Prospekt. Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 if you needed to go to school there for 4 years to do what you wanted. 4 years isn't that long, but youre leaving behind your family and friends... all to live in a place you kind of hate (although you hav'nt had much of an impression yet) And you're leaving behind your SO, and the relationship.... you want it to last but stats are against you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoryABjerre Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 what your heart tells you ? priority to what is most important to you in your life, and the things to be taken the choices you do not regret them later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prospekt. Posted May 15, 2011 Author Share Posted May 15, 2011 what your heart tells you ? priority to what is most important to you in your life, and the things to be taken the choices you do not regret them later. but what is love? love in pain right? so is it really worth it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoryABjerre Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 Love should never hurt if you really love, because is a gift. love is a communication, to be happy that gives you a power in life. Never lose love, because is an enhancement that helps you get ahead in life. and is love yourself in first, yes you are not nothing in life for things that you will undertake and the people you'll meet. and your value is most important, never lost . you are person importante because you heart is a matter of value to be. you deserve the best, and after rain is shine ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Petit Prince Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 love in pain right? so is it really worth it? Personally, I would do whatever's best for my career. Then again I haven't been very lucky when it comes to love so maybe I'm not the best person to ask. If your relationship is the main thing that keeps you from going to this school, definitely ask yourself whether your partner would be prepared to do the same thing for you. I met my boyfriend while he was at uni in the same city. He then moved back home for financial reasons, which is fair enough. He always told me that he wanted to live close to his hometown and seeing as he's got a full-time job and I just finished my degree, I thought it would make sense for me to do my Masters in a city that is close to where he lives. However, he's now got a good job offer in Ireland and altough he did ask me how I felt about, it's not like I could have stopped him from going. I don't really want to either, he should do whatever makes him happy. Still I can't help feeling let down because I would have moved for him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prospekt. Posted May 16, 2011 Author Share Posted May 16, 2011 Personally, I would do whatever's best for my career. Then again I haven't been very lucky when it comes to love so maybe I'm not the best person to ask. If your relationship is the main thing that keeps you from going to this school, definitely ask yourself whether your partner would be prepared to do the same thing for you. I met my boyfriend while he was at uni in the same city. He then moved back home for financial reasons, which is fair enough. He always told me that he wanted to live close to his hometown and seeing as he's got a full-time job and I just finished my degree, I thought it would make sense for me to do my Masters in a city that is close to where he lives. However, he's now got a good job offer in Ireland and altough he did ask me how I felt about, it's not like I could have stopped him from going. I don't really want to either, he should do whatever makes him happy. Still I can't help feeling let down because I would have moved for him. The love in pain was just a joke. But yeah, overall I think I need to do whats best for my career and 4 years isn't that long. It's just hard knowing things might not work out... even though I know they would if I stayed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Josh42 Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 We're kind of in the same dilemma... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotdensestate Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 I dunno. I don't want to leave all my high school friends but I DEFINITELY don't want to be one of those people who hang out with their high school friends their whole lives, if that makes sense. Move away, I'd make new friends and get along fine. Leaving behind relationships probably blows hard though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prospekt. Posted May 16, 2011 Author Share Posted May 16, 2011 I dunno. I don't want to leave all my high school friends but I DEFINITELY don't want to be one of those people who hang out with their high school friends their whole lives, if that makes sense. Move away, I'd make new friends and get along fine. Leaving behind relationships probably blows hard though. Yeah. I think it's good to get away after high school. Especially when you're from a small town. Where I'm from basically you get out after high school or you're there your whole life. I got out after high school though and that was completely amazing, and I love it there. Like actually love it, way more than I ever like high school or any of that jazz. The location, friends, boyfriend, campus, just everything is amazing. Now i might have to leave that... so you can see the problem. But yeah definitely don't be one of those high school friends forever people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prospekt. Posted May 16, 2011 Author Share Posted May 16, 2011 We're kind of in the same dilemma... It's hard right? A part of me is hoping I won't get in just so I don't have to make the choice which will probably be leaving. Are you going? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
[email protected]. Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 I am living 790 km away from the place where I grew up. Almost 2 years ago I moved to a city where I have never been before!! The school thing was the point why I had to go into the unknown.. Beginnings are never easy but I found new people I can hang around with. If you always know why you are doing this then it is not so bad.. In my eyes 4 years is quite long but sometimes you haven't really got a choice if you want a good job later on. My course here was about 2 years and I am glad that I made it through! When I leave this place in summer I think I will miss it somehow. And at first I 'hated' it as well. And if you have a boyfriend let me tell you that long distance relationships do exist! Just try your best even if you cry each day. It is getting better after a while. Your family and your real friends will be a bit sad if you go but they will support you whatever you do!! How far away from your beloved one's is the place you will move to? Edit: Moving into the unknown space makes you more self-confident. You have to learn to be on your own. If you think you can already be on your own then let me tell you that in a city where you didn't want to go to but you had to go to, this feeling is different. Sometimes I had noone I could go to so I had to spend the weekend all alone.. After all you will be more self-reliant when you finished those 4 years, that's for sure!!! I would take the chance! You will see things different. You will develop yourself better if you do something new than just staying where you at the moment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prospekt. Posted May 16, 2011 Author Share Posted May 16, 2011 I am living 790 km away from the place where I grew up. Almost 2 years ago I moved to a city where I have never been before!! The school thing was the point why I had to go into the unknown.. Beginnings are never easy but I found new people I can hang around with. If you always know why you are doing this then it is not so bad.. In my eyes 4 years is quite long but sometimes you haven't really got a choice if you want a good job later on. My course here was about 2 years and I am glad that I made it through! When I leave this place in summer I think I will miss it somehow. And at first I 'hated' it as well. And if you have a boyfriend let me tell you that long distance relationships do exist! Just try your best even if you cry each day. It is getting better after a while. Your family and your real friends will be a bit sad if you go but they will support you whatever you do!! How far away from your beloved one's is the place you will move to? Yeah it's gonna be tough. Me and my boyfriend have talked about it though and we're gonna do our best to make it work long distance, but he has way more faith than me. I'm a bit of a pessimist. And yeah, I'm sure that the city could grow on me. Cause it's not a terrible place but I just don't wanna leave where I am right now. It's about a 5 hour flight away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cyan Kat Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 I love where I live and I know when I have to leave for University I'm certainly going to miss it and my family as well, but I really think that my school friends will all have moved away after school anyway and I doubt we'll keep in touch. I really hope I don't have to deal with leaving a relationship by that time but it's great to hear that you're going to make it work :nice: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
[email protected]. Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 Yeah it's gonna be tough. Me and my boyfriend have talked about it though and we're gonna do our best to make it work long distance, but he has way more faith than me. I'm a bit of a pessimist. And yeah, I'm sure that the city could grow on me. Cause it's not a terrible place but I just don't wanna leave where I am right now. It's about a 5 hour flight away. That's really far away! And yeah, it's definately gonna be tough! But it will make you stronger! You will learn for you life! I didn't/don't have a girlfriend so I don't really know how to handle such a situation. Good luck!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ivet Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 I dunno. I don't want to leave all my high school friends but I DEFINITELY don't want to be one of those people who hang out with their high school friends their whole lives, if that makes sense. Move away, I'd make new friends and get along fine. Leaving behind relationships probably blows hard though. this. also if you and your bf truly care about each other, a long distance relationship won't be so hard because you'll both do your best to make it work, me thinks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Technicolor Sparks Posted May 17, 2011 Share Posted May 17, 2011 Where are you considering moving to (just wondering since you live in Canada too :P)? I would say that you should take a chance and move. Obviously I know nothing about your relationship, but I would say that a career is a life-long thing, whereas relationships are always more up in the air. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotdensestate Posted May 17, 2011 Share Posted May 17, 2011 this. also if you and your bf truly care about each other, a long distance relationship won't be so hard because you'll both do your best to make it work, me thinks. TAKE IT FRUM HURRR :thumbsup: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ivet Posted May 17, 2011 Share Posted May 17, 2011 I AM THE LDR EXPERT :smart: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prospekt. Posted May 17, 2011 Author Share Posted May 17, 2011 I'm not moving out of high school. I was happy to move after high school. I'm moving after a couple of years of uni in a different city than high school so its totally different. But yeah it's nice to hear about long term relationships working when there's so much saying they don't. Thanks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prospekt. Posted May 17, 2011 Author Share Posted May 17, 2011 Where are you considering moving to (just wondering since you live in Canada too :P)? I would say that you should take a chance and move. Obviously I know nothing about your relationship, but I would say that a career is a life-long thing, whereas relationships are always more up in the air. Moving from Vancouver - UBC (I love it, oh my god I love it) to possibly Toronto (UofT) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prospekt. Posted May 17, 2011 Author Share Posted May 17, 2011 Okay so I got an interview at my current school! I have to kill it. MY LIFE DEPENDS ON IT. lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prospekt. Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 I'm just bumping this cause I feel like I have to tell someone but don't wanna talk to anyone I actually know. I'm so scared that things will change if I have to leave... I don't wanna look back at this time in my life and have him be a memory of that amazing guy I used to date... but the distance made things different. I don't want him in ten years... to be a stranger to me. I'm so scared. I am a pathetic crying heap right now.. Not helping that one of the songs in the mixtape I just listened to was exactly about this. And its just so hard to think about. Airports make me sad I'm sure they shouldn't all be the same But they're just landing pads Boring tourist shopping chains I remember times we had Drinking while we wait for your plane Feeling kinda bad Wondering which one of us has changed Cos we used to be slick Subtle young hips, romantic young kissable lips Unbearably sharp, unbreakable heart With wide eyes and faith That life could never pull apart if we were OK But distance kills the best of intentions And never intended it to be this way That verse is what I'm terrified of happening. But chances are it will if I do have to go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotdensestate Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 life comes and goes. you're gonna be okay. :hug: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prospekt. Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 life comes and goes. you're gonna be okay. :hug: I know. And I know it sounds ridiculous. I'm young and it just sounds like I'm being crazy and dramatic. Thanks though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotdensestate Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 No I totally get what you mean. I'm just trying to be comforting. everyone goes through stuff like this. :( c'est la vieeeeeeee :sad: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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