heart for the simple and strong message it carries. I also turn to Coldplay's music whenever I want to feel uplifted, or to be filled with hope, and the lyrics do just that: "...I came here with a load, and it feels so much lighter now I met you..." from Green Eyes, and this line from Amsterdam: "...stood on the edge, tied to the noose, you came along and you cut me loose..." That one is like a gut-punch every time I hear it.

My all-time favourite lyrics, however, are from Moving to Mars. It's just one of the most beautiful songs I've ever heard.

"Somewhere up above the stars

The wreckage of a universe floats past

Somewhere up above my heart

A tiny little seed is sown, a government is overthrown,

Who knows when we'll be coming home at last..."

Thanks to everyone who shared their favourite lyrics!

Love from India, Teresa.

 

My most favourite line of lyrics from a Coldplay song are the last lines from Amsterdam:

"Stood on the edge, tied to the noose.

You came along, and you cut me loose."

Two years ago I felt really depressed, I lost my mom due to cancer, and I just didn't know what to do with myself.

Until I met the love of my life, my girlfriend. She managed to pull me through it, and I think this song really describe that

feeling that I felt. And she's from Amsterdam so that's really cool!

I want to thank Saja, my girlfriend, for being there for me, and Coldplay, for making such beautiful music!

Greetings from the Netherlands! Bram.

 

That's a great question you asked, it's interesting to see what words move several people living in separate places. But it's hard to choose though.

I can't have a favourite Coldplay song or line because they all have a special meaning to me, but here are three that always make me stop and (re)think:

"Lovers keep on the road you're on, runners until the race is run" - Lovers in Japan.

"All you ever wanted was love but you never looked hard enough"- Low.

"Still I always look up to the sky, pray before the dawn" - O.

Although they come from different eras they can kinda be connected through the same idea (at least for me):

If you want to achieve something, never lose trust or faith, and keep in mind that everything worth having requires time and work, nothing is free and God-given. Sometimes you can be sad and lost, and you may think that everyone is against you, but it's you who's creating your life and your path. And if you choose a path, if you have a dream, then stick to it and do anything to make it possible ("until the race is run") because there is no greater feeling than accomplishing something you've worked on hard and creating something that didn't exist before. The line from O is to wrap it all up with freedom-live and let live, let go, have hope and remember: "Suffering teaches sweet understanding".

Sajra, Bosnia and Herzegovina.

 

Oh absolutely there are so many Coldplay lyrics that hold special meaning to me. Here are just a few...

Ink's "Just wanted a way of keeping you inside."

Speed of Sound's "How long do I have to climb up on the side of this mountain of mine."

White Shadow's "Maybe you get what you wanted. Maybe you'll stumble upon it. Everything you've ever wanted in a permanent state. Maybe you'll know it when you see it. Maybe if you say it you'll mean it and when you find it, you'll keep it in a permanent state."

Gravity's "And then I looked up at the sun and I could see, oh the way that gravity pulls on you and me. And then I looked up at the sky and saw the sun, and the way that gravity pushes on everyone... on everyone."

Shiver's "I know you don't listen to me cause you say you see straight through me, don't you?"

Hurts Like Heaven's "You use your heart as a weapon, and it hurts like heaven."

Clock's "Confusion that never stops. The closing walls and the ticking clocks are gonna come back and take you home and I couldn't stop that and you now know.."

Much love, Miranda.

 

My all time favourite lyrics are "Is there anybody out there who is lost and hurt and lonely too, are they bleeding all your colours into one?"

When I'm feeling wrecked and useless and unwanted they remind me that I'm not alone in how I feel and that there are always people out there who understand, I just need to reach out to the right people. Sam.

 

Always In My Head's first few lines somehow seemed to work with how I was feeling when I first heard it...

"I think of you, I haven't slept, I think I do but, I don't forget".

Thanks, Marcus.

 

My favourite still is and always will be: "If you never try, you'll never know just what you're worth" from Fix You(X&Y). It reminds me that sometimes you have to dare to take risks in order to grow or move forward in your life. It's a bit similar to "start as you mean to go on" from A Rush of Blood to the Head, which reminds me that if I want to achieve a certain goal, I'll succeed if I put all my effort in it and try my very best from the beginning. I know that doesn't always make sense, cause some goals you do achieve and others you don't, but I like to think positive everytime I start something new. There are a lot of great quotes in Coldplay songs, my favourite from Ghost Stories is probably: "In the darkness before the dawn, leave a light on" from Midnight. Amanda.

 

One song that has always struck a chord with me is "In My Place," as it perfectly describes a time in my life where things were not going okay. Basically, I was in a job situation where I was treated unfairly and somewhat persecuted for reasons that I still am not sure about. Then, in my desperation I found that I was indeed "scared, tired and under prepared," and indeed, "lost." I was trying to hold onto something that was slipping out of my hands. Eventually, despite harassment complaint and having a lot of colleagues speak on my behalf I was released. I exited with grace but I was lost for a long time. I went for a walk one day when I first discovered Coldplay and "In My Place," came on and it really resonated with me. That was me and how I felt. The words fit the situation perfectly for me and the way the music intertwined with my emotions was amazing. I used to listen to the song and walk on shores of Lake Superior and it was then I felt like I was able to identify my feelings, my situation and the song provided me with reassurance. This is why I still to this day love and listen to Coldplay. There are many other songs by Coldplay that hit me the same way. But there will always be a "place" for me in that song, even though I have moved on. By Marcia in Duluth, MN.

 

I'll choose two lines of lyrics one from Ghost Stories and the other from Mylo Xyloto. The first one is taken from O. 'Don't ever let go' is the kind of message everyone should take into account in their lives. It reminds me I have to work hard to make my wishes come true because it doesn't matter how difficult it seems as long as I fight for it I'll get what I want. The second one is from Every Teardrop Is A Waterfall. The first two songs I listen to by Coldplay being aware of who they are, were Paradise and ETIAW. There were other songs I listened to but I wasn't that real music fan who paid attention to radio songs and their singers as I'm now. So when I listened to ETIAW it made me think about what I wanted to achieve in my life. Specially, the line 'I rather be a comma than a full stop' had a big impact in the way I was setting my goals. It seems we're leaving in a world where power, money and intolerance are the most important things to succeed. That's something I don't want around me; I believe love and happiness will be near as long as you give it without asking for it. I'm not sure about the meaning of the lyrics as I'm not an English speaker but every time I listen to it I know I want to be more than a girl who wants to succeed. I want to be someone who shows that happiness can be found in the simplest things and that brings hope and peace for everything we do.

Be a comma and don't ever let go, Isabel.

 

"I'd rather be a comma than a full stop" - Every Teardrop is a Waterfall / Mylo Xyloto. Ozlem.

 

Always In My Head feels so personal, like Chris sings it right to me and no one else. "This, I guess, is to tell you you're chosen out from the rest..."

Lyrics from O makes me think of my father. He died in a drowning accident in 1996. I miss him very much but I am sure that we will meet again when it is time for me to say good bye to this world.

"So fly on

Ride through

Maybe one day I'll fly next to you

Fly on, ride through

Maybe one day I can fly with you"

Paradise reminds me of my childhood when I used to fly away in my thoughts and dreams.

"When she was just a girl

She expected the world

But it flew away from her reach

So she ran away in her sleep

Dreamed of para- para- paradise

Every time she closed her eyes"

Talk has followed me a long time. Especially when I was younger and felt insecure.

"Are you lost or incomplete?

Do you feel like a puzzle, you can't find your missing piece?

Tell me how do you feel?

Well, I feel like they're talking in a language I don't speak

And they're talking it to me"

And finally, the brilliant lyrics from Fix You's 1st verse & chorus.

Love, Ann-Sofie, Sweden.

 

All of Viva La Vida. #inspired

Branwen.

 

I have a special feeling for Amsterdam because the melody is so beautiful and mean a lot to me. The line "Come on, oh my star is fading and I swerve out of control" reminds me when I was about 11 years old and those years I had so many family problems including my parents yelling to each other every single day and then getting separated (they got together again later) and as a child I always felt so lonely and helpless. I don't remember how many times I lock myself in the bathroom to cry and the only thing that made me feel better was listening to this song. The piano and Chris voice was so relaxing that somehow it's like the song was telling me "calm down, it's going to be okay". I love it so much, it really means everything to me and I hope one day I could see them live playing it. This is why I love this band so much! Please tell them to never stop doing such beautiful songs as Amsterdam. Daniela, Chile.

 

Thanks to all those who replied to this week's question. Remember, Team Oracle is open to anyone so if you fancy replying, click to read this week's, and send us your answer.

13 October 2014 / submitted by Christien , United States of America

Q. During the small Ghost Stories tour, Coldplay had their old keyboard standing in the middle of their sets. Is there a reason they do that? Thanks again.

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There's nothing on stage that they don't use - except when the set list is changed last minute. For example, when the band played the Enmore Theatre in Australia, the Reactable etc. were set up but they didn't have time to perform Midnight - in lieu of the Kylie duets - so the equipment wasn't used.

 

13 October 2014 / submitted by Pablo, United States of America

Q. Hi dear Oracle!

Does Ode to Deodorant count as an official Coldplay recording? Because in the recording section of the webpage I couldn't find it.

Thank You!!

Pablo.

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No. The Recordings section of the site only includes official full releases of singles, E.Ps and albums. Demo recordings don't count - apart from Safety as this was still seen as a professional release despite it being a self-financed / self-released without a label.

13 October 2014 / submitted by Taylor, United States of America

Q. Hey Oracle!

 

Two questions (the latter formed whilst thinking of the first). One, would you happen to have one of the 500* (I think) copies of the Safety EP? I only ask because of your more than likely closer ties to the band than most people or fans. Two, would you consider Safety EP the hardest Coldplay paraphernalia to get?

 

*I'd suppose, because it's from their early days when they weren't well known, that some might have not thought it up to par and trashed it (this is a scary thought).

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One - yes, I do. It's named as a separate item on my home insurance as possibly the single highest value item I own.

Two - Yes, absolutely, due to its limited number. There was only one pressing - unlike the Fierce Panda Brothers & Sisters EP that a had a re-run.

 

As Coldplay were unknown it may have been "lost" in the great number of demos that DJs, press, label personnel receive but I doubt any would have been thrown away once heard - even by those who didn't love it, including the A&R man who eventually signed them.

Family & friends also got copies but I suspect quite a few went stray one way or another so doubt there are even 500 copies out there.

 

14 October 2014 / submitted by Millie, United Kingdom

Q. Hey Oracle, I heard that the song The Goldrush all members sing a verse each. Is this true? If so, who sings which verse?

Thank you!

:)

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I don't think that's correct. Will sings the first verse, Chris sings the second and Guy & Jonny are singing backing vocals throughout.

I've spoken about The Goldrush before, if you check using the search field on the right.

 

 

14 October 2014 / submitted by Andrea, Peru

Q. So I was searching on wikipedia and I take a look of all songs written by Chris... and no! There are a few of Coldplay songs, did Chris writes all the songs or what?

Thanks!

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I think I understand your question.

Chris wrote all Coldplay songs bar one - Sweet Marianne*, written by Will - though the band all have song writing credits.

15 October 2014 / submitted by Oscar, Mexico

Q. Hello dear Oracle

My question is: is considered Rainy Day a part of Viva La Vida due to the similarity of sound?

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Rainy Day was recorded during the Viva la Vida sessions but didn't make it on to the album. Along with other tracks that didn't - but almost did - it featured on the Prospekt's March EP. The EP is like an extension of Viva and the Deluxe Edition actually included Prospekt's March.

 

15 October 2014 / submitted by Shady, Egypt

Q. Hello Oracle!

I know it may be a bit old, but would the band ever consider recording Sweet Marianne?

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I wouldn't think that songs from the past will ever be recorded if they haven't been already. As Sweet Marianne wasn't ever released, it probably won't see the light of day (again).

 

15 October 2014 / submitted by Michael , United States of America

Q. Hey O. I was curious about what songs the guys have and haven't played live. My question is, what songs haven't the guys played live, ever?

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In a way, it's a lot easier to just tell you what they have played. Here's a comprehensive list and anything not on it, they didn't play ;-)

 

 

16 October 2014 / submitted by Patricia, United States of America

Q. Hey Oracle! My burning question is one that involves a boy. I have been dating a boy for about 3 months now, and everything was going along perfectly smoothly. That is until I found out he is still texting with his ex-girlfriend. I am trying to understand, I mean they did date for about 5 years. I don't want to break up with him, but I don't like that he texts her. I asked him to stop and he said that it is part of who he is, he can't just abandon people from his past. What should I do? Thanks for any help! Much love from Texas!

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He's with you, not her, they are ex for a reason. I'm sorry to put this bluntly, you can't expect him to stop doing something because of your insecurities and he's right to refuse. It's your problem, not his. However, if you've explained how you feel, at least he's aware and may be respectful of that because of course, it IS important how you feel.

At least he's not sneaking around behind your back. He's being open about someone he considers a friend. If you can't handle it, you may have to let him go. I'm afraid if you don't find a way to be ok with it, you will drive him away.

Two other things....

I have friends I don't see now because of their partner not allowing it and that's not because of any relationship history. It's very sad but I respect their decision even though I disagree.

One of my friends always remained close with her ex after they split up. They realized they made better friends than partners so much so, she invited him to her wedding!

It can work, just try and find out how it can for you.

 

16 October 2014 / submitted by Marion, France

Q. Hi Oracle! I would like to ask you a question I hope you can answer. I wanted to know if the guys get their friends and families to listen to their new records before their official release, or if they make them wait like everybody else, maybe to keep some surprise ;)

Thanks a lot!

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It's not about keeping it as a surprise; it's about sharing and asking for feedback. Family & friends - not a great number of people - are asked for their opinion but the band still don't often invite people to the studio while they are recording. Most songs are fully formed and finished when played to anyone.

 

16 October 2014 / submitted by Marion, France

Q. Hi Oracle! I would like to ask you a question I hope you can answer. I wanted to know if the guys get their friends and families to listen to their new records before their official release, or if they make them wait like everybody else, maybe to keep some surprise ;)

Thanks a lot!

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It's not about keeping it as a surprise; it's about sharing and asking for feedback. Family & friends - not a great number of people - are asked for their opinion but the band still don't often invite people to the studio while they are recording. Most songs are fully formed and finished when played to

 

October 2014 / submitted by Paddy, Ireland

Q. Coldplay how are you? Hope all's well. Quick question, I play a lot of trad folk music. When I listen to you guys especially when you strip the songs down in an acoustic style I get a sense of an Irish folk sound at times. Are you guys influenced by trad? Multiple guitar tunings are used in trad to get that droning sound. Also who is the Christy Moore fan and what is Coldplay's favourite Christy Moore song? Ps loving the new songs! THE ORACLE REPLIES >

I'd say the band are influenced by all genres of music not traditional folk specifically but it's Will who is the biggest Christy Moore fan - always has been.

I'm afraid I don't know which is his / their favourite track but they chose to perform Ride On (written by Jimmy McCarthy) with Christy at Oxegen festival back in 2011.

 

 

17 October 2014 / submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?

 

As you may know, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday we open questions of a personal nature to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.

 

ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to [email protected] before midnight Thursday 23 October.

 

Well, from all this year I have feel so alone, like literally alone because maybe don't like me or because I am different but I really don't know a main reason of why people around me treat me so in this bad way, including my family.

I feel like the the stupid girl everyone knows and ignores and they make joke on me and insult me and if I do something like for defending myself they over attack and shout at me and make me feel so sad. I have to hold all these feeling until I arrive home and lock on my bathroom and cry, because if I cry in my room my grandma and sister will see me and will make fun of it. Sometimes I talk about that with my grandma who I have live with her since I moved to Ecuador (I born in Brooklyn NY but all my family are from Ecuatorians) and tell her that please don't act that way that she is like a mom but the only thing she reply me is "I am not your mom, your mom is dead, if you don't like it here, the door are all the time open for you to leave." And it is horrible because she was my mom's mom and that is really horrible.

I don't have a close friend to talk about this because every person I have met on school had treat me bad and ignores me and I am always trying to be kind at them. I feel hated and I don't know why.

Thanks God this is my last year of High School and I am going to try to walk away from people who are like that to me but I can't go away from my house and go to another country because I am scared to death that while the time I am in another country my grandma die and I won't be able to be with her. This can be strange because of the way she is to me but anyway I love her and I would consider myself a monster if I am not with her until her last days.

So, I know this is really confusing but I really feel lost. Moving with my dad to NY would be worse. I feel that no one understands me. The only person I kinda trust is my sister but like I said before, she later makes fun of me and that makes me feel so miserable with life.

Karolyn, Ecuador.

 

Look forward to reading your replies.

 

The Oracle.

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17 October 2014 / submitted by Ivana, Italy

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #189

In the last months my life seems to be a bit flat. I often feel sad, weak, empty. It's like something's missing, maybe happiness.

I really need to change the situation because I don't think I would stand it any longer. What can I do?

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I don't want to diagnose you because I haven't got enough information to go off and I'm not qualified to. It sounds like you're going through a slump but perhaps you should speak to your doctor in case there are underlying health causes (a blood test could eliminate certain things for example) or maybe you're suffering with depression.

As I'm sure I have said before, sometimes when there are few things going wrong in life, it is quite easy to then add other things to that list so it appears everything is in a negative state. Try to look at individual parts of your life and find the positives.

If you have a job you hate - change it. If you have friends who bring you down - change them. If you're in a relationship you're not happy in - get out of it.

What I'm trying to say is you can change some things. You may not know how to change things but if you know what needs changing, that's a start.

If you think you do know deep down what the problem is but don't know how to fix it, try talking to someone. I always find speaking out loud - even to myself - helps work out any issues.

If you can book an appointment with a counsellor.

Surround yourself with people you like and do things you enjoy to keep your mind occupied. Read, write, listen to music and get in touch with your inner thoughts & emotions.

Keep hydrated, eat well and take regular exercise to keep your body healthy and active. Exercise will also help produce endorphins that are known to promote positive feelings.

You could also try something new, start a challenge, get involved in a project, support a cause close to your heart. They could all be great ways to inspire and motivate you.

I hope that helps.

Over to you.

 

I used to feel the same way in the summer of 2012 after the Olympics ended. I felt that there is nothing to enjoy at all so I started picking up an instrument and play. Point I'm trying to make is that if you feel quite free or vacant you may pick up something to learn, for instance an instrument or learn languages or a sport and try to kill the barriers if you're shy. Try to get out in the open to a place you frequently go to and make friendships. It helped me so much.

Best of luck. Erin.

 

Ivana, you should listen to Charlie Brown an be a cartoon heart! Heidi.

 

It's hard to find something to say because I don't know what's your specific problem. It depends on your age. If you're a teenager I probably know how you feel, I'm 20 and I finished school two years ago but while I was a student I always felt like that, especially my last two years in school, that's when you feel the pressure of everyone around you trying to you to make the right decision and you don't know what to do with your life. My advice to every teenager out there feeling like this, is to take a year after school to have some extra time to just being with yourself, to find a small job (to know how is it to have real responsibilities and to learn how to save money). After that year I promise, you will know what you really want to do because you won't feel the pressure everyone on school was putting on you. If you're an adult, I encourage you to talk to someone close about it, and maybe make some little changes on your life, changing your everyday-routine, going for a walk, adopt a pet, meet new people, read books of your interest, maybe find a new job, maybe you work too hard that it is taking your free time away (and your happiness). You will see how things get better. Daniela, Chile

 

I can relate to that in a very strong manner. About two months ago and every now and then I feel this way. Sometimes it's just stress. If so I just try to distance myself as much as possible from all potential stress and soon it vanishes. But sometimes it really isn't that simple. I then find myself on a quest for happiness, looking at the glass half full even when there isn't one, trying to imagine all the positive things about life in the worst situations and trying to understand confusing realities. Sometimes it helps to let all my feelings go, either by drawing or singing along with my favourite Coldplay songs, whatever makes me happy. Look at life in a beautiful manner, try to shred whatever makes you sad and let the ribbons drift for all to see. Think about everything as a reason to smile and let those negative feelings go, they won't help you at all. I hope you are able to see life the way everyone should see it, in beautiful colour. Solaf.

 

It's hard to answer this without knowing more about you, Ivana, but you just have to follow your passion! Chase whatever it is that ignites that little spark in you. And if you're like me and don't know exactly what that is yet, go out and find it! Try new things, go to new places, meet new people, eventually we'll stumble upon something great! Sam.

 

Sometimes, all we need is just to release what's on our mind. Just do your best, and never expect for the best result. When there's no hope, there's no disappointment. So then you're on your way to become a free soul. Sarah.

 

It seems to me that you may feel as though your life is missing meaning. Don't worry, dearest, everyone goes through that feeling at least once in their life. Sometimes it feels as though you're trapped on the forest floor even though you want to be soaring high above the trees. Sometimes in life we forget to see the beauty and wonder that lies on the forest floor.

Even in the quiet, still moments, life can still hold meaning, we just may have to search harder to find it. If it's happiness you're after, seek happiness in the little things as well as the big ones. Life gives us little gifts to get us through the day, but we have to choose to receive them. If you find that you no longer have any happiness around you, look harder. Maybe it's in your favorite outfit, a little mug of tea, a favorite place to go, or a special movie that you love. Rather than saying, "There is nothing around me that makes me happy," find those things that do make you happy and focus all of your energy on them.

Sometimes we also get stuck in a rut of feeling like we aren't doing anything meaningful with our lives. If you feel that way, reevaluate your life. Are you doing what you love? Is it fulfilling to you? If the answer is no, then seek something that does feel meaningful. That could change your entire life.

Live well, Ivana. Brooke.

 

Do you have a roof over your head? Food? Water? Good. This should make you happy instantly.

For being sad, weak and empty and missing something I can only tell, now that we know and you know, you can't unknow it!

Be present to life, what it offers you. It is the little things. Often we have too much, think too much, do too much. Let go. Do what you like. Smile. Laugh. Love. Sing. Dance.

Life is endless. Live it now! Take care. Be well! Tanja.

 

You say that you need to change a situation. It's good that you ask for advice and that is one important step. But first of all, you have to WANT to change a situation. That desire and decision you need to put into yourself. When you decide to work for it, things will going to change. Maybe you should start with some steps: - write on a paper WHAT is really missing? (health, job, friendship, love relationship, courage, marks at school/university, self-confidence, communication with parents ect.)

When you define things, here comes the next step: WHEN did it start?

WHY it is happening to you; try to find some reason for missing a thing or having a problem.

Then try to write POSSIBLE SOLUTIONS for your problem: who can you talk to (family, friends, professional help) and what you can do by yourself.

Without defining a problem it is difficult to change it. Always believe it is possible to change and have a beautiful life filled with joy and happiness. "Don't panic, everything's not lost."

Wishing you all the best, Kamili from Croatia.

 

I can relate to your feelings, cause I am going through hard time last months too. I often think I couldn't stand it any longer. What helps me is listening a lot to Coldplay . Searching happiness in simple things of life like sitting / walking in the sun, swimming, meeting & talking friends, laughing whenever I can. I tell myself sun will shine again some day. You only can get stronger going through this hard time.

It's often beyond your power to change a difficult situation, you only can try to do the best of the situation. Step by step.

Good luck !! Love from Germany, Maren.

 

First of all you should try and find out what changed. Why does your life feel flat now and why do you feel sad now? You say you've been experiencing these feelings for a few months, which means you haven't always had them. What did you do before that made you feel happy about your life, that you've now lost? A lot of people feel the way you do because they're 'stuck'. They've been doing the same things/routines for years and are not really living the life they'd hoped for. If that's the case, the best thing to do is break the routine. Find something you like and are passionate about. Have you always wanted to learn how to play the guitar? Get guitar lessons. Join a sports club, try to meet some new people. There's got to be something you'd really love to do, no matter how silly or impossible it may seem, don't ignore your feelings. Doing something you actually like will bring you happiness and before you know it those sad and empty feelings will go bye bye. Good luck! Amanda

 

The first thing you need to do is get reflective on recent events in your life and define how you feel about them. Have recent events been pleasant or did something happen that set you back? Also determine your overall level of satisfaction in your personal life and your work life. Do you spend time with friends? If so, do you feel included, valued and genuinely cared for? Also, if you are in a relationship, are you happy with them? Do you find more positives than negatives? Also, regarding you work life do you feel like someone at your job cares about you? Do you feel that you receive adequate recognition for doing your job? After you have done this, you will have identified some aspects of your life that that may be bringing you down. Then it is time to take action. If your friends are bringing you down either tell them or forget about them. If your relationship is more like a life sentence than sharing a life. Move on. If your work and work place don't make you happy or feel important. Make a move or take action. Feedback to others is key. Openness and candor are important. If thoughts, feelings and opinions are not shared...then nobody knows what you need, feel or want. Quite honestly, if you don't put anything out there you will not get anything back. That in itself can make you feel blah. If you think that you may be depressed... talk to your doctor. The strongest people are the ones who actually ask for help... you posted to us now "post" to yourself and those with whom you care to inform. Take care. Marcia.

 

Thanks to all those who replied to this week's question. Remember, Team Oracle is open to anyone so if you fancy replying, click to read this week's, and send us your answer.

 

20 October 2014 / submitted by Tricia, United Kingdom

Q. Mabuhay from Philippines, O!

 

I hope you're grand. :) Anyway, I have a question. I've been playing the QuizUp app and took the Coldplay quiz. There's this one question that says "which among these is Coldplay's music album?" I didn't get it right because I am not sure if Coldplay has released a Christmas album, all I know is that they released Christmas Lights and it was only available through digital download. Is there anything I'm missing?

 

Tricia.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

There has never been a Christmas album; only a single - Christmas Lights.

I don't follow any Coldplay quizzes so without seeing the exact question / possible answers myself, I can't be more specific.

If you check the Recordings section, you can see all the official releases.

 

20 October 2014 / submitted by Natalia, Mexico

Q. Hello Oracle!

First of all, thank you for existing. My question is, How can I get over my computer obsession? I spent like 5 or 6 hours just sitting in front of my laptop and I do have things to do but I get easily distracted and is ruining my school life. Thank you :)

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

It's increasingly difficult to put technology down these days. Many of us have smartphones, tablets, laptops that we're practically permanently attached to. Whether we're messaging, surfing, playing games, emailing or watching / listening to media it's a very technology driven world.

The only suggestion I have is to practice the discipline of switching off & concentrating on the task at hand.

Timetable your day and incorporate laptop free time. I also find it hard to not check my phone when I get a new notification or I want to check something that crops up in conversation etc. but it's habit. I have started to get into a new habit of putting my phone into airplane mode, or mobile calls only or switching to silent, especially when I'm with friends. It can be really anti-social when someone is fiddling on their device while you're trying to have a real life moment. I find it incredibly rude.

If you need your laptop for schoolwork, try to wean off the distractions. Like any addiction, you will probably find it too hard to stop immediately.

Maybe you can set an alarm so that every hour or two, you can have 10 minutes of surfing the web within your work session. Use it as a reward system. Once your schoolwork is done, your treat is surfing time.

If there are things you have to do that are away from home, try to sometimes leave your laptop / technology at home. If not, turn the power off and put it out of sight.

The more you do something, the easier it becomes.

 

20 October 2014 / submitted by Juan, Argentina

Q. Hi there Oracle! First of all I'd like to thank you for taking the time to write back to us every day, I really enjoy reading this section. So here is my question: who plays the instruments that the guys don't play on the live performances? Or do they have a pre-recorded track for those instruments? Thank you! I hope you come to Argentina soon!

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

They're pre-recorded with the exception of Matt McGinn playing guitar from off stage on occasion. Notably during Yellow on a tour that Chris put his guitar down in favour of hands-free.

21 October 2014 / submitted by Zach, United States of America

Q. Hi, Oracle. :) Wondering if you know anything about the sound at the beginning of Charlie Brown. Almost sounds like a baby saying things amongst other things. I remember Chris mentioning Apple and Moses's voices were used to make a sound in this last record. Do you know if this is the case on Charlie Brown?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

No, it's not. The sound is this.

 

1 October 2014 / submitted by Carlos, Venezuela

Q. Hi, dear Oracle. Watching again and again the Ghost Stories TV Special I noticed that the custom built theatre looks very similar to one that that appears in the Michael Jackson video Hold My Hand, Is it the same?THE ORACLE REPLIES >

I'm confused. Looking at the official video for Hold My Hand, I can't work out where you see the similarity. Michael's video was filmed in airship hangars (plus concert footage etc.) and Coldplay's was a purpose built amphitheatre in a soundstage. They're not the same albeit large vacuous spaces.

 

 

22 October 2014 / submitted by Jacklord, Philippines

Q. Hello Oracle. I just learned that Coldplay hates Parachutes which i think is great. Why do they hate it?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

They don't! I'm not sure where you read / heard that but that's not true.

They're not crazy about X&Y (some, not all if it) but I've never heard them say anything negative about their wonderful debut album.

 

ctober 2014 / submitted by Alana, Ireland

Q. Hello Oracle, nerdy question alert. Did Chris learn singing technique to avoid getting polyps on his vocal chords? He has a great range but I can't imagine the strain all that falsetto, particularly live, puts on his voice. I used to sing, and my teacher had this problem. Told you it was nerdy.

 

Thanks

AlanaTHE ORACLE REPLIES >

That's not a nerdy question; it's a fair one.

Chris has various techniques for looking after his voice and in fact, Will, Jonny & Guy also have a specific warm-up regime before every show. Chris also uses steam before and, where possible, after a show.

 

22 October 2014 / submitted by Janet, United Kingdom

Q. Do you think Coldplay will ever release some songs that do not have Chris as the main vocals? In some of their current songs you can faintly hear the other band members sing melody, and I was just wondering if they will possibly get a solo. Thanks!

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Never say never. As mentioned recently, Will has taken the lead & who knows, may again.

I honestly doubt Jonny & Guy would - though as you probably know, both can and do sing.

Obviously, Will, Jonny & Guy are not the lead vocalists of Coldplay and while it's unlikely it could happen but not as a regular change.

Not counting The Beatles or Oasis who shared vocalists, there have been times when another member of a band has sung - Roger Taylor from Queen for example.

 

23 October 2014 / submitted by Adam, United Kingdom

Q. Dear Oracle, has Chris ever forgot lyrics to songs while performing live?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Oh yes, that's happened so many times! Chris generally stops the song and starts again. There are certain songs that Chris has repeatedly forgotten parts of which given he wrote them, is quite a funny - and perhaps surprising - thing to happen.

 

October 2014 / submitted by Anonymous, Thailand

Q. Dear Oracle,

 

I was on the plane the other day and, browsing through the in-flight music on my mini-screen, saw there was an album of Coldplay songs... but they were referred to as "spa versions". They sounded very strange, with Chris's singing replaced with synthesized flutes and stuff. Is this an official CD?!

 

Best wishes from Thailand :)THE ORACLE REPLIES >

No, it's not official. The only official Coldplay CDs are those that Coldplay themselves perform - see our Recordings section. Any instrumental pan pipe* renditions are simply covers that are used for relaxation purposes. There are other CDs that feature Coldplay songs in a different style, such as lullaby versions for babies.

 

 

23 October 2014 / submitted by Maximilian, United States of America

Q. What time on average does the band wake up to start the day? Who are the night owls and early birds of the group?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

When the band are touring, there are sometimes later nights than usual. At home though, they are less night owls though Chris famously doesn't sleep well.

Anyone who has a young family will tell you, you're automatically an early riser to get breakfast and do the school run, even if you do go to bed late.

24 October 2014 / submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?

 

As you may know, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday we open questions of a personal nature to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.

 

ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to [email protected] before midnight Thursday 30 October.

 

I was recently diagnosed with Asperger's disorder, meaning I am extremely intelligent but have trouble socially. I have a couple close friends and a boyfriend, and I want them to know what is going on. At the same time, there is a ton of stigma with Asperger's syndrome, and I don't know if my boyfriend and friends would look at me the same if I told them. What should I do? Hannah, USA.

 

Look forward to reading your replies.

 

The Oracle.

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Please email your replies with TEAM ORACLE in the subject line to [email protected]

Including your twitter address may result in a follow back.

 

24 October 2014 / submitted by Karolyn, Ecuador

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #190

Well, from all this year I have feel so alone, like literally alone because maybe don't like me or because I am different but I really don't know a main reason of why people around me treat me so in this bad way, including my family.

I feel like the the stupid girl everyone knows and ignores and they make joke on me and insult me and if I do something like for defending myself they over attack and shout at me and make me feel so sad. I have to hold all these feeling until I arrive home and lock on my bathroom and cry, because if I cry in my room my grandma and sister will see me and will make fun of it. Sometimes I talk about that with my grandma who I have live with her since I moved to Ecuador (I born in Brooklyn NY but all my family are from Ecuatorians) and tell her that please don't act that way that she is like a mom but the only thing she reply me is "I am not your mom, your mom is dead, if you don't like it here, the door are all the time open for you to leave." And it is horrible because she was my mom's mom and that is really horrible.

I don't have a close friend to talk about this because every person I have met on school had treat me bad and ignores me and I am always trying to be kind at them. I feel hated and I don't know why.

Thanks God this is my last year of High School and I am going to try to walk away from people who are like that to me but I can't go away from my house and go to another country because I am scared to death that while the time I am in another country my grandma die and I won't be able to be with her. This can be strange because of the way she is to me but anyway I love her and I would consider myself a monster if I am not with her until her last days.

So, I know this is really confusing but I really feel lost. Moving with my dad to NY would be worse. I feel that no one understands me. The only person I kinda trust is my sister but like I said before, she later makes fun of me and that makes me feel so miserable with life.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

There are a lot of issues to deal with but here are my initial thoughts.

1. You have been through a HUGE life event, well two. Your Mum died and you moved far away (& from your Dad).

2. Your Grandma lost her daughter so it's not just you who is feeling lost.

I really think you need to talk to someone who perhaps isn't part of the family - like a school counsellor or someone via your doctor. The feelings you're keeping inside need to come out.

I can completely understand why you feel like everyone and everything is against you but I suspect that's not the reality but just your temporary truth. Maybe the reason people are this way with you is because of something you're unaware of. Maybe you could ask someone you like, why they stay away from you?

Some kids can ostracise newcomers. If you haven't been at the school from the start, they may not know how to accept you or deal with your situation. That's their problem and hopefully some or all of them will come around but as you say, it's your last year so, keep being kind - that's a good thing.

Your sister is not handling the situation but she has also lost her Mum and it may just take time to get through to her. You have a shared bond so I would try harder with her. Try not to let her making fun of you upset you; that's just her coping mechanism. Tell her it's not funny.

Also try again with your Grandma. You all need each other for love & support.

I wouldn't be surprised if there is anger or a negative vibe that could be unwittingly coming from you. That would be totally understandable given what's happened / happening?

If you can find a way to deal with all that's happened, maybe you will be able to integrate with your family & people at school. It will be hard and may take time but I know you can do it.

Talking about it will help but as I often suggest, write a letter if you think it will help get your feelings heard.

Over to you.

 

Karolyn, you should know that your family can help you with that, you just need to talk with them and they will understand, that's what family's for.

You should try to make friends, and even if you just make one, try to express yourself and trust him, but you need to know if he/she is a real friend, he will try to help you. Rui, Portugal.

 

May I ask did you comfort with yourself in your situation? If you did, don't let people described yourself. People commit a crime, that's not their willingness. It's because they suffered, they live with their delusional heart and mind. Just love them, loving people who hate and hurt you. Love your enemy, this is the deepest and the highest wisdom that all religious teaching and philosophy in the world. Sarah, Indonesia.

 

It's very hard to stay positive when everything around you is forcing you to feel otherwise. I know it feels horrible losing someone you love and have all what's left of them (your grandma) treat you awfully. You have to understand that not everyone is going to be understanding and that the loss of your mother was tragic to your grandmother. People in high-school might be bullying you just to make each other laugh, so try and ignore it because they don't really believe in what they are saying about you. It is overwhelming when you have feelings that you cannot let out by talking to anyone, but there are other ways you can let out your excess emotion. Try doing things you like to let everything go. Try helping your grandmother out because she seems really affected by the loss. Life is good, with everything it brings of trouble and seemingly endless miseries, you just really have to try and understand it and adjust to it well. I hope you all the best with your life. Solaf.

 

You lost your mom; it must be hard because she is your first relationship and connection to world. Her death might be like loosing your own connection with a world and yourself.

May be you still haven't overwhelmed her death.

Try to imagine that she still lives somewhere. She watches you and tries to help you.

Her message would be to live at the present- take maximum from life. If you think that life will be better back in NY, then go back. Be sure of your decision, not because of your grandma or anybody else, but because of you. Your grandma had an opportunity to live her life, now it's up to you to live yours.

You said that nobody was good at your school although you were nice to them. Well,sounds impossible that NOBODY is good person. Try to remember that on average people are at least OK. Probably there is something inside you that pushes people away, not because they are evil. It might be because of your fears, lack of self confidence and thinking that you don't deserve them. If you move to the other part of the world but keep thinking that people are bad, and blaming them, you'll stay unhappy.

I'll go directly with some advice:

- Never blame the others for anything.

- Forgive everything to everyone.

- Don't feel sorry for yourself.

- Find love, peace and happiness inside you.

- Change your bad habits.

- Focus on studying and working hard.

- Do sports.

- BELIEVE.

Best wishes, Kamili.

 

Don't let other people's opinions make you feel inferior or ashamed of something you truly believe in- you SHOULD defend yourself. And as you said, you can walk away from people from school after graduation. Unfortunately, I hate to tell you this, but you are going to be judged your whole entire life. And that's not to say it's just you, that's everyone. You can't force change in how people look at you, but you can change how you react to it. How you respond to something is under your control, and you need to have a thick skin. I'm not saying it's easy, because it's not. I'm also in my last year of high school with similar issues, so I can relate.

My suggestion would be to follow your heart and ignore what others think - do what YOU want. Don't let fear take you over. If you truly believe that moving will be in your best interest and the best thing for your future, then do it. I want you to take time to take care of yourself before you worry about others because if you don't, you will be totally beat down- and I can see just in this post you are getting to that point.

I don't know if I phrased everything correctly, but I also highly recommend that you sign up with a therapist (it really does help). I wish you the best of luck and please take time to love yourself. Myrah.

 

I would like to tell you that their are people in the world who understand your situation and feel the way you do but I'm sure you've heard that before and don't want to hear it again.You're trying so hard to be accepted it's just hiding who you really are, and it getting exhausting having to perform 24/7. You are special, in the midst of it all, all your sadness and despair, you're still here and living. And you should be proud of that because you are strong. Don't shut out people from you're life because I guarantee you their is somebody, somewhere who you can relate to, someone who will learn to love you and grow old with you. You may just be suffering from depression or another disorder, and some therapy or new friends can help you deal with this. Possibly try to befriend somebody who can relate to you, this person could possibly be your neighbor or an account on your computer. Just don't give up hope, you'll be okay. Try to workout issues and problems by using art, music, writing, or just talking about it even if the only person you have to talk to is yourself. Don't change yourself, being a outsider or misfit and being different is a good thing. You were born an original, don't die a copy. Don't worry, it'll all be okay in the end, if it's not okay it isn't the end. Good Luck. Kaylyn.

 

First of all, I am sorry you feel so alone and feel quite badly that people are unkind to you. You are correct in staying that life will be better in after high school and that is indeed true. In high school you change and often grow out of your friends. I know I did. When you move on to college or whatever you choose to do in the next stage of life, make sure you surround yourself with people who are kind and make you feel cared about and happy. Also, one thing in life I learned is that is we need to teach people how to treat us. Keep that in mind when meeting new people. If they are mean to you, then tell that you don't like that. If they don't listen, then move on. Also, I don't want to hurt you, but have you ever considered that people are picking on you because they know you will react. I know it sounds awful but people often target those who they can get certain reactions from. I wish that people were not like this, but human beings are imperfect and often displace their anger or other emotion on those they view as weak. So, you need to be less reactive or simply ignore people who are not supportive when you are upset. Take action and if you do not, nothing will change. You are truly the only person that can make yourself happy. Marcia.

 

Thanks to all those who replied to this week's question. Remember, Team Oracle is open to anyone so if you fancy replying, click to read this week's, and send us your answer.

 

27 October 2014 / submitted by Mitchell, United States of America

Q. Hi Oracle,

Was Mince Spies ever officially released? Because the version of Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas is amazing!

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

As always, I point you to the Recordings section of the website. A good rule of thumb: if it isn't there, it isn't a proper release.

The Mince Spies CD was limited & given as a Christmas gift for members of the (now defunct) fan club.

 

27 October 2014 / submitted by Gabe, United States of America

Q. Has the band ever played Easy To Please from the Brothers and Sisters EP live?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

I've never heard it or heard of it being played live, no.

 

27 October 2014 / submitted by Kiara, United States of America

Q. Why did Coldplay choose to sell the song Gravity to another band? I really miss that song and don't like the new version.

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

They didn't sell Gravity per se. Chris suggested to Danny MacNamara that Embrace record it. They did and it was released as a single and featured on their Out Of Nothing album (2004).

Although Chris "gave" the song away, the way it works is royalties are paid to the original writers even though the performer also earns performance royalties.

 

If you want to hear the band's version, Coldplay went on to record the song and it appeared on the b-side to Talk.

28 October 2014 / submitted by claire, United States of America

Q. Dear Oracle, I was watching the trailer of the live 2014 album and it seemed to me that all the performances were taken from the special that was on tv around the time of Ghost Stories' release. Is that true or are there other performances from the tour?

Thanks- Claire xo

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

All the information you need - including the track listing - is in the news piece.

28 October 2014 / submitted by Mariano, Venezuela

Q. Dearest O,

 

DON'T answer this question if it is true that the boys will release a new song, titled Miracle, in just a few weeks as part of the OST for the movie Unbroken.

 

Yeah!

 

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Eh? I'm breaking those rules but it's plural - Miracles.

29 October 2014 / submitted by Chris, United Kingdom

Q. Do you know any more about Miracles (e.g release date) that you would be able to tell us?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

As you know, Anchorman is the deliverer of news. He will let you know all the details in due course.

 

29 October 2014 / submitted by Ellie, United Kingdom

Q. I have tickets to see Coldplay perform at the BBC music awards!!!!!!

 

Any info on the set list yet? How many songs will there be?

 

Thanks x

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

There is no set list as the band won't be performing a "set".

I'm sorry to tease but even though I do know, I will not reveal in advance what they will be performing. Sorry!

 

29 October 2014 / submitted by George, United Kingdom

Q. Dear Oracle,

A while back I found these lyrics on a piece of Mylo Xyloto artwork.

"The two of us, we drove

A speeding ghost and a shadow

Luminous the road to the sea

We swam from the shallows

To bottle lightning's glow

Where we're gonna run, God only knows."

Where are these from? Is this from an upcoming project?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

No. As you (may) know there were quite a few songs written for Mylo Xyloto that weren't included. The lyrics on the artwork are likely to be from one of the discarded tracks but I'm afraid I don't know which one. MX and GS are the only 2 albums that I didn't hear any of the songs that didn't make it.

 

30 October 2014 / submitted by Eleanor Rigby, United Kingdom

Q. Dear Oracle,

 

Seeing that the Ghost Stories tour is over, and it's unlikely to be played at the BBC music awards, do you think Ghost Story will be ever played live? Up to now, it's my favourite song of all time, other than my namesake of course. :^)

 

Sincerely, Eleanor

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

As it wasn't played on the Ghost Stories tour, I can't imagine it being played in the future but it's not something that can be predicted. Never say never.

*caughpleasegodpleasecaugh*

 

30 October 2014 / submitted by Ben, New Zealand

Q. Hello

How does the guys see when they play on a dark stage? Like at the start of Charlie Brown, Jonny starts playing in the pitch black. Do they have little lights?

Thanks

 

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

It's not as pitch black as you may think. There are lights emitting from all manner of things onstage. Illumination may be necessary for Chris if he's moving to / from piano for example but the band don't need lights to play their instruments.

 

30 October 2014 / submitted by George, United States of America

Q. Hi Oracle,

Does anyone at Coldplay.com care very much that Chris sometimes doesn't sing quite the same words as given in the posted lyrics? For instance, on the song Ghost Story there's a line that reads: "A spectre on a rollercoaster" but Chris is clearly not singing the word "rollercoaster" on the recording.

Thanks

 

 

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Given they're Chris' lyrics and he wrote them, we don't care at all if he changes them up as he does when performing live from time to time. On the odd occasion there have been mistakes when Chris gives us the wrong lyrics (or the case of missing lyrics that nobody seems to be able to decipher) but to be honest, I think he does sing "rollercoaster" albeit a rather different phrasing of the word.

3 November 2014 / submitted by Jessica, United States of America

Q. In Coldplay's newest single A Sky Full of Stars, I can't help but to notice the influence of electronic music in the melody. I was wondering if they had inspiration from EDM or if an electronic DJ helped produce the song? I would love to find out - Jessica

 

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31 October 2014 / submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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I'm in a bad stage of my life, I recently broke up with my boyfriend and if I say the truth, I don't even know the really "why". Well, since we've broken up I've been spending the weeks thinking about it. Have I done well? I really want this? It's just like one day I think I really don't want to go back with him but at nights or when I hear Coldplay songs like The Scientist I cannot stop crying and thinking of him like my boyfriend again.

I know is something that I can only know by myself but sometimes I need help and well... be sincere with someone who listen to me. Thanks for reading and helping me. Love, Ana, Spain.

 

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31 October 2014 / submitted by Hannah, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #191

I was recently diagnosed with Asperger's disorder, meaning I am extremely intelligent but have trouble socially. I have a couple of close friends and a boyfriend, and I want them to know what is going on. At the same time, there is a ton of stigma with Asperger's syndrome, and I don't know if my boyfriend and friends would look at me the same if I told them. What should I do?

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I know it's not as simple as saying, 'just tell them' but it's highly likely that you imagining what they may say is making it harder. You can't possible know what they will say and you are probably (hopefully) worrying over nothing. Don't prolong that anxiety.

Your boyfriend and friends are around you because they choose to be. Just because you think you've been given a label, you're the same girl you were yesterday; the same girl they want to be with. That won't change just because you've got Asperger's. If it does, which I doubt, they aren't worth having and better to know that now.

It's sad that any conditions still carry a stigma but maybe it's ignorance. When you tell them, ask what they already know about Asperger's. They may know more than you think or nothing at all. Explain what it is and what it will mean for you. I would ask if they have any questions for you. Add that anytime they want to talk about it with you, not to hold back. Making it an open topic of conversation will help but I honestly can't help but think they will be supportive and their feelings for you will be no different.

I wish you well.

Over to you.

 

I have two best friends with Aspergers and I can only imagine the struggle they and you have gone through. I assure you it is the best thing for your relationships to tell them. I have Crohn's and the best way to explain something is to define it. So tell them that you have Aspergers and then tell them what it means. Make sure to tell them that having Aspergers won't change who you are at all. And yes, you have to be EXTREMELY intelligent to have Aspergers. I hope this helps you and I wish you the best. Remember you can do amazing things no one else can do. And if your friends treat you differently, they aren't worthy of you.

Best wishes, Molly.

 

Everyone can have trouble socially. And it sounds to me like you are doing better socially than most. Do not let a label given to you by a doctor bring you down. You heard that saying, "only share your strengths not your weakness," this is because most people will associate others with what sticks out in their minds the most and there is no reason for acquaintances to think of a syndrome when they think of you, especially one that is easily overcome.

The less others think of you with troubles, the less troubles you will think of yourself, and so be it, the less troubles you will have. You are doing great. Another thing is that there is lots of highly intelligent people who may not be as social as most and there is nothing wrong with that. I myself find that what most people talk about is really boring. Stay strong and true to yourself. With love, Heather.

 

Hannah, your true friends and boyfriend love you for what you ARE. If you have the Asperger's syndrome you don't have it since it has been diagnosed. I am sure you have it since a few years or your entire life. A diagnose does not change the person who YOU are and for what you are loved, appreciated and respected.

I can relate to you. I don't have Asperger syndrome but also kind of a "stigma" diagnosis.

My advice, tell them, tell the people you trust. They will not think badly about you if they really love you.

Love from Germany, Maren.

 

There are many different conditions a person can have, both physically, emotionally, and mentally, that pose a challenge to them. Everyday, each person you meet is facing some form of a challenge in their life, and you are definitely not alone. The fact that you want your friends and loved ones to know about your condition is already a positive way to view your diagnosis. It can be tough to open up to people sometimes, but if you let them know now that you are facing this struggle and may need their help/guidance/assistance in the future, you will be more calm about the situation and so will they! If they don't treat you the same way after you tell them as they did before, then they are probably friends that would run away at the first sign of trouble anyways. Please, live your life with an open heart and allow yourself to feel, whatever those feelings may be (nervous, excitement, etc). Good luck in your journey! Kiley.

 

Well, Hannah, you don't need to be afraid to tell them what's going on and that you have Asperger. Now, I want you to know that I deal with a girl with Asperger everyday, my cousin, and she is treated the same as me by our family. So your friends wont make fun or stop being your friends, just say to them and don't be scared

Rui.

 

I know how hard this must be for you. It's always hard having to tell people who are close to you something that you are struggling with. But, if I were you, I would embrace it. Accept who you are and tell you friends and boyfriend. They love you and yes, they may look at you a little different, but they will still love you for you. That's what friends are for. If they can't accept that then that is their loss and they will soon realize how stupid they are because I'm sure you are a wonderful person. Good luck! Lots of love! Party Girl.

 

It's great that you have close friends and boyfriend despite your diagnose. I suppose and hope it means that you are functioning normally among community (family, friends, school). Anyway, any diagnose means something, so I think that you have to ask yourself 2 questions: "Which symptoms of Asperger (AS) do I have?" And: "Which symptoms of AS do others notice in my behavior?" Write down your subjective opinion.

Then you can ask your friends and boyfriend to tell you what unusual or disturbing behaviors they notice about you. If it is related to AS you can easily mention that those habits/behaviors are called "Asperger's disease." It's just a medical name, it's not YOU and who you are. If your close people've been accepting you for a long time, it means that you fit in. It also means that they are similar to you in many ways. Obviously you're not so different from them because of "diagnose."

Just relax and live life as you were the happiest and healthiest person.

But the main goal should be to tell and live the truth always. Don't be scared if people go away, be opened for people to come in and stay in your life.

If you are honest and ready to give your love, you will always find such a people for you.

Best wishes, Kamili.

 

I think the best thing to do is to be honest and tell your friends and boyfriend. Tell them about Asperger's and also tell them about how you don't want them to treat you any different. Honesty is the best policy :)

From, Daliah.

 

Firstly, stay strong. It shall all be alright. To move on to your

situation, I had quite a similar one myself - in November 2012, I was

diagnosed with a tumour. Being on 15, it was quite a lot to take in,

let alone tell my close friends and people around me.

I didn't tell anyone in school for a month and a half- the whole

stigma of being dealt with softly or with pity was too much for me.

Gradually, I opened up about it to only three people, with whom I

could trust my life with. And from then on, life changed drastically.

I didn't have to hide myself anymore. I could express my difficulties,

and they would do their best to help me. Most importantly, they didn't

tell anyone, so my secret was safe.

Since you have a boyfriend and two close friends, I suggest you inform

them about your situation immediately. I know it sounds scary, but

trust me, it feels much better. But tell them not to tell anyone else-

you'll just have to trust them on this; no other way. I hope I could

help you in this.

Much love from India, Shashwat.

 

If you feel that it's important for you that your friends know about your disorder, you should tell them. If they are your true friends, they will stay by your side and show you support. That's what true friends do. They don't judge you for having a disease/condition. They support you. Knowing about your disorder may help them understand your behavior and the fact that they should not push you if you are facing a social situation that stresses you out or makes you feel uncomfortable. So, if you decide to tell them, be very clear when you explain them what it is about.

I don't know how old you are, but if you want to build a good and lasting relationship, you can't keep secrets like that for a long time. Most of all because this disorder is a part of who you are.

Wish you the best. Noelia, Argentina.

 

Oh lovely, you are not the one with a problem. You use more of your brain and have a different perspective on this world. Rather then focusing on what individuals may think of an erroneous label being imposed upon you, focus your beautiful Heart, Mind, and Spirit on music, world peace, or feeding the hungry. You have the capacity to impact these things while you laugh, smile, and enjoy life. This is why you came to this Earth.

You say you have a couple of close friends- well I say you are blessed. Choose your friends carefully you are peaceful by nature, so avoid conflict, egos, and other harsh energies. Steer toward other peace-loving people. Always honor your sensitivity and surround yourself with gentleness in your relationships, home life, and work situations.

Your intellect far exceeds your wildest dreams and as far as social skills-you are simply not behind the public mask. Too many of the people walking around, being socially acceptable, long to be free from the false face they have to put on. The essence of your Soul has decided to leave you exposed for the world to see - this can be a bit scary, but live in love not in fear. Choose to live inspired. Choose to see yourself as a gift!

Be Well - Be Blessed - Be Yourself (everyone else is already taken).

I am me and I choose to Shine!

Cheers, Dani USA.

 

You're saying you're close with those people. That means they know you. They know what they can and can't expect from you. They've noticed before that you're having trouble in certain situations, even if they didn't realize fully consciously.

If you feel like they need to know, make it happen. It'll be hard, I know, but It'll be for the better. They'll understand. They'll understand who you are better than before.

I know it's tough to live with Asperger's. I've been diagnosed with it too. I haven't been able to tell anyone yet. But I will someday too.

Best of luck.

Josse, Belgium.

 

What do we mean by disorder? Essentially a conflict or self-contradiction! Then how is it important for others in the outwardly world to be the same? What should one do... just go with the flow, MAYBE! Suhail.

 

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3 November 2014 / submitted by Jessica, United States of America

Q. In Coldplay's newest single A Sky Full of Stars, I can't help but to notice the influence of electronic music in the melody. I was wondering if they had inspiration from EDM or if an electronic DJ helped produce the song? I would love to find out - Jessica

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Chris always intended for the song to have an EDM feel. This is reflected in the fact Avicii (renowned EDM artist / producer) was involved with the track.

 

 

3 November 2014 / submitted by Simon, Canada

Q. Hi Oracle,

 

If you had to place each of the Coldplay members into a respective house from Game of Thrones, which member would go in which house?

 

Best wishes from Ancaster, Ontario!

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

I'm afraid I've never seen a single episode & wouldn't have the slightest clue. It's not my bag, as they say.

 

November 2014 / submitted by John, United Kingdom

Q. Dear Oracle,

 

I was watching the trailer for the upcoming Ghost Stories live DVD/CD/Blu-Ray and I noticed that Coldplay filmed an intimate concert for the film in a arch shaped building. The front of the building has the Ghost Stories wings printed or painting on it. I was wondering whether this was real or whether it was computer generated?THE ORACLE REPLIES >

The wings weren't printed or painted, they computer generated. The shot was taken from a drone.

 

4 November 2014 / submitted by Carlos, Mexico

Q. Dear lovely Oracle.

 

I'm an aspiring music artist. I been told that you must move with your music where you think that it will be better accepted. I'm been a fan of all brit rock, so of course Coldplay is a huge inspiration on my sound and writing. So my question is, do you think I should move to England with my music and try to start a career there?

 

Gracias!

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

I don't know who told you that but it's not that simple and doesn't guarantee you success.

I usually advise bands to start where you are.

If you can build a fan base at home - and by home, I mean from your local pub to village to town to city - you will gain exposure that you may be able to build on elsewhere.

Just because you're influenced by UK acts, doesn't mean there's only an audience for you there. For example, have you thought about keeping your Brit style of music but singing in your native language, Spanish?

One of the biggest acts in your country - Mana - aren't that well-known despite touring outside Mexico. They have been signed since 1987. It's worth considering staying where you are - for n

 

4 November 2014 / submitted by Millie, United Kingdom

Q. Hello Oracle,

I'm a bit confused. The Magic music video was released, but it said it was "their first single" I thought it was Midnight? Thank you!

;)

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Midnight was a new track, but not a single. Its video premiered on this website but as it was never released, Magic was the first single from Ghost Stories.

 

 

4 November 2014 / submitted by Kayla, United States of America

Q. Hi Oracle! I was listening to the Princess of China - EP and I was wondering who created the Paradise Tiesto remix?

Love from America!

Kayla

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Er, that'll be Tiesto - the Dutch DJ/ producer. Funnily enough, his latest 2014 album is called A Town Called Paradise (nothing to do with Coldplay).

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5 November 2014 / submitted by Christof, Germany

Q. Will the new recording of the Ghost Story Live 2044 concert tournee also be available on vinyl or only on CD/DVD?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

I'm loving the typo! 2044 is a long way into the future...

Ghost Stories Live 2014 is a live film / album release - as you know - but the album is only available on CD.

 

5 November 2014 / submitted by AnonyMousE, United Kingdom

Q. Dear Oracle,

Do you think it would have been such a bad idea to include Miracles in the GS live album as a bonus track ?

Thanx!

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

Personally, yes I do think it's a bad idea. There is no correlation between the two to justify a reason for its inclusion. Ghost Stories is an album and Miracles is a stand alone soundtrack song. Ghost Stories already has its bonus tracks.

Atlas wasn't on an album. Neither was Christmas Lights but as a Christmas song, that's a whole other reason for it not being included on MX.

I can't wait for the 24th November!

6 November 2014 / submitted by Marcela, Mexico

Q. Hi Oracle!

Why All Your Friends and Ghost Story don't have live version?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

They haven't been played live - simple as that.

 

6 November 2014 / submitted by Amanda, United States of America

Q. Dear Oracle, Is Coldplay coming back to New York? Anytime they have had a concert in recent years it always seems to be somewhere in the UK. Are they coming back to the Us, and more specifically NYC anytime soon?

THE ORACLE REPLIES >

That's not true, Amanda. If by recent years you mean the 2014 dates, they have performed in NYC (& L.A) more than anywhere else! The only UK dates for the Ghost Stories release were the Radio 1 Big Weekend in Glasgow and 2 nights at the Royal Albert Hall in London.

 

The last tour certainly covered America.

 

6 November 2014 / submitted by Adam , United Kingdom

Q. Hey Oracle, was Miracles specially written for the Unbroken soundtrack or was it just taken from the lp7 sessions?

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Yes, the song was written specifically for the film's soundtrack.

 

7 November 2014 / submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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I recently lost my Dad. He was 72 and had not been ill, then started to feel tired and unwell. From the start of him feeling off colour to his death was 6 weeks. From his diagnosis to his passing was 3 weeks. He died in my arms at 21.01 on April 16th and passed away very peacefully. If there is such a thing as a beautiful death, then my beautiful Dad had it. The air was so thick with love, that if love was a physical solid thing, you could almost have reached out and touched it.

The trouble is, although I see that it was a blessing that he didn't suffer, he didn't have to experience any traumatic treatments etc and that he was surrounded by me, my Mum and Brother in his final days, I am struggling terribly. He's gone, I'm never going to see him, hear his voice again, smell his amazing smell or hear him call me Looby Lou, and it's heartbreaking. People who know me well can see this has had a profound effect on me, they know how important he was to me and when I'm asked how I am, I just can't explain how bereft I feel. How on Earth will I ever feel like me again.

I keep being told to smile and be happy, that my Dad wouldn't want me to feel like this, but it doesn't change how much I miss him, it doesn't bring him back, it doesn't make it right. I have an 8 year son who had the most amazing relationship with his Grandad and he has been a Godsend, but he's asking me questions I can't answer like where has Grandad gone. Who knows?

I miss him, he was an amazing man who lived a full life, a Naval career for 28 years, an expedition leader to the Arctic several times, a British Empire Medal owner. It seems so unfair for someone so full of life to be taken from us. How does someone cope with the loss of the person who shaped her into the woman she is today, who instilled his life lessons and morals into me? I feel totally heartbroken but in the same breath am trying to keep things normal for my little boy. It's the hardest thing I have ever gone through and I can't see how I will ever feel like me again :(

Any advice is so gratefully accepted. Lisa, UK.

 

 

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7 November 2014 / submitted by Ana, Spain

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #192

I'm in a bad stage of my life, I recently broke up with my boyfriend and if I say the truth, I don't even know the really "why". Well, since we've broken up I've been spending the weeks thinking about it. Have I done well? I really want this? It's just like one day I think I really don't want to go back with him but at nights or when I hear Coldplay songs like The Scientist I cannot stop crying and thinking of him like my boyfriend again.

I know is something that I can only know by myself but sometimes I need help and well... be sincere with someone who listen to me. Thanks for reading and helping me.

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Sometimes you don't need a specific reason why. It could be a number of factors. You just have to trust your instinct. I think the reason you broke up is because something didn't work for you. If you can work out why you left him, you may find it easier to cope.

It's natural to question if you've done the right thing, especially when you miss someone / something. Of course you miss him and it's probably the habit of the relationship you miss too.

When you split up with someone, you cry for what you had that's gone and maybe even just the good times.

Break-ups can be unbearable even if it's your choice. It's like a bereavement. As it is a loss there will be grieving. What you're describing is a completely normal part of the process and unfortunately there isn't anything that can speed this up. I'm afraid you just have to ride the storm and know that you will eventually come through the other side.

Listening to sad songs can help get the emotions out but I think it's probably best if you don't at the moment - especially not at night. If you can resist contacting your ex and just spend time thinking about you and what you need. It's important those needs are met and that means doing what's best for you.

It can be hard talking to people about it but if you have supportive friends, tell them how you feel. Try writing a letter to yourself. Start with "Dear Ana," and write down everything you want for yourself and what you want foam a relationship. By doing this, you may see what you weren't getting.

Stay strong, Ana.

Over to you.

 

There there, breakups are always hard. It will always take time, it will always be hard to get over if it was a genuine relationship. This, however, doesn't mean that you made the wrong decision, or that you're to blame if things seem to be going wrong. Try and talk to him if you want to know the reason behind your breakup, and maybe even fix it. It also depends on how old you are, as studies show that the average person falls in love about 7 times before their final, lifelong relationship. You have to try and understand that not all relationships end in marriage and that you have to let go sometimes. If all else fails, you will find yourself eventually getting over it. It'll be overwhelming at first, but in the end it'll be totally worth it, once you taste freedom. Solaf.

 

It sounds like you need some time to find out what you really want. You sound very confused and some time for yourself would be good to help you clear your head and clarify the situation. You said that during the day you think you really don't want to go back with you ex. It doesn't sound like you don't know why you two broke up. My advice: Don't rush things. Take some time to evaluate your decision. Write down a list about things that were and weren't working in your relationship so you can have a global view. Breakups are hard but that doesn't mean that breaking up was a bad decision.

Wish you the best. Noelia, Argentina.

 

Ana, you say you're the one who call it quits but I mean if you still love him and he still feels the same way and there's no bad blood happened between the two of you then maybe I think you should guys work it out and get back together you know. Second chances are not that bad, sometimes it become sweeter. But, if you feel that it is right thing to do to part ways I think you should stop thinking and start living a new chapter in your life. Hurting is part of being in love, all people go through that pain. But heart heals as time goes by. But most, you're the only person who can help you to move on. You can go out with friends when you feel alone, do new things that will make you feel better or that will distract you from thinking of him and soon you'll feel okay again. :) Wish you nothin' but happiness! Love lots, Shaine from Philippines. xx

 

Maybe this time is the hardest to you, but please think it again why do you break up with your boyfriend. It's necessary to know the reason behind this story.

Did your boyfriend hurt you? Or always make you happy?

Do you want this break up? Or is it just temporary desire?

If he always hurt you, it's the best choice to leave him. Before you met and with him, you could happy. So without him, you can happy just like sometimes ago.

But if he love you so much, and you didn't want to break up, tell him that you love and want him come back. I know it's hard to choice, but your heart know the best for you. So much love, Verryna.

 

If you can't find reasons for break up, there were probably no enough reasons to go on in your relationship. Lack of feelings, common interests, love and other factors have led you to break up.

Think about what've been connecting you from the beginning? What was your relationship about, what was it based on?

Some love relationships are more like friendships, some are about solving problems, filling the holes, having fun, sharing interests etc.

Each relationship has some colors and dominating mood. Only you know what it was and why it stopped. Without any information, to me it seems that you both took the maximum of your relationship.

Not for bad, but for good. Now it's time to accept it as finished and take all good things from it as a growing and valid period of life.

There are relationships that must end. "And I discovered that my castles stand upon pillars of salt, pillars of sand."

I wish you relationship standing upon pillars of stone. Don't rush into next one, take your time, be yourself, live, breath and while listening The Scientist, hear the verse: "I'm going back to the start." So start again, looking forward to what life brings. "A simple plot, but I know one day, good things are coming your way!" With love, Kamili.

 

All I can tell you is that your feelings are normal. We tend to replay events in our heads searching for answers that may never be answered. It is okay to allow yourself time to mourn the ending of a relationship as it tends to change your daily life in a dramatic way. I remember feeling like this and it was all I could think about. I wondered if the hurt would ever go away and one day it did. I did not expect it to, but suddenly I was like, "hey, I am not thinking about so and so anymore." The best thing to do is try to keep yourself busy, especially at night when the demons surface to torment our minds. Try not to talk about it too much to people as after awhile they may end up pulling away from you. I suggest writing in a journal either your thoughts or poetry. It would also be a good idea to do something symbolic to bring closure to you, as it may not happen with the boyfriend. Write down how you feel and say good bye and burn it in a safe place. It may take time but if it is lasting too long or you are turning to unhealthy things to numb your pain, you should talk to your doctor. Best of luck, Marcia.

 

Ana, Nobody said it was easy. I applaud you for taking control of your life. It is a hard thing to do. I know how confident and beautiful you are without even meeting you just by your actions. You are feeling what millions of people, including me, have felt after a hard break-up. It may be hard to think of the positive right now, but think of all the happiness that can come out of it. Spend time with family and friends in order to help keep your mind away from negative thoughts. You will get over this and help will come, I promise. Everything in our lives happens for a reason. Much love, Dori.

 

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