So you spend 90% of your time whining about how you'll never get a chance at love and when you actually get that chance you don't want to take it because of some introverted reason.

 

If I'm understanding this remotely right then try and forget completely about love being your main source of happiness because you're just beating yourself up emotionally over and over again (Though some people enjoy doing this).

 

I know people like this in real life. You can't help them out of their perception, you just have to wait and be there ready to support them when they decide to either get help or start making changes for themselves.

 

every single one of my boyfriends were dickheads!!!!!

 

 

 

 

 

the last guy i was with cheated on me with 7 different girls :(

 

...I hope you do not think flirting is necessarily cheating.

 

I want to date real bad and I am looking all the time. I seam to attract married men or young guys who want to hook up or hang out. I want better quality. How can I get it? Where are the single intellengent guys who want a real relationship?

 

Your problem is right there - you're desperate. You come off as desperate, and it attracts those types. Just relax a little and don't fuss so much. Focus on improving yourself, letting yourself shine, and the relationshippy guys will see the shiny and flock to it like magpies. Or at least, that's how it's been for me.

I shall bring this thread back to life: Ta-da!......ok I fail.

I know people like this in real life. You can't help them out of their perception, you just have to wait and be there ready to support them when they decide to either get help or start making changes for themselves.

 

I've also known people like this, I wouldn't say necessarily that you can't help them out of their perception, depends on the person, and some people if you spell it out to them, sometimes they can take a step back and realise what they're doing. But overall I'd agree that this type of perception is incredibly narrow minded and self-absorbed, when a person is like that it's near impossible to try and help them, the only way they'll budge is if something eventually clicks in themselves and they change.

 

It's really frustrating and takes a lot of patience to put up with people like that, you give advice and do what you can to make them see, and they simply change the subject as if it never existed. I knew one person who would quite consistently fancy different people they knew, like overdramatically being crazy about them, and then if the other person actually showed interest they'd run a mile, every time. It was literally like "They like you now? I thought you really liked them?!" response: "Yeah I know but theres someone else now they're sooooooooo awesome!! OMGAWD".

 

Like not even a hint of acknowledging the endless cycle they put themselves through, as I said, frustrating.