Okay, this is a serious thread. I came up with this idea on a cab, while I was running late for a meeting.

 

One can formulate some questions, just as...

 

What are your views on infidelity?

Do you think there are major infidelities (i.e. hook up) and minor ones (kissing or flirting maybe?)

Have you ever cheated on your partner?

Have you ever been a victim of "cheating"?

Would you forgive one or... have you already?

 

Feel free to contribute as much as you want to this thread. :escaping2:

I have no tolerance for people that cheat on people. If they want to cheat or be with someone else then breakup or something.

Well, I understand your reasoning here, but... it's not as easy as just breaking up cause you might really love your partner and at the same time be tempted (I know that sounds awful) with many other people you can meet in your life, just because we're humans...

 

Anyway, there's another question... Do you consider cheating that your partner cheats on you but later tells you about it?

 

... There are actually many couples that love each other but they allow such things, because they want a "free love". They believe actual love is different to plain sex. Strange, ain't it?

Haha, took me a minute to remember what that word meant...

 

I'm personally an easily jealous attention whore and the idea of a significant other cheating is pretty terrible. :tongue:

Well, I understand your reasoning here, but... it's not as easy as just breaking up cause you might really love your partner and at the same time be tempted (I know that sounds awful) with many other people you can meet in your life, just because we're humans...

 

Like you said, it also depends on the situation, I think. :uhoh:

ive thought about this one for a while

 

ive never been nor have i myself cheated on anyone

i also dont talk shit...

 

i dont know how id feel about an "open relationship" on one side i think it'd take the stress off the relationship if there wasnt so much worry about being tempted

 

but something like that... would require A LOT of trust that both partners would be responsible and open about who else theyve been with and careful and willing to get tested and such.

 

in theory i think i'd be okay with it and have that kind of freedom with my bf but .. i dk. i may feel diferently once im a relationship... if theyre too gorgeous and lovely i may want them all to myself. :P

Depends on the situation. Monogamy is hard. A lot of people who don't love the people they're with cheat on them, and I don't think that's immoral in and of itself, but it does hurt the person they're with, particularly if that person still loves them. But breaking up in that kind of situation isn't always the best thing (children etc). It's complicated.

 

Would I forgive somebody who cheated on me? I don't know. Possibly.

In what world is cheating not immoral...?

I'm against it. I would never do it if I was in a relationship. If I ever felt tempted I think I'd be able to control it cos I'm just not into that, but if I didn't love the person I'm with, I'd end it.

 

If you can't handle a serious relationship or don't feel like commiting then just don't have a serious one :/

i hate it when lexxie cheats on me :mean:

^Silly bear.

you do. you went on big sexy date and left me at home :bigcry:

 

If you can't handle a serious relationship or don't feel like commiting then just don't have a serious one :/

I concur.

In what world is cheating not immoral...?

 

If neither of the original pair loves each other, how is it possibly immoral?

 

edit: And you don't necessarily know upon entering a serious relationship if you can keep it up. Love fades.

Well, I understand your reasoning here, but... it's not as easy as just breaking up cause you might really love your partner and at the same time be tempted (I know that sounds awful) with many other people you can meet in your life, just because we're humans...

 

Anyway, there's another question... Do you consider cheating that your partner cheats on you but later tells you about it?

 

... There are actually many couples that love each other but they allow such things, because they want a "free love". They believe actual love is different to plain sex. Strange, ain't it?

 

I understand what you are saying in that it wouldn't be easy to breakup. But personally I couldn't live w/ myself and would have so much guilt if i did cheat. My conscience would get to me.

 

I wouldn't cheat if my wife/gf cheated on me. I feel regardless of the situation it's not morally right. Two wrongs don't make a right.

 

If couples come to an mutual decision/understanding that they want to see other people sometimes then that's fine, but I feel it's terrible to lead someone on thinking they've been faithful when they haven't.

 

I may be old fashioned in the subject but I feel that cheating is something that is terrible and trust is a huge part to relationships (friendships, love, family, etc).

 

I'm against it. I would never do it if I was in a relationship. If I ever felt tempted I think I'd be able to control it cos I'm just not into that, but if I didn't love the person I'm with, I'd end it.

 

If you can't handle a serious relationship or don't feel like commiting then just don't have a serious one :/

I agree.

If neither of the original pair loves each other, how is it possibly immoral?

 

If they're married, whether they still love each other doesn't really matter... does the word adultery mean anything to you?

 

Or if they're not married and aren't in love anymore, why are they even still together? It's still cheating. Unless they're for open relationships or something then it probably doesn't matter.

 

edit: And you don't necessarily know upon entering a serious relationship if you can keep it up. Love fades.

 

I don't think that is reason for cheating. I think that if you don't love someone anymore, you should either find ways to make the relationship work or end it, especially if you would rather be with someone else...

 

Just my opinion.

the thing about infidelity that's so horrible is not the sexual act itself, but the lying, the betrayal of the trust, the going behind the other person's back & completely disregarding the life the couple made together. i've never cheated or been cheated on, but there is absolutely no circumstance where it is acceptable. i would never forgive a cheater. if you're tempted, talk to your significant other about the troubles in your relationship. if they can't reason then just break up w/ them.

 

if a guy told me he cheated i do still consider it cheating & would break up w/ him right away.

If they're married, whether they still love each other doesn't really matter... does the word adultery mean anything to you?

 

Or if they're not married and aren't in love anymore, why are they even still together? It's still cheating. Unless they're for open relationships or something then it probably doesn't matter.

 

I don't believe people who stay married should be bound by moral law to not sleep with anybody else if they don't still love the person they married. So no, I guess the word adultery doesn't mean much to me.

 

People stay together for lots of reasons, some people who would otherwise get a divorce choose to stay together for "the children's sake" -- these things are complicated. I try not to be judgmental.

Okay, this is a serious thread. I came up with this idea on a cab, while I was running late for a meeting.

 

One can formulate some questions, just as...

 

1. What are your views on infidelity?

2. Do you think there are major infidelities (i.e. hook up) and minor ones (kissing or flirting maybe?)

3. Have you ever cheated on your partner?

4. Have you ever been a victim of "cheating"?

5. Would you forgive one or... have you already?

 

Feel free to contribute as much as you want to this thread. :escaping2:

 

1. it depends on the situation but with the seriousness that i regard my relationships infidelity is massive. there was a time when there was a chance i would let something slide but those years are behind me. i think it is natural for some people to flirt and so things like that i'm ok with, and you have to be kidding yourself if you don't think after a long time of being with you your partner won't have slight crushes on other people, but the key thing is that this is in their head and nowhere near as meaningful as the things they feel for you.

 

2. for me a kiss is really bad, but sex is a lot worse. kissing somebody else would still probably be worth a breakup (depending on circumstances - whilst others may disagree alcohol an be a mitigating circumstance) but sex definitely would definitely mean breaking up. there is plenty of time to assess exactly what is happening and to put a stop to it, whereas a kiss may catch them aware and only last a second or two. like i said i'm quite lax when it comes to my partners flirting. the reason behind this is i never want to encroach on my partners life too much. i want to be a part of it and not in control. they have to make their own decisions, and if their decisions put them in a position where they have broken our trust then that is their own fault and their has to be consequences for these actions such as a breakup. basically i give them as much freedom as they want, but i let them know that if they cross the line that will be that.

 

3. i have never cheated on anybody. i have broken up with somebody because i started liking somebody else and i have rejected advances from girls i really liked because i was with others. i have too much of a conscience to do that to somebody.

 

4. yes, my first two relationships i got cheated on but they were a long time ago.

 

5. there is always a slight chance things can work out and forgiveness found and trust regained, but generally speaking i'm quite harsh when it comes to infidelity. i need to totally trust and it just isn't worth the paranoia to stay with someone you don't trust. you have to look after number one.

 

 

 

 

incidentally, this is just my views. it just depends what works best for you. as mentioned some people have open relationships and kudos to them, i just couldn't myself.

i would also like to say that as far as i'm concerned marriage means fuck all when it comes down to it.

 

it's a silly religious thing with good tax benefits or getting people citizenship to your country.

 

nah, obviously it's more than that. it's a massive statement about your love and i myself want to get married someday, however if it comes to a point where there is no future ahead of you it means nothing and is simply a document that relates to the past when you loved each other. relationships evolve.

 

your relationship means much more than a piece of paper and change of name.

Okay, this is a serious thread. I came up with this idea on a cab, while I was running late for a meeting.

 

One can formulate some questions, just as...

 

1 What are your views on infidelity?

2 Do you think there are major infidelities (i.e. hook up) and minor ones (kissing or flirting maybe?)

3 Have you ever cheated on your partner?

4 Have you ever been a victim of "cheating"?

5 Would you forgive one or... have you already?

 

Feel free to contribute as much as you want to this thread. :escaping2:

 

1 Generally bad thing unless it was like agreed upon that it was a casualish relationship anyway

2 yes of course, I get peeved off with the really minor ones like flirting tho, I fail

3 yes and I was stupid to, only minorly (kissing) but

4 yes majorly

5 I have but I'm still bitter about it.

 

Anyway, there's another question... Do you consider cheating that your partner cheats on you but later tells you about it?

 

Uhh yeah! Cheating is cheating -_-