Someone of your same sex declares, out of nowhere, a strong affection to you?

 

I mean, that they're really attracted to you.

That could be your friend, acquaintance, someone you've known for a while... But you obviously never expected that from them.

 

I'm so curious, that I added a poll... :blank:

Who are you admitting your undying love to then? :charming:

It's happened to me before.

I just said I was flattered but I was straight.

Nothing changed.

This happened to me too,

It was really odd because I'm only a teenager

 

I just told my friend that I didnt swing that way

I would freak out.

Who are you admitting your undying love to then? :charming:

 

Not really.

 

I made this thread because it also happened to me, with a friend of mine (some weeks ago). But I don't think I handled the situation well... I felt incredibly awkward. And I've been feeling like it just ruined the friendship (or at least in regards to my attitude).

 

But, what are you supposed to say then? like... omg, that's great! :confused:

You have to talk to the person that confessed to you then and sort things out I know it will be very awkward but its worth getting it all out of the way

I would find it awkward :lol:

About the same awkwardness as if a person of the opposite sex whom I despised asked me out :thinking:

But I won't lie, I'd also find it incredibly flattering too :awesome:

I would maybe try to act light hearted and not be like UBBER DISGUST OMFG GET AWAY D:

and sort of appreciate the fact that it's maybe taken that person a lot of guts to confess to me.

You have to talk to the person that confessed to you then and sort things out I know it will be very awkward but its worth getting it all out of the way

 

I know, All's been getting back to normality, I believe...

But still, I think it must really suck for people that confess their love to their friends and it just can't be requited. :blank:

 

It brings to my head the stories of Christian Andersen, García Lorca or even Tchaikovsky, whose secret love for other men might not always be fulfilled causing them pain.

 

Now curiously the "flattered" option is winning. :awesome:

It hasnt happened to me but the thing is that my friends and I are very open with "love stuff" and we talk about it a lot from time to time, simply because we're curious about how the other people feel.

 

At the same time it'd be more awkward if a close friend declared the love for me than if someone I didnt know well did it, not because the person would be gay but becuase it was a close friend. It'd be weird if a guy friend did it too if I didnt feel the same way.

 

I voted for "combination of both" but I wouldnt get upset, I'd just feel a bit weird about it so I should have picked "flatteing" instead :thinking:.

 

Not really.

 

I made this thread because it also happened to me, with a friend of mine (some weeks ago). But I don't think I handled the situation well... I felt incredibly awkward. And I've been feeling like it just ruined the friendship (or at least in regards to my attitude).

 

But, what are you supposed to say then? like... omg, that's great! :confused:

Haha dont say it's "GREAT :awesome:" if you dont think so. Just tell them that you're not into guys but that you still want to be their friend. Maybe it's you who feel that it ruined the friendship because the other guy is gay and you feel weird about it. If you could get over that maybe your friendship could be saved. Just guessing :bomb:

Hey, someone likes you. What's not flattering about that? :shrug:

 

I guess I would react to it the same way I would react if one of my good guy friends who I care about dearly but in an entirely platonic way said the same out of the blue. I'd try to pull my head together so I wouldn't say anything to stupid, and I would talk to them about it. Say how flattered I am and how much I do care about them and value their friendship, but explain that a romantic relationship isn't an option for us. It takes a lot of guts to confess something like that.

 

At the same time, if it was a girl who I was close to and I really truly had no idea that they even went that way, yeah that would be really awkward. I guess I would probably be a bit confused and hurt that they felt that they hadn't been able to trust me up to that point.

Personally I would be flattered, but I would just have to explain to them, "hey I'm flattered, but I just don't swing that way, sorry."

 

It has probably taken the person a long time to build up the courage to even let you know, so you have to respect that. And the person probably went into the conversation hoping that it wouldn't change your friendship if you turned them down... so going into it they likely prepared themself mentally for the possibility that you would say no.

 

I'm curious... did you already know that the person was attracted members of the same sex, or did that revelation come as an utter surprise to you also?

Honestly, I'd probably be more upset that I couldn't get guys to see me that way than flattered that a girl did.

Well it depends, if it's someone I don't know well, I wouldn't care (and haven't in the past), in fact even if a girl I wasn't attracted to thought I'm good looking I still wouldn't care, I guess its nicer then being called ugly? That's the positive?

 

I voted 'upset' because I didn't read the thread carefully enough, I should have gone for a combination. I just picked up on 'close friend', if they are really attracted to you, like they feel in love, then I'd be upset for them, in a way I'd feel sorry that they let their emotions get so out of control that they love someone they know nothing can happen with, but it'd be terrible for them, and as their friend I'd really feel bad for them.

 

Then you'd need a bit of time and space, and that's not in a homophobic "in case the weirdo tries to bum me when we're alone" kinda way, but it works the same for heterosexuals, for example if you're in a relationship and have a close friend who just comes out with it that they really like you. You don't just hang around again as if nothing happened, because then nothings changed and they're going to just draw themselves in more and more, they need some time to get their head straight and get over it, but this situation whether between same sex or not, can ruin friendships.

 

I find it weird the knee-jerk reaction seems to be that everyones flattered.

If I found them attractive and I was single suggest taking it to the bedroom I expect.

Cool. If I like them enough, hookup tiem!! Although I'd be worried for them if they were like really REALLY 'zomg I LARVS U' sorta state, and wouldn't do anything with them, because that would just encourage it. If I didn't like them too much I'd feel a bit bad for them. I know too much what unrequited feelings are like :blank:

I actually wouldn't be all that surprised for some reason, but probably a mixture of the two.

Hm, but now that I think about it, I might also be a bit upset too... those are due to more selfish reasons though.

If it was one of my best friends our relationship would change, but it'd still work, providing they were happy with just being friends. I would be surprised as hell though, since I'm sure I know all my best friends' sexualities.

if i was single and they were cute i'd go for it :charming:

if i was single and they were cute i'd go for it :charming:

 

I beat you to that answer:P.

Anyone who is already into the same sex, what if they knew you were gay, but a guy friend went for you? That could be more weird, since if you're out, that's a statement. If you're not out, you could be either way behind closed doors.

Anyone who is already into the same sex, what if they knew you were gay, but a guy friend went for you? That could be more weird, since if you're out, that's a statement. If you're not out, you could be either way behind closed doors.

 

I've had a few lame drunken advances from guy friends but they wern't actually serious about, them just messing around.If a guy friend was serious I would find it very awkward, I wouldn't be angry or upset with them just I would feel very uncomfortable.

I think I'd be flattered at first, just to have someone show they like me, but I think unfortunately it would be very awkward afterwards.

 

It's not really the same thing but I went to school and there was this woman who (was quite older...haha), and I got along with because we shared the same interests, but basically she admitted she had strong feelings for me, which of course I didn't have back. Needless to say it was pretty awkward from then on and the friendship was ended (mainly by me, because overtime I found her to be creepy).

 

I think it'd be difficult regardless of the sex just because if you're already established as friends so trying to move things onto a relationship territory makes it more complex, ESPECIALLY if the feelings are not mutual.

I would be like, no way :surprised:

I'm so pretty, even girls like me.