Relationship age difference

[Mollyxyloto]

When in a relationship, or wanting to be in a relationship, what age difference is too much? For example a 50 year old man and a 20 year old girl may be seen as inappropriate by most.

Or does age not matter?

 

I'm just wondering.

[Batman]

It doesn't matter if they're both okay with it. But that doesn't change it from being weird for me.

[WarningSign42]

Well it depends if you're a teenager and there's a 7 year difference or so, that's seen as weird, but if you're an adult, then that's not so weird.

[Prince Myshkin]

So who's the 50 year old guy then?

[Batman]

So who's the 50 year old guy then?

GREG don't get into too much detail or this thread might end up in weirdness again :wacky:

[WarningSign42]

We wouldn't want that to happen :sneaky:

[Mollyxyloto]

It was an example :P.

 

When I was 15, I did know a girl who was dating a 24 (?mid 20s) year old, a lot of people were against it but some girls were jealous.

 

 

 

EDIT: I haven't found anyone my age I'm attracted to yet, maybe because they're all dickheads at the minute though.

[Matter-Eater Lad]

I was talking to a girl 7 years older than me for a little bit. And now I'm interested in a girl who is a little bit younger than me but probably more mature.

[James.]

My dad who's in his 50s usually seems to be in relationships with women about 30 years younger than him. It was a little bit weird at first but I've got used to it now, and they usually seem happy together so I guess that's fine :shrug:

[Matter-Eater Lad]

That'd be weird for me if a parent dated someone close to my age.

[Prince Myshkin]

I've only ever been with people within two years age of me, but that's because I can relate to them a lot more as they are going through similar things to me. I imagine when I'm older I'll be more flexible in that area, as life get's less hectic after the teenage years, but I don't wish to be in the position of starting up a relationship again as that would mean this one would have ended.

 

And that'd be fucking awful.

[Mollyxyloto]

Yeah, I think I'd find it a bit weird too.

 

 

But what I’m trying to say is, more people still think that a romantic relationship is ideal when it’s between an older man and a younger woman. Specifically, four years and four months older, which was the average “ideal” age gap as reported by a survey of 2,000 adults. While slightly less than half of people said there was no ideal age gap (good call, sensible people), 33% of women wanted a guy up to seven years older than them, while only one out of a hundred women preferred a younger man.

http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2013/03/guess-how-many-years-makes-the.html

[Prince Myshkin]

Don't listen to glamour magazine, ever.

[Mollyxyloto]

Don't listen to glamour magazine, ever.

 

Okay :uhoh: why?

[James.]

That'd be weird for me if a parent dated someone close to my age.

 

Haha, maybe I exaggerated a bit with my previous post. I don't know how old my dad's current girlfriend is but I wouldn't say she's close to my age. Probably closer to 30.

[Prince Myshkin]

Every case to be treated on its individual merits. If it feels good then it's fine, but be aware that if you are especially young then you may be in a vulnerable position. Not necessarily but the chances are increased. Then there is being able to cope with being so separated in terms of what you are going through/have been through in life. If you can cope with it then fair enough. It's something to find out through experience with the person I guess. Then you've got the potential that you may be compatible with the person because they are immature for their age. The downside to this is that you may mature and outgrow them in the future.

 

If none of these things apply, then the problem is with the other people making assumptions and viewing the relationship from the outside. I'm sure there are compatible people of various ages out there.

 

I would still find it weird if a 70 year old was going out with anyone under 45 though. Or a teenager was going out with someone in their late twenties or older.

[Tnspieler1012]

I really don't care, but as far as the general public is concerned, the old 'half your age + 7' formula seems about right.

[Prince Myshkin]

Okay :uhoh: why?

 

Because it's filled with bullshit that's usually not scientifically correct, and when it is they misinterpret it to push some agenda.

 

And this:

 

http://www.newstatesman.com/blogs/lifestyle/2012/08/how-sex-tips-girls-are-ruining-sex

[Prince Myshkin]

I really don't care, but as far as the general public is concerned, the old 'half your age + 7' formula seems about right.

 

A 100 year old and a 57 year old is fine.

[Mollyxyloto]

What's the oldest you guys would go for? Or the youngest?

[Prince Myshkin]

I'm 25 and couldn't imagine being with someone 28 or older or someone 22 or younger.

 

But that's not to say it couldn't happen. I just couldn't see it happening right now, if I was single.

[Prince Myshkin]

Out of interest, how come you made the thread?

[Jonny and the cake]

I prefer being with an older boy, don't know why, though my first and only boyfriend was few months younger than me.

 

I'm 17, I can't imagine me being with someone older than 21 and younger than 16

[Empily]

-Weird realization that I've only ever dated guys younger than me- :anxious:

 

I'm 20, nearly 21, so my lower limit would be 18..... upper limit about 25? I guess.

 

Really depends on the person.

[Prince Myshkin]

Yeah, I've never gone out with anyone younger.

 

Once had a three way snog (was weird but interesting) with two girls who turned out to be late twenties as they thought I was older. I was 17. They seemed embarrassed. I wasn't complaining. (I'll point out I didn't lie about my age. They came up to me and asked me if I wanted one so I was drunk enough to smile and say yes. Those were different times).