Why divorces?

 

 

explain me why I hear everywhere divorce.....

 

even in my own family...

 

while the others are single, and hopes to be loved. and lose their humanity to be alone... :cry:

 

 

 

people who divorce are selfish. because they have all . and do not talk in couple. and do not even know the sex practice, because is boring.

.. Well, my parents are divorced, too, and even though I miss my dad, I think that divorces aren't always a bad thing. My mum & my dad are way happierer now, than before. And I don't think that people who are divorced are selfish, sometimes divorces are the best thing for both of them. :|

You're saying that divorce is selfish?

If it ain't working ... It ain't working and sometimes it's better for them to move on and meet someone new.

And I don't think that people who are divorced are selfish, sometimes divorces are the best thing for both of them. :|

This. and also the best thing for other people around them, like the children.

it's so easy. and children is the first to suffer in the family .

 

why they were married then ?

 

I say selfish because people do not communicate. and it becomes routine.

 

I can say that if I was married, my husband would never have time to get bored or even the children.

Because is something so precious .

because I remember in my childhood. I had all of my parents. great joy my mother even made my own clothes. the best food for me and them less. because not money in home

(migrated to 70 have nothing but much more racism and difficult to be integrated )

 

but one day my mother wanted to work to have much money to live better and the family was completely lost.

 

 

selfish people want everything for themselves and ends is divorce.

I'm sorry if your parents got divorced, I can only imagine how difficult that is. . .

But you think it's selfish for someone to be happy? Like said earlier, often a divorce is better than staying together because they're happier when they're apart. I think it's a basic right to be happy.

My parents were divorced and they are still very good friends. They both are much happier and so is our family. My brothers and sisters would be much more miserable in a house of kids and parents who haven't loved each other for 8 years.

 

That is by no means selfish.

 

On the other hand, my stepfather divorced my mother after four years of marrige, took all the family's money, and then tried to kidnap us children in an attempt to fuck up my mother's life. He also married another woman while knowing her for only 3 months after divorcing my mom and didn't even tell any one in his family. I really think it would have been far worse if they hadn't been divorced.

 

It kind of depends on the situation the couple are in while divorcing.

i have not exsperianced haveing aprets divorced. but I can imagine that it would be hard to handle. Sometimes it is selfish and sometimes it is for the best.

But you think it's selfish for someone to be happy? Like said earlier, often a divorce is better than staying together because they're happier when they're apart. I think it's a basic right to be happy.

 

It is selfish when you just pursuit happiness without thinking of other people around you and how that can affect them. (e.g. is it right to abandon your children just because you aren't happy with them?)

 

@ Lory, I think I understand where you are coming from, but don't blame on divorce the current situation of your family. Blame the people who might take it for the wrong reasons or think that marriage and family is just a game.

 

As many people stated already divorce is just the best option when a couple just don't get along anymore and are just destroying their lives and their children.

Divorces don't necessarily split a family... Sometimes they even make it better.

I'm lucky that my parents aren't divorced. Currently my Aunt is going through one and I think that she's doing the right thing. Of course I don't want to discuss why because it's her private life, but basically her husband (who is such an asshole), really manipulated a lot and made her life terrible especially recently. So I feel that it is good for her to do this to be free and also start her life over. Also another good thing is though she is extremely angry with him, she doesn't bad mouth him in front of her kids, which I feel is extremely important to not thus force the kids to start to pick sides.

 

So I don't think that people getting a divorce is being selfish. I mean if you lived with say a roommate for a while or was in a relationship and didn't love the person or get along would you still stay together with them just because?

 

I think it is selfish though when the process gets ugly and it becomes a battle over money and making the other persons life a hell throughout the process. There should just be a mutual agreement to split up and then make the process as smooth as possible.

 

Of course I feel bad for the children, but in some sense I think it'd almost be better for parents to split up just simply because as a child you probably wouldn't want to be in an environment where your parents are constantly arguing.

Stupid topic, Lory you make everything sound so simple.

Reilly, you make everything sound so puerile.

Reilly, you make everything sound so puerile.

 

I had to look that word up. :wacky:

while the others are single, and hopes to be loved. and lose their humanity to be alone... :cry:

 

people who divorce are selfish. because they have all . and do not talk in couple. and do not even know the sex practice, because is boring.

I loose humanity because I am single? Or I don't get it?

What is 'do not know the sex practice'? Is that having sex? People on the verge of getting divorced do not have sex because it's boring? Or I don't get it?

Reilly, you make everything sound so puerile.

 

What the hell? I basically agreed with you.

 

As for being puerile, you have Donald Duck in a Nazi uniform as your avatar. How mature is that.

My parents were divorced and they are still very good friends. They both are much happier and so is our family. My brothers and sisters would be much more miserable in a house of kids and parents who haven't loved each other for 8 years.

 

That is by no means selfish.

 

On the other hand, my stepfather divorced my mother after four years of marrige, took all the family's money, and then tried to kidnap us children in an attempt to fuck up my mother's life. He also married another woman while knowing her for only 3 months after divorcing my mom and didn't even tell any one in his family. I really think it would have been far worse if they hadn't been divorced.

 

It kind of depends on the situation the couple are in while divorcing.

 

Each story divorce is deferring for each family, I am sorry for your family too

 

 

The problem was the education of my mother, ( a father much strict)

No birthdays, no holidays. nothing of Christmas. and never leave. 16h jams at home without going outside to play with other children.

My mother fled the house 17 years old with my father, because parents did not want them getting married.

emigrated to Switzerland.

 

that's why 40 years old divorce.

 

she remarry a man who just wanted the papers. him to steal all the money. and go in his country.

she realized she was only one family. only love my father returned home.

ans soon divorced from the second .

 

 

but the consequent are bad, because in that time, no structure family, my sister was a teen was attacked in the street. but luckily she found a kind husband. accepted all its paranoia (attacked)

and I confined myself, ina black room trying to console everyone in family. Reading, watching too much TV. depression. going in directions of work with no sense as a designer and find love. but finding that men devoid of love.

 

 

Now what I'm doing with my life? nothing. found anything in my life nothing. I am devoid of humanity in my life. incapable of loving.

become alone all my life .

 

then yes I think people are selfish. they have love and is the futility for them ...

in a marriage is communication and sex, not that important in society, evolve, friends, neighbor or I do not know the dog...

Don't forget that many divorces happen nowadays because people get married for the wrong reasons in the first place.:dozey:

or I do not know the dog...

 

:confused:

I loose humanity because I am single? Or I don't get it?

What is 'do not know the sex practice'? Is that having sex? People on the verge of getting divorced do not have sex because it's boring? Or I don't get it?

 

never lost your value in your heart you have humanity .

and you it's because men just looking fun, then you made the same thing.

you searched for true love. but true be loved for himself.

everyone needs love in life, but found the right person is difficult. people are becoming so superficial in life.

 

people not have value, when they are married long time.

 

forget the first value to be happy in life and is love. the first thing that parents have shown is love for daughters/sons. and is you having an identity, personality to move in good sense to be happy in life.

I don't understand. Maybe it's easier for me to just answer with yes or no?

:confused:

 

today. the pets are best friends. their affections is free.

people do not have enough value of humanity. the pets much more.

today. the pets are best friends. their affections is free.

people do not have enough value of humanity. the pets much more.

:wtf:

today. the pets are best friends. their affections is free.

people do not have enough value of humanity. the pets much more.

 

That's true.:dozey:

as I have said I am a single person, I have no friends, and my only friends is my two cats.

 

and people still believes that divorce is a beautiful thing......