and now you say we shouldn't get involved

 

i don't know...say,for example, a girl is planning to not have sex till marriage. So...all the relationships she might have will be for a marriage purpose. What if the guy she's with wants to have premarital sex? She has two choices: either go against her believes and have sex with him or break up with him. She will get heartbroken whatever the case

I meant that it's best not to risk meaningless sex or else people get hurt.

 

but if it means something..like emotiionally and in my case ...marriage, then good for you. I only say this because i made that damn mistake long ago....it is better to learn from other people's mistakes!

I can't talk on my own experience, but some people think it might be better for the first time to be with someone that you don't love (know,apreciate,not love), because it's supposed to be a traumatic experience you might not want to keep with any beloved one

:huh: :huh: :huh: :huh:

 

That is just weird!

say,for example, a girl is planning to not have sex til marriage. So...all the relationships she might have will be for a marriage purpose. What if the guy she's with wants to have premarital sex? She has two choices: either go against her believes and have sex with him or break up with him.If she chooses to stand for her believes and the guy breaks up with her she will be heartbroken. Maybe the guy doesn't want premarital sex either, but the relationship just doesn't work out. She will be heartbroken. Heartbreaking is inevitable, we just have to give it a shot

UHG

 

 

If the guy is like pressuring you to have it...then he just wants to have it and then prolly soon plans to end a relationship as a "hit it and quit" it type thing...that is so common!

here's another possibility: the girl meets a guy,they get along,non of them are planning on having sex before marriage...but it just doesn't work out.She will get heartbroken eventually, unless she's really lucky and the right guy is the first guy she meets.

yeah...cool and guess what..no sex involved so this case is different...the heartbreaking can be inevitable :confused:

but still the girl is gonna get heartbroken because she liked the guy.

There are not different levels, to be heartbroken is the same for a slutty girl or for a virgin

I knew the thread would die fast :(

well, first of all ...

 

i think that abortion shouldn't be illegal.

i mean that women out there know what they#re doing ... so just let them do it.

but i would NEVER NEVER NEVÈR do it! even if i'll have my whole life in front of me ... i would never kill my own flesh and blood!

 

about your premarital sex discussion in general ...

i think it even makes a girl more attractive when she is a virgin (dunno why ... just think so ...)

well, i think that when it happens, it just happens..,....

 

i wouldn't plan it ... :dozey:

yep

 

i don't have a plan or anything, but i figure i'm gonna have sex eventually, and it'll be waaay before i marry

i don't wanna end up like chris martin ( :D :D )

i don't wanna end up like chris martin ( )

 

virgin til 23 and liar til 25? :P

i think virgin til 22 ... :P

 

i always thought that boys usually lose their virginity earlier than girls do ... :dozey:

i think so too

though loadsa girls might like it ...

i wouldn't want to have roses and candles all around me the first time I'm gonna have sex ... kinda cheesy ...

it's gonna be not that good anyway --- so why wasting candles?! :dozey:

though loadsa girls might like it ...

i wouldn't want to have roses and candles all around me the first time I'm gonna have sex ... kinda cheesy ...

it's gonna be not that good anyway --- so why wasting candles?!

 

yeaaaah...you are right

 

some people say it's better if it is with someone you don't like so much, so you won't have an ugly memory with a beloved one

well, i didn't mean it like that.

i just meant the atmosphere ...

why not experiencing it with the one you love?! :confused:

Im pro abortion in rape cases and when theres a serious anomalie with the fetus (somethin that would kill it before its even born...). but other than that i think that even when its done in a legal way its a very agressive procedure to the women's body.

Some ppl in brazil r pro abortion for population control, i think instead of making the women go through an early pregnancy and an abortion the government should try to give some sex ed to these ppl, distribute condoms, birth control pills (coz i just know that these ppl r not willing to stop having sex!)...

Some ppl in brazil r pro abortion for population control, i think instead of making the women go through an early pregnancy and an abortion the government should try to give some sex ed to these ppl, distribute condoms, birth control pills (coz i just know that these ppl r not willing to stop having sex!)...

 

the situation is very similar in argentina. Of course an sex ed campaign would be the best choice, as well as giving free contraceptive devices, but somtimes none of those work and abortion should be an option, the last option

ooooh... just saw the first time thing...

ok, really... it does kinda suck and all... but the prob is, its not only the 1st time...

the 2nd time is not so good either... i think that sex just gets better after u practice it for while, and if not with someone u love r u just gonna keep doing it until it FINALLY gets good so u can do it with someone u ACTUALLY love?

its just... well... weird (and kinda slutty for that matter)

 

but thats my opinion...

what if you kiddies one day ask you how your first time sex was?

then you're gonna answer ... "well, it was with that random bloke i met at the gas station ... " or what? :D

I can't talk on my own experience, but it's just stuff people say about the first time

 

And Headless Chick is right, i don't want candles or flowers either, i'm not even sure i want it to be a planned thing....maybe it's better if it's a casual thing

 

 

 

ok...gotta go....the OC is on

 

 

I'll be back later (kkep the thread alive til then)

well, i can talk from experience. my first time was crappy (REALLY), but after it i knew that the tendency was to gradually get better, so it was good it was with someone i was in love at the time...

 

and the pre-marital sex thing, well, i never intended to marry a virgin :P