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Why aren't you successful?

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Give yourself an overview and think about the obstacles and challenges that you have experienced in your life.

 

What are the impediments that keep you from being successful?

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1. Success is totally subjective, and is difficult to quantify.

2. People can be successful in a myriad of ways.

3. Success is a journey, not a destination.;)

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You haven't been able to get a job because of your age?

You haven't been able to get a job because of your age?

 

You aren't automatically sucessful because you have a job

You aren't automatically sucessful because you have a job

 

Hence my points above.;)

For example, doing a job you hate is most definitely not "success".

Combination of things... right now it's:

 

1. I was arrested in Feb on a bogus charge, so I have that on my record still (I'm waiting for the solicitor to expunge it).

 

2. I'm terribly shy, unless I'm around people I already know or I have mutual friends with. I suppose you could call it social anxiety.

 

3. I'm sort of young. (23)

 

4. I don't know the right people (this ties in with #2)

 

But on the flipside, I've got a TON going for me:

 

1. I'm a (relatively) handsome white male. I'm gay, so that's the only area where I'm open to irrational societal prejudices. But it could definitely be worse.

 

2. I was born in America. As much as I rag on this country, it's still one of the better places to live in the world. Wouldn't mind having been born in Switzerland or Australia, but again, it could have been MUCH worse... like if I were born in Somalia or something.

 

3. It's the year 2009. Everyone here should thank their blessed stars they weren't born in the 1400's, or 2,000 BC. Seriously. I sort of wish I had been born in the year 3000, though, because I'm an optimist about the future. But who knows? Maybe this is the golden age of humanity and it's all downhill from here... I sure hope not.

 

4. I have lots of people who love me. I don't know if I could make it a day without my friends and family here.

 

5. I have a car, and a roof over my head.

 

So all in all, I think I'm in the perfect place to "launch" and be successful in life. Here's hoping I just don't blow it.

Combination of things... right now it's:

 

1. I was arrested in Feb on a bogus charge, so I have that on my record still (I'm waiting for the solicitor to expunge it).

 

2. I'm terribly shy, unless I'm around people I already know or I have mutual friends with. I suppose you could call it social anxiety.

 

3. I'm sort of young. (23)

 

4. I don't know the right people (this ties in with #2)

 

But on the flipside, I've got a TON going for me:

 

1. I'm a (relatively) handsome white male. I'm gay, so that's the only area where I'm open to irrational societal prejudices. But it could definitely be worse.

 

2. I was born in America. As much as I rag on this country, it's still one of the better places to live in the world. Wouldn't mind having been born in Switzerland or Australia, but again, it could have been MUCH worse... like if I were born in Somalia or something.

 

3. It's the year 2009. Everyone here should thank their blessed stars they weren't born in the 1400's, or 2,000 BC. Seriously. I sort of wish I had been born in the year 3000, though, because I'm an optimist about the future. But who knows? Maybe this is the golden age of humanity and it's all downhill from here... I sure hope not.

 

4. I have lots of people who love me. I don't know if I could make it a day without my friends and family here.

 

5. I have a car, and a roof over my head.

 

So all in all, I think I'm in the perfect place to "launch" and be successful in life. Here's hoping I just don't blow it.

 

That is a very good response.

Combination of things... right now it's:

 

1. I was arrested in Feb on a bogus charge, so I have that on my record still (I'm waiting for the solicitor to expunge it).

 

2. I'm terribly shy, unless I'm around people I already know or I have mutual friends with. I suppose you could call it social anxiety.

 

3. I'm sort of young. (23)

 

4. I don't know the right people (this ties in with #2)

 

But on the flipside, I've got a TON going for me:

 

1. I'm a (relatively) handsome white male. I'm gay, so that's the only area where I'm open to irrational societal prejudices. But it could definitely be worse.

 

2. I was born in America. As much as I rag on this country, it's still one of the better places to live in the world. Wouldn't mind having been born in Switzerland or Australia, but again, it could have been MUCH worse... like if I were born in Somalia or something.

 

3. It's the year 2009. Everyone here should thank their blessed stars they weren't born in the 1400's, or 2,000 BC. Seriously. I sort of wish I had been born in the year 3000, though, because I'm an optimist about the future. But who knows? Maybe this is the golden age of humanity and it's all downhill from here... I sure hope not.

 

4. I have lots of people who love me. I don't know if I could make it a day without my friends and family here.

 

5. I have a car, and a roof over my head.

 

So all in all, I think I'm in the perfect place to "launch" and be successful in life. Here's hoping I just don't blow it.

 

Maybe you're already "successful" but you haven't realised it yet.;)

That is a very good response.

 

It is, because he's accentuating the "positives" rather than the "negatives".;)

It is, because he's accentuating the "positives" rather than the "negatives".;)

 

Everything is always better when you accentuate the positives.

Very true indeed. This is something Victor could do with learning.

 

;)

 

Everything is always better when you accentuate the positives.

Oh and I nearly forgot, I'm healthy. No wheelchair, cancer, birth defects, or mental illness.

 

That's a huge advantage considering how many drugs and medical expenses most people have. At the rate I'm going, though, my body will start to break down eventually... I need to exercise more and keep eating healthy.

Oh and I nearly forgot, I'm healthy. No wheelchair, cancer, birth defects, or mental illness.

 

That's a huge advantage considering how many drugs and medical expenses most people have. At the rate I'm going, though, my body will start to break down eventually... I need to exercise more and keep eating healthy.

 

All excellent points.:cool:

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Many people believe that success is to have just fame and fortune, but in reality, the people who achieve this kind of success lack many other important things in life that are very influential, useful, and long lasting.

Indeed! :clap:

 

Many people believe that success is to have just fame and fortune, but in reality, the people who achieve this kind of success lack many other important things in life that are very influential, useful, and long lasting.

 

Spot on. Avarice is most definitely not a successful trait.;)

I think you are sucessful if you love yourself in a non-narcissistic way.

I think you are sucessful if you love yourself in a non-narcistic way.

 

I assume you mean narcissistic.;)

I will edit. You are correct and my spelling is that of a teenager.

I will edit. You are correct and my spelling is that of a teenager.

 

I wasn't criticising, just trying to be helpful.;)

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I will edit. You are correct and my spelling is that of a teenager.

 

:cheesy:

 

Don't be ashamed, it can happen to anyone.

I wasn't criticising, just trying to be helpful.;)

 

I know. Through my unwillingness to use smilies, I have trouble expressing expressions.

:cheesy:

 

Don't be ashamed, it can happen to anyone.

 

And some (e.g. Victor) more than most!!:lol:

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