blackchickintheback Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 I haven't posted in a while. But man do I need a somewhere to vent my current frustrations. God. Sometimes I really don't like my friends. I dont know if it's a teenage angst thing and I'm just way to mature to want to deal with their bullshit, but sometimes they can be really insensitive. Or maybe I'm just being extra sensitive because of my feminine issue right now. :uhoh: Ok. So Coldplay's coming into town on Wednesday, and I have been gearing up for this thing for at least two months. And I told all of my friends how excited I was and etc. And as usual they just shrug it off as one of my odd quirks and ignore me. I'd just like to say that I at least try to be supportive of my friends whenever things go their way. I don't know how to explain this. I have the neediest group of friends. I don't know, I seem to attract offbeat people, which is great, but some of those offbeat folks are just...fucking needy. And I'm such a fucking sucker that I NEED to help people constantly; my best friend for example is the neediest person I have ever EVER met. She's always doing something STUPID, and she comes crying to me begging me to help. Boys, drugs, you name it, one of my friends has a problem with it. :dozey: Anyway, long story short, I signed up to be an Oxfam volunteer to go to my favorite band's concert for free that I couldn't afford to go to otherwise. But I have a friend, one of the less needy ones, who is moving away and the group is throwing her a party on the same day as the concert. I'm the only one who can't go and it's crushing me. (i have to be at the venue at 4pm, concert's at 7pm). And all of my friends are being so fucking mean about it. I don't even think that the friend that the party is for would even mind, because my group of friends treated her like shit sophomore year of high school, and some people still treat her like shit and make fun of her just because she's different or whatever. I'm one of the few people that actually stayed by her and was a true friend. I will ALWAYS be there for her, I always have. I was the one that sat next to her at lunch when no one else did. I was the one that made her feel better when she was crying in the bathroom. And I'm glad that everyone's all buddy buddy now, but I don't appreciate everyone crying on my shoulder all the time, expecting me to be their rock, and then turn around and treat me like shit when I decide to do something for myself?! I'm always the person people turn to asking for help and advice, but when I need something, it's a fucking problem. Who's going to be my rock?! I'm sorry that I didn't stop to think, "Oh, my friends are going to throw a last minute party on May 20." when I was filling out the Oxfam application two months ago. I don't feel guilty for choosing my prior arrangements over some last minute party. I just wish I didn't get as much shit for it. And this isn't just about the concert, it's a daily thing. Like, my "best friend" is always begging me to help her get out of some stupid situation- some fucking loser boy, her parents, drugs- but when I say I can't hang out with her, or I hang out with my more "normal", less needy friends, she's the first one to throw me under the bus. Thank God I'm going to college in the fall and away from these assholes. I hope I can go to sleep now that I got that off of my chest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
busybeeburns Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 bravo! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saffire Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Aww Jenika, I know you'll get a better batch of friends once you're in college! You're such a sweet girl. Now go get some shut-eye! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
noonsun Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 That sucks. Your friends need to take a Maturation-o-Pill. :( Have fun at the concert, even though... that'll probably be sort of difficult. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ricardo Posted May 17, 2009 Share Posted May 17, 2009 oh well, it's very hard to find true friends :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ivet Posted May 17, 2009 Share Posted May 17, 2009 kudos for a worthwhile rant and for choosing your plans over others. and im sorry you gut shit friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Space Cadet Posted May 17, 2009 Share Posted May 17, 2009 Urm... isn't that the working definition of a parasite? Someone or something that lives off of its host but never gives anything back? Sleep well and sweet dreams. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted May 17, 2009 Share Posted May 17, 2009 Glad you're back to the forum. Today: - 1 Paul +1 blackchickintheback Great math for the forum! ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starlight Posted May 17, 2009 Share Posted May 17, 2009 Girl, I know how you feel. :( It's not your fault, they'll just have to accept it all. *hugs* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cobalt Posted May 17, 2009 Share Posted May 17, 2009 I'm going to put it bluntly. Your friends are being typical "me, me, ME!" teenage girl morons. Best get some new ones or tell them to shape up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spoon Posted May 17, 2009 Share Posted May 17, 2009 Glad you're back to the forum. Today: - 1 Paul +1 blackchickintheback Great math for the forum! ;) :confused: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackchickintheback Posted May 25, 2009 Author Share Posted May 25, 2009 *update I had the GREATEST time at the concert. :D And my friend who the party was for didn't even mind. And I graduated on Friday so I'm freeeeee. I win. :D Thanks for the kind words, everyone :nice: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crests Posted May 25, 2009 Share Posted May 25, 2009 yay :hug: good luck with the rest of your life :nice: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
localola86 Posted May 25, 2009 Share Posted May 25, 2009 *update I had the GREATEST time at the concert. :D And my friend who the party was for didn't even mind. And I graduated on Friday so I'm freeeeee. I win. :D Thanks for the kind words, everyone :nice: YAY! I don't really know you, but I read your rant, and even thou I can't relate, I can understand Cool that everything worked out :lol: For the summer, maybe you could spent quality time with your family I guess, instead of these needy friends. Oh, yeah, you'll make friends in college, so don't sweat it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cobalt Posted May 25, 2009 Share Posted May 25, 2009 *update I had the GREATEST time at the concert. :D And my friend who the party was for didn't even mind. And I graduated on Friday so I'm freeeeee. I win. :D Thanks for the kind words, everyone :nice: You know, I'd be even more annoyed at this that the party-intended-for-person didn't even care and people were being drama llamas for no reason but hey, all worked out well :nice: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Perrine* Posted May 25, 2009 Share Posted May 25, 2009 I totally understand how you feel ! So cool for your show, IMO you choosed well ;) And don't worry, sometimes you just need to change ALL of your friends, and college is the perfect opportunity for that ! Good luck ! :nice: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
noonsun Posted May 25, 2009 Share Posted May 25, 2009 Yay! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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