Ha the Oracle linked Mel's video from Chicago. :lol:

 

:lol: Somehow I feel vindicated for all the questions I've asked that haven't been answered :P

January 21, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

 

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?

When I answer questions of a personal/emotional nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we now have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.

So, if you'd like to join in, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 200 words, to [email protected] before Thursday 27th January. This week's question is particularly sensitive but I know your replies are going to be as amazing as ever.

 

"My friend and I have been worried about one of my other friends for quite a while now. We're afraid she cuts herself since we constantly see scars on her wrists and thighs and she's incredibly hard on herself. I've confronted her about it, but she denied it, yet I do not believe her. I know she said she doesn't, but I'm still concerned since she might just be saying that so I don't worry about her. What should I do? Maddy".

 

Look forward to seeing your replies.

The Oracle

 

 

The Oracle replies:

 

Please email your replies to [email protected]

January 21, 2011 - submitted by Katy, United Kingdom

 

Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #9

"I need help. My dad will marry again and I don't agree. I don't like the woman he is dating. It's because of her that my parents are divorced. How do I face this situation?

Thanks and hugs, Katy".

 

 

The Oracle replies:

 

I would imagine so many people can relate to how you are feeling Katy and I am one of them. Well, as a child I thought I was but I did not know all the facts so I blamed people that were not necessarily to blame. It is incredibly hard to see parents separate and move on with someone else. Trust me when I say that it's far better than them staying together and being miserable. I don't know which parent you live with or how your Mum is feeling but I'm sorry to say that this is something you will just have to accept. You don't have to like her but your Dad does so it makes sense to be polite and civil for his sake. It won't do any good to be otherwise and you may find it gets easier as time passes. The only advice I can give first hand is to never let yourself be forced into any situation you don't feel comfortable with, before YOU are ready - like sleeping over or being told what to call her or to offer her physical hugs if you don't want to. One day it all might make a lot more sense than it does right now; let them all get on with it but in the meantime talk to friends and don't bottle up your feelings. It's hard not to get caught in the middle so I guess if you can try not to. Your Mum might need your support but don't lose sight of what your needs are too. I could go on but I hand it over to you...

I was in your situation when I was younger, too. I thought my step mom was the reason for my parents divorce but as time went on, I actually liked her and realized she wasn't the reason for my parents divorce. My advice for you: don't hold a grudge on her, try to find qualities in her, do stuff together like go out to eat and go to movies. If worse comes to worse and you can stand her, don't let that ruin your relationship with your dad. I'm sorry for your parents divorce, I know how hard that can be. Best of luck!! Caitlin

 

I had a friend who was in this situation, but still I can't imagine how hard it must be for you. One of the most important things you can do is be open about your emotions. Tell your dad exactly how you feel; he may get his girlfriend to talk to you personally. She will have to understand if you are still angry at her.

Only you know the people involved, so use good judgement and talk to him calmly, or you may just end up making your dad angry. Lukas

 

Now that I'm older, been through relationships of my own and done a lot of soul searching I have realized that what your parents do is something they will have to answer to later on, not you. Their mistakes are theirs, their wrongs and problems are theirs to solve and fix or not but you are not why they do what they do, they are. I know you know right from wrong. Just make sure to try your best to always do the right thing. No matter how much it might hurt, be kind to everyone. (Even the step-mom to be). Most harm or unhappiness you wish upon others usually comes back to you. You loved your dad before this happened I'm guessing and the dad you loved is still there. He's searching for something by doing this but that is not for you to figure out. Love your mother and father and be good to them and you will be rewarded. Deana.

 

I think you should look at how happy your father was in his last relationship and compare it to how happy he is in his current one. If you don't like her then you need to just talk to your father about it and find out if she is truly the one that he wants to be with. You should focus on how he feels about her and maybe try to get to know her. Graham

 

As much as you may not like the woman your father is going to marry, your choices are very simple; either try and get along with her or you will have to forget about having a relationship with your father.

You see, just as you wouldn't like you parents picking your life long partner, and you wouldn't like them being nasty to the man of your dreams, you cannot judge your parents choices either.

Unfortunately, you will have to be grown up about this situation, as tough as this may be for you.

I would also like to advise you to stop playing the blame game. The people involved in this situation are all adults who knew what they were doing, good and bad. There a usually a myriad of reasons why relationships fail that go far beyond a woman stealing another's husband, so there's no joy to be found in trying to point fingers at anyone.

Your dad will always be your dad, and try to be happy for him! Good luck! Joanne.

 

This is a really difficult situation to be in, and I'm afraid there is no easy way around it. You don't approve of the woman your father is going to marry. I can only say that although it is frustrating to feel powerless about this situation, there are things you can do to regain some semblance of control. First, is to come to terms with your father loving someone other than your mother. Second, is to realize that this woman may represent to you the loss of hope you've had for your parents' reconciliation. This association can definitely heighten your negative feelings for her. Third, is to talk with your father alone about these feelings. Let him know that you are struggling with this.

You love both your parents. It's understandable for you to still be angry with your father, especially if you see his behavior as having strongly contributed to the divorce. Yet, you want him to be happy. He's clearly ready to move on. Think of this woman's presence as a means to your father's happiness, and not as a betrayal of your mother and of your past as a family. Give yourself the opportunity to develop a relationship, however strained it may be in the beginning, with this woman who someday may very well turn out to be an important person in your life. This is a really tough situation to find yourself in, and it will require maturity, patience, and time for you to navigate.

Good luck to you! Aimee

 

That's the deal with love Katy, it can be so great but at the same time very harmful. I think you should talk to your dad, explain every little thing that is affecting you; but before you do, I recommend you highly organize your ideas; because many times people think that as you are a girl, you might naturally tend to be jealous about that woman. So if you prepare your talk they'll take it serious. I know your parents' divorce was hard, but it was necessary for them to be happy. Please do not be mean to your Dad's girlfriend, that'd be impolite and very disappointing to your dad, we are going to solve this problem but using the right way. Speak to both of them (your Mom and Dad), tell them what is happening and how you feel. It would be really good if you could get to meet the woman your dad will marry, maybe she is not as bad as you think. You are just feeling upset that your dad will be married again. Maturity yet courage, nay patience are the elements you need to face this problem that I'm sure will bring you loads of personal growth. Listen to yourself, raise your voice if you need to, but never let your past damage your future. Mahomed J.

 

This is a tricky situation. My best advice for you is to talk with your dad about why you find this woman and his decision upsetting. You should also be understanding of your dad's perspective, too. How might you feel if your dad strongly disliked someone you were dating? As hard as it may seem, you should respect your dad's decision and offer him your support, whichever path that may be. Blake

 

This is an awful situation and you are very brave for having to put up with it. What I would recommend to you is to talk with your Dad about how you feel in as much detail as possible, so that he really understands why you are so unhappy. If you have already done this, maybe do it again just to reinforce your feelings. Maybe you could talk to your Mum too, to see what she thinks, but be careful not to take sides as this is usually not a very good idea. What you could also do is make a list of things you like about your father's new fianc�e and a list of things you don't like about her, to make sure you know exactly why you don't like her so much. Also, talk to other people who have gone through a similar situation to try and see what they did/didn't do and whether it helped or not. Talking to people is the best way to get rid of some of your emotion, but be careful that you don't burden them too much! I hope some of this helps! Good luck, Madeleine x

 

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what idiots theses people are, i remember a question where someone asked about how the butterflies were released and the way they worded the question made it seem like they literally thought the butterflies were real and not just confetti...Debs didnt seem to notice...here it is

January 24, 2011 - submitted by Joe, United Kingdom

 

Q. Hi Oracle! I read that you don't like the number of questions you get about the next album, so this one won't be :)

What was your favourite moment of 2010, Coldplay related or not, and why?

Cheers!

 

 

The Oracle replies:

 

I feel lucky that I have so many to choose from but 2 of my top 3 are Coldplay related.

In third place the Crisis gig in Liverpool back in December because it was a no frills yet stunning gig in an small venue that holds a great nostalgic memory for me also.

In second place the Sunday at Latitude Festival in July. A pint of cider in hand with blazing sunshine watching The Temper Trap and feeling like the only person in the world but blissfully happy in that moment.

The ultimate part of 2010 though was without a doubt almost a year ago - the Latin American Viva tour. It was the most incredible experience that will take some beating.

January 24, 2011 - submitted by Veronica, Argentina

 

Q. Dear Oracle,

Recently you have answered a question from Stephen affirming that there's a song of AROBTTH that was "sort of dedicated to a flower". Could you tell us which is it?

 

Thanks a lot and greetings from Argentina!

 

 

The Oracle replies:

 

I'll tell you the song yeah, it's Warning Sign.

:thinking: Warning Sign is kind of about a flower? Does that mean it's about a girl with a flower name?

 

EDIT: Okay, 'dedicated'... Still, weird.

January 24, 2011 - submitted by Mirko, Germany

 

Q. Hey Mr. Oracle,

at 2:13 how could Chris do [ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UN_LeqOAbtI]this[/ame]?

 

 

The Oracle replies:

 

I assume you're referring to what looks like Chris giving his guitar away? What you can't see in that shot, because of the angle and the dark, is the roadie below who catches it. There are gaps between all stages and the audience with walkways for access.

:thinking: Warning Sign is kind of about a flower? Does that mean it's about a girl with a flower name?

 

EDIT: Okay, 'dedicated'... Still, weird.

 

His ex was called Lily.

It is about Lily (according to this website)

http://breaking.tcm.ie/archives/2002/0826/entertainment/coldplay-star-ready-to-find-love-again-65546.html

His ex was called Lily.

 

Oh, that's right, I forgot her name! :nice: Thanks, Mich.

The Oracle replies:

 

I assume you're referring to what looks like Chris giving his guitar away? What you can't see in that shot, because of the angle and the dark, is the roadie below who catches it. There are gaps between all stages and the audience with walkways for access.

Ha! I always thought he just threw it down on the stage and was being rough with it, I didn't think he was actually handing it to a roadie!

:laugh3:

"It's really mad, fame. One paper even said I was going out with Natalie Imbruglia.*** Another said Gwyneth Paltrow - should I sue them? I was really p***ed off with them because it's not true.***

Read more: http://breaking.tcm.ie/archives/2002/0826/entertainment/coldplay-star-ready-to-find-love-again-65546.html#ixzz1ByrNcPRl

:laugh3:

"It's really mad, fame. One paper even said I was going out with Natalie Imbruglia.*** Another said Gwyneth Paltrow - should I sue them? I was really p***ed off with them because it's not true.***

Read more: http://breaking.tcm.ie/archives/2002/0826/entertainment/coldplay-star-ready-to-find-love-again-65546.html#ixzz1ByrNcPRl

 

But.... But..... Chris was starting to see Gywneth around this time wasn't he? :P

"At the moment I really, really fancy the actress Rachel Weisz. I'd like to take Rachel to fly a kite on Hampstead Heath. That would be cosy."

 

Read more: http://breaking.tcm.ie/archives/2002/0826/entertainment/coldplay-star-ready-to-find-love-again-65546.html#ixzz1C02LZVn6

 

:wacky: That's pretty cute.

January 25, 2011 - submitted by Zachary, United States of America

 

Q. Dear Oracle,

 

I like this girl a lot. She is very beautiful and has a great personality, but I feel as though I am way out of my league. I am also scared of being rejected. Any tips on how I can tell her how I feel?

 

Sincerely,

 

Zach

 

 

The Oracle replies:

 

Hmmm, I think you mean that you think she's way out of your league. I hate the thought that someone is deemed out of someone else's league. I don't think it's true and people shouldn't ever think that. Sometimes it's only their good looks that people base that decision on; confidence is actually far more attractive.

I don't know what you look like and I don't care because although I understand your fear of rejection, no-one likes that feeling, try to look at it this way... we don't all fancy every single person we see so it's not rejection it's more that we might not fit their type.

That said, people are attracted to others for all manner of reasons: personality, charm or sense of humour etc... so just tell her how you feel. Unless she already has a boyfriend of course. I guess you could try a different approach if you feel it would help, maybe write her a letter or just casually invite her along to something and if she agrees you could wait until you go out to talk to her.

January 25, 2011 - submitted by Jaz, United Kingdom

 

Q. Hi Oracle. Can you ask the guys, their management, their families and crew if they have signed up to Hugh's Fish Fight? If they haven't ask them all nicely if they would take the time and trouble to go to http://www.fighfight.net and sign up. Thank you. If they could take to time and trouble to be a famous sign up that would be real great.

 

 

The Oracle replies:

 

Oops, it would seem you didn't check your typing of the link! Luckily I already know it from having signed the petition.

By the way, I'm guessing you haven't noticed there's a link to it already on this very website in our hypnofeed ticker along the top of the home page.

January 26, 2011 - submitted by Nathalia, Brazil

 

Q. Hello, O wise and all-knowing Oracle.

 

It's known that Roadie #42 has his own office at The Bakery, as far as I know and understand (at least is written in his blog #123). So, O dear Oracle, this is my question: do you also have your own office at The Bakery or at The Beehive?

 

 

The Oracle replies:

 

42's office is not in The Bakery; it's in the Beehive. I favour The Bakery myself and depending on what I'm doing have various places I sit ranging from a bean bag or a spare desk as I don't have my own office; I don't need one.

January 26, 2011 - submitted by Drew, United States of America

 

Q. Dear Oracle,

I feel I need to lose a couple of pounds but I don't know how tell my parents. What should I say?

 

 

The Oracle replies:

 

It would really help with these types of questions to know more about you. You may be below your ideal weight for all I know...

Ideal weight may depend on many factors. You may have medical conditions or family history that contribute.

Let's say for argument's sake that you are overweight and are trying to shift a couple of pounds to feel fitter and healthier in which case I am sure your parents would welcome the idea. Or am I to assume that your parents make all your meals and that's why you don't want to tell them as they'd perhaps feel you're blaming them?

 

Whatever your position I commend you for wanting to talk to your parents. Eating disorders are a big problem in society commonly kept secret so you won't be giving cause for concern by being open with them. Explain your reasons clearly for wanting to lose weight. I'd have been interested in hearing those myself!

I don't actually agree with diets, I prefer the sensible eating approach. I'd say just watch what you eat without over (or under) eating.

 

One thing to keep in mind is when we're growing up weight sometimes plays a huge part of how others look at us and judge - such is the nature of the magazines and shallow celebrity idolising culture - but never want to lose weight for that reason. Be happy with who you are and as long as you're healthy don't ever feel the pressure to drop a few pounds to fit in.

January 26, 2011 - submitted by Marie, Czech Republic

 

Q. Hi Oracle,

can you tell me what musical instrument plays at the beginning of the song Baba O'Riley by The Who? Thanks

 

 

The Oracle replies:

 

That happens to be my favourite song by The Who. I'm (sort of) reliably informed that the instrument is a "Lowrey Berkshire Deluxe TBO-1 organ using its marimba repeat feature".

January 27, 2011 - submitted by Will, United Kingdom

 

Q. I notice you said Liverpool holds special memories for you. R u a scouser like me?

 

 

The Oracle replies:

 

I didn't actually say that about Liverpool Will; I said it about the venue. Don't get me wrong I LOVE Liverpool it's an amazing place and I do have many special memories of the city. Too many to mention here but back to the venue... the Royal Court was where I saw Frankie goes to Hollywood in December, 1983 so to be back there 26 years (less one day) later was incredible.

January 27, 2011 - submitted by Billy, United States of America

 

Q. Greetings Oracle, I'm having some relationship issues and I need some advice. My ex broke up with me like 2 days after our 6 month anniversary and it's been hard on me. I've been looping Christmas Lights and Fix You on my iPod for the past 3 weeks to no avail. We still talk and I miss her a lot and she says she misses me but at times I feel as if I loved her for nothing. She asked me out a day before my birthday and she broke up with me after our 6th month together. I'm kinda lost now and I hope you reply.

 

Billy

 

 

The Oracle replies:

 

The majority of break-ups are hard so it's no wonder you're suffering Billy. You say that you've been looping those two songs "for 3 weeks to no avail", well I don't know what miracle you were expecting but that is only going to make it worse.

My advice is to stop listening to those songs right now and any others that remind you of her or make you miss her even more.

I'd also suggest you cut all contact with her. It may feel like it's helping but trust me, in the long run it isn't. A clean break will help YOU move on with your life. There may be a time in the future where you can be friends but now, while you are hurting is not the time.

It's difficult not to relate everything to the significant dates of your birthday and anniversary but tell yourself it's actually irrelevant, the pain would be the same if it had been a random Tuesday.

The worst part of all this is that no-one can make it better so it really is a case of having to ride that wave or sit it out; but either way it's going nowhere. Time will make the pain ease but be prepared, it could take a long time. You will have good days and bad. Do what you can to help yourself. Surround yourself with friends and do things that you like doing. Don't spend too much time wallowing in your sadness. Be sad - of course - but don't be consumed. It's a grieving process so I am not suggesting you ignore it or try and rush through but there is no quick fix. It may feel way too soon to hear me say that you will get over this but... you will.

Hang in there, you're not alone. It's something that so many of us can relate to and we're here to tell the tales.

Natascha, you are always so quick, you post these before she even gets the chance to change the text on the main page. :lol:

January 27, 2011 - submitted by Ivan, Mexico

 

Q. Hi Oracle...

Whats the name of the first song than sing Chris and Gary in Gary's Birthday?

 

Thanks, Saludos de Mexico

 

 

The Oracle replies:

 

They only duetted on one song - Take That's Back for Good.

January 27, 2011 - submitted by Danijel, Croatia

 

Q. Hi.

I found [ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kToIXqvtufU&feature=related]this video[/ame] and I can't find a full version of that live event, can you please give me some link where I can watch whole song.

 

 

The Oracle replies:

 

As previously mentioned that was a show performed at the Round Chapel, Hackney on 19th April 2005. There doesn't appear to be one link to In My Place though...However it was broadcast on MTV 6th June 2005.