Hey,

 

it's been a while since i posted here, i've been checking threads here for some mins and i see you guys talking about LP5, hope it'll be a nice one. :)

 

Ok, i didnt come to talk about this, but my problem is that ive noticed im unfaithful, and i'm not ready at all to love but im dating. ( looks strange :) )

 

back to 2010 when my heart was broken when i loved that girl and she left.. 4 months later and since Dec 31 i've started to discover girls again.. believe me or not ive known so far 20-25 girls.. some are gone, some i havent seen them since the first meeting.. some gave their numbers and didnt call them. i think im on this stage when you just discover and discover.. but since May, i'm dating 3 girls.. one i talk to regularly every day on phone, facebook, etc.. and she already told me that shes loves me but i had to calm things and ask her to wait, the second one has asked me for a date next monday and the last one ( who is 3 years older than me ) i've dated her twice.

 

i didnt come here to show you guys my archives or just talk, but my problem is that i dont want to break any of those hearts and i dont want to make them feel like that one made me feel, and i dont want to lose them since i like them all.. more: im approching every girl i like, i mean i dont control myself, i fee thirsty and i do feel like discovering all girls.

 

my questions:

is that a kind of revenge because that one had hurt me ?

and how could i not break those girls hearts ?

and final question: has any of you guys passed through this ?

 

thank you for reading.

:)

seriously, I am afraid you are going to break at least one of those hearts. You are dating 3 girls at the moment and I think if all of them start to like you you will have to tell 2 of them one day that there is somebody else....and about the revenge: Don't break other girls hearts because some girl has broken your heart....those girls don't deserve this since they have nothing to do with it.

Well first off...let me this straight; your dating 3 girls at the same time?!? :stunned: Um...and honestly things aren't gonna look to good. The RIGHT thing to do is to tell all your girl friends what's going on, cause if they found out you;re cheating on them, then more bad things will happen. It's better to tell them then to have them find out. And do it soon, cause the later you do it, the worse it's gonna be.

I'm... somewhat in a similar situation to yourself. Have a crush on another and flirt a fair bit with him and whatnot. This started before my relationship, we were mucking about and stuffs (not now tho).

Thought the infatuation was over when I started dating my current bf, but apparently not. I've already had situations where I screwed up and I should have been dumped... but somehow my bf agreed to work with each other through it. It's hard though, because I can't forget any of it, no matter how much I try.

What helped me the most was talking about it with both of them. Plus it's so much better not feeling really guilty about it.

I would suggest that, tbh... even if you don't want to hurt those girls, you're going to hurt them way more if you wait or don't tell them at all and it all inevitably catches up to ye.

ugh just stop it, just because someone broke your heart doesn't mean you have the right to do the same to 3 girls.

is that a kind of revenge because that one had hurt me ?

Probably. And maybe part of it is to understand her point of view?

 

and how could i not break those girls hearts ?

I suggest you tell each of them exactly what you just told us; how you are behaving now, how you have been behaving in the recent past, and the heartbreak which you think led to the behavior. Be honest. Then the girls can make up their mind whether they want to continue the "relationship".

Thank you for reading.. :)

 

i think some of you think i want to make them suffer because i was hurt: i reckon thats wrong.. the situation is more complexed.. the situation is about my behaviour.. why i'm seeing several ladies ? why i cant just stop ? why can't i fall in love with the right one ? thats the problem.. im discovering girls: i meet them, have their number, if im in the mood i call them if not i just forget..

 

those 3 ladies, i mean they are the ones i'm currently with.. things are not serious yes, maybe the first one i mentioned is starting to like me or more maybe shes in love.. im not serious about it and if theres a girl who will be hurt it would be that first one..

 

but the porblem is that i cant talk about it, i cant say ' hey you, you know what ? yesterday i was in cafe with that girl i met the orher night! and im dating this monday another one' thats the problem and thats the node of the situation. some times i hate myself doing this, and i feel uncomfortable with it. i'm not such a bad person, i dont like to hurt people..

 

your suggestions are nice, friends.. Yes i should talk about it but i cant do it..

thanks again and by the way.. cping is the 2nd place i've shared this in after telling my best friend on net about it.. and you know what she didnt appreciate what i'm doing and came up with that line ' all men are f**king same' i dont want you friends to think the same about it.. men are different and i'm sure they are not the same and there a lot of guys who are faithful like i used to. thats it..

 

it's been a while since i posted here, i've been checking threads here for some mins and i see you guys talking about LP5, hope it'll be a nice one. :)

 

Ok, i didnt come to talk about this, but my problem is that ive noticed im unfaithful, and i'm not ready at all to love but im dating. ( looks strange :) )

 

 

Hi Soufiane

 

you really love these 3 girls ? is not more for the physical ?

 

or The only advice I can give you is to find a girl kind with the same interest and you really love .

ugh just stop it, just because someone broke your heart doesn't mean you have the right to do the same to 3 girls.

This.

Hi Soufiane

 

you really love these 3 girls ? is not more for the physical ?

 

or The only advice I can give you is to find a girl kind with the same interest and you really love .

 

:)

 

No, i'm not in love. maybe in like with them..

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I don't think that you're being unfaithful to any of those girls, since you are just dating... It's not a formal relationship or anything. :thinking: The only important thing is that the conditions are clear from the beginning and that the girls know that: You're only dating to see if something more serious comes up with that. When you're ready to settle down with the right girl you will know it...

 

my questions:

is that a kind of revenge because that one had hurt me ?

and how could i not break those girls hearts ?

and final question: has any of you guys passed through this ?

 

1- Don't know, ask your therapist.

2- Impossible if any of them feels much "involved"... This is the risk of dating and obviously also of being in a relationship.

3- I "dated" someone for about 6 months... Eventually got bored of it because I felt it was getting nowhere.

 

but the porblem is that i cant talk about it, i cant say ' hey you, you know what ? yesterday i was in cafe with that girl i met the orher night! and im dating this monday another one' thats the problem and thats the node of the situation. some times i hate myself doing this, and i feel uncomfortable with it. i'm not such a bad person, i dont like to hurt people..

 

Just tell her that you like her but that you've had a bad break up and that you're not ready for a serious relationship. She'll most likely be upset but it's only gonna get worse if you wait any longer.

 

You need to make sure that the girls you're dating know what you're after otherwise they will end up getting hurt.