what, cold showers or masturbation?

 

Both. And yeah I saw 40 days and 40 nights. Good movie.

ya ive seen that movie...it was funny

what he did, being addicted and suddenly stopping like that. cant that be dangerous if you do it in real life? wouldnt you like go into withdrawal or something?

I want to wait for marriage, but I don't know if i'll ever get married with my luck. Part of me wants to have sex once to see what it's like but then I'd feel like a hypocrite afterwards.

Are you comparing sex to a drug? :P

I guess it would hard to give up something that you do a lot, so it would be something like withdrawal.

I'm sure you would just feel wound up all the time if you quit sex. :P

I want to wait for marriage, but I don't know if i'll ever get married with my luck. Part of me wants to have sex once to see what it's like but then I'd feel like a hypocrite afterwards.

 

 

Aw, I'm sure you'll get married. Or at least find someone you're happy with. :nice:

Are you comparing sex to a drug? :P

I guess it would hard to give up something that you do a lot, so it would be something like withdrawal.

I'm sure you would just feel wound up all the time if you quit sex. :P

thats partly why I dont want to ever try "takin care of myself".

Aw, I'm sure you'll get married. Or at least find someone you're happy with. :nice:

 

Thanks, but im cursed when it comes to women.

Are you comparing sex to a drug? :P

I guess it would hard to give up something that you do a lot, so it would be something like withdrawal.

I'm sure you would just feel wound up all the time if you quit sex. :P

 

ya all u would be doing is thinking about it like nonstop

Thanks, but im cursed when it comes to women.

all guys are

Thanks, but im cursed when it comes to women.

 

 

I feel the same way about boys. :laugh3:

Why do you feel this way?

Dude... you're 16 and you never even masturbate? I'm not a doctor or anything, but that's probably quite rare. It's also probably not a good idea, medically speaking. And don't worry, it's not like a drug, LOL. Sometimes you're in the mood for it, and sometimes you're not. More often you're not.

 

But for men, it's definitely better to make sure the plumbing is working every so often.

Thanks, but im cursed when it comes to women.

 

I don't mean to come on to you or embarrass you but you're actually a really good looking guy. It confounds me why girls don't flock to you.

Maybe masturbation just isn't his thing? :thinking:

But it helps relieve stress, come ooon, try it. :wacko:

 

muahaha.

Dude... you're 16 and you never even masturbate? I'm not a doctor or anything, but that's probably quite rare. It's also probably not a good idea, medically speaking. And don't worry, it's not like a drug, LOL. Sometimes you're in the mood for it, and sometimes you're not. More often you're not.

 

But for men, it's definitely better to make sure the plumbing is working every so often.

 

LOL, plumbing. I love metaphors.

 

Maybe masturbation just isn't his thing? :thinking:

But it helps relieve stress, come ooon, try it. :wacko:

 

muahaha.

 

What would I even do it to? I could definitaley use a stress relief.

Masturbation has been known to quell tension of many forms...be it physical, emotional, or sexual. Many people feel that masturbation is a physical means of release.

 

Now I am not going to lie to you and tell you that you won't want to do it as often as you can...you will...but I think that you will find that it helps with fantasizing, which in turn, will make you a good lover when it is your time to be one. I wouldn't suggest, based on what I know of you from your posts 2732, that you watch pornography. Porn can actually be as addictive as a drug, as well as stunt your emotional growth in terms of desensitizing.

 

Masturbation can be as romantic as you want it to be. When I first masturbated I always imagined the wonderful man that I would want to be with. I made it more about how the experience would be as a couple in love rather than for my own selfish needs. Perhaps going "into it" with that type of mindset may reduce the guilt factor and the general misunderstanding you have about doing it in the first place.

Masturbation has been known to quell tension of many forms...be it physical, emotional, or sexual. Many people feel that masturbation is a physical means of release.

 

Now I am not going to lie to you and tell you that you won't want to do it as often as you can...you will...but I think that you will find that it helps with fantasizing, which in turn, will make you a good lover when it is your time to be one. I wouldn't suggest, based on what I know of you from your posts 2732, that you watch pornography. Porn can actually be as addictive as a drug, as well as stunt your emotional growth in terms of desensitizing.

 

Masturbation can be as romantic as you want it to be. When I first masturbated I always imagined the wonderful man that I would want to be with. I made it more about how the experience would be as a couple in love rather than for my own selfish needs. Perhaps going "into it" with that type of mindset may reduce the guilt factor and the general misunderstanding you have about doing it in the first place.

I do not watch porn, although you know my brother has shown me online stuff like all brothers do when they discover it.

I don't mean to come on to you or embarrass you but you're actually a really good looking guy. It confounds me why girls don't flock to you.

 

Thanks, you're too kind but Its quite simple, I have no confidence. I have girls talk to me and I do know a lot of women, but it's always the same problem, too shy and i come off as weak little boy. It's something I'm working on, but it's taking time. And then part of the time, the women who like me, i don't like that way.

 

I went on a date a few weeks ago with a amazing girl but i was so nervous and messed it up. She did say to call her when im back in town, but I think the chances for a relationship is gone now.

I don't see how anyone can feel dirty and disgusting afterward. I can see how they don't want to get CAUGHT, but that's a different issue. :P

You shouldn't feel ashamed for masturbating, it's perfectly normal, and like Jay said it can help with some health issues down the road, and there's nothing wrong with exploring your body and your likes/dislikes.

I do not watch porn, although you know my brother has shown me online stuff like all brothers do when they discover it.

 

And as far as making it romantic, from what Ive heard you feel dirty and disgusting while doing it, so how could it possibly be romantic?

 

Many people relate to masturbation as dirty because often times it goes hand in hand (no pun intended) with the visual and visceral things associated with pornography.

 

That's why I say to make it about romance and love. Hell, you can masturbate to the thought of what it will feel like to be in love! It doesn't just have to be a purely carnal need.

Many people relate to masturbation as dirty because often times it goes hand in hand (no pun intended) with the visual and visceral things associated with pornography.

 

That's why I say to make it about romance and love. Hell, you can masturbate to the thought of what it will feel like to be in love! It doesn't just have to be a purely carnal need.

 

Yeah, but with guys you need to be "aroused" in order to do it. You cant just do it to anything it has to be something to turn you on

Thanks, you're too kind but Its quite simple, I have no confidence. I have girls talk to me and I do know a lot of women, but it's always the same problem, too shy and i come off as weak little boy. It's something I'm working on, but it's taking time. And then part of the time, the women who like me, i don't like that way.

 

I went on a date a few weeks ago with a amazing girl but i was so nervous and messed it up. She did say to call her when im back in town, but I think the chances for a relationship is gone now.

 

I'm going to just say it. Stop looking. Just stop. Concentrate right now on who you are (believe me, I'm 31 and even I am just beginning to get a clear sense of who I am). There's an old saying that you find love when you aren't looking for it.

 

I would gamble on that in your case. Just stop looking. Once you have confidence in YOU, others will have no reason to feel otherwise about you. :)

I'm going to just say it. Stop looking. Just stop. Concentrate right now on who you are (believe me, I'm 31 and even I am just beginning to get a clear sense of who I am). There's an old saying that you find love when you aren't looking for it.

 

I would gamble on that in your case. Just stop looking. Once you have confidence in YOU, others will have no reason to feel otherwise about you. :)

 

You should give motivational speeches to insecure teens. Trust me youll be better than Bill Cosby *shudders*

Amen.

Even I feel motivated now! :nice: Hehe

Yeah, but with guys you need to be "aroused" in order to do it. You cant just do it to anything it has to be something to turn you on. I know that much, so thats why guys use porn and stuff. So how could I get aroused (needing pictures or vids probably) without feeling dirty?

 

Are you saying that you cannot close your eyes right now and think of what a beautiful woman (or man, whatever your fancy) looks like to you? Do you know if you like girls that are brunette or blonde? Do you like a certain eye color? Do you want a potential 'mate' to have certain characteristics?

 

Use your imagination. At your age, even with your lack of experience of any kind, you should be able to do that without the need of any visual aids. At this point in a young man's life (from what I understand) a slight breeze can cause an erection. It really doesn't need to be as difficult as you are making it.

I'm going to just say it. Stop looking. Just stop. Concentrate right now on who you are (believe me, I'm 31 and even I am just beginning to get a clear sense of who I am). There's an old saying that you find love when you aren't looking for it.

 

I would gamble on that in your case. Just stop looking. Once you have confidence in YOU, others will have no reason to feel otherwise about you. :)

 

You are truly wise. Thank you:)