....something so horrible happened this morning. I don't want to imagine it.

 

A bad bad car accident. The driver is the son of my mum's boss. She knows the family quite well. He survived. There were two other guys I know in the car (19 and 20 years old)....no friends of mine,,...I just knew them, because one went to my class in primary school and they lived in my area...they died. The car went up in flames and they were burned in the car...it's so horrible that you don't want to think about it...

 

 

so I'm feeling really really strange right now....

 

 

 

so, now there is this facebook like site. People have a profile with many pictures and a guestbook. The three of them are members there. It's so strange to log in there and see their pics...and then people writing in their guestbooks telling them they are sorry...and then seing those pics and things like "about me" and "music taste", etc...and imagining that this remains of them on the internet....

 

I don't know but it feels so strange....

Oh my, i'm so sorry to hear about that julia :( It feels weird when people who were close to you or you knew dies. My best friend ever died in a car accident and it was awful but i think that happened before the myspace/facebook era. I personally don't like neither myspace nor facebook ( and i think i just created a myspace account to stalk travis-fran actually replied to me yay! -)But oh well, i don't think the virtual world should replace the real world but it works for some and its funny how those sites are becoming part of our lives but at the same time keep us away from each other somehow , oh well .

Why is this a bad thing on Facebook's part?

It happened the same to me like 5 months ago!

It's so horrible...

I'm really sorry Jules :(

Why is this a bad thing on Facebook's part?

 

Well just its strange that on social networking sites its like they're still there....but you know they are not.

I'm so sorry for you. I really don't know what to say. I've been through situations similar but never involving the whole Facebook thing and I can imagine how awkward that would make things.

Julia, I understand - it's a strange thing about this modern world. There are times when it's inappropriate, or just weird - I feel for you. It's that way with movies and movie stars, but that's to be expected - and I've often wondered how they dealt with it, but now it's a broad swath of humanity, including people we know. I've thought about that too - all the recorded images take a snapshot of our lives, but a lot of the intimacy and sincerity gets lost, which is what we all need at times like these...

I'm really sorry to hear this, Julia........car crashes are so awful. :(

 

I remember this happening to one of my old friends....he had a girlfriend and he had just split up with her.... then a couple of weeks later, she was killed in a car crash :cry:

Her last 'status' was something derogatory against him, and he had to live with that being the last thing she left on the internet! it's so, so sad :(

 

I often wondered about this kind of thing....what you leave behind. I have some things written down in notebooks and stuff that I wouldn't want people to read, but if for some terrible reason you passed away suddenly, I'm not sure I'd want people reading my stuff....but I guess they would.

sorry to hear that Julia, although that is not the same ... i know a guy that had devoted a site to his brother who died at a young age this summer, it was so strange for me to see it, but they wanted to give him that hommage.

 

today with those internet things we all are kind of public people, so everybody can read us, is like -with the differences that it has- be a famous person, like a singer or an actor, and you die, but your work remains there for good and bad.

 

it can be a bit weird if we think about it...:\

I'm so sorry for you. I really don't know what to say.

 

Why are you sorry for her? She said she wasn't even friends with the people.

OMG! That is horrible! :bigcry:

Why is this a bad thing on Facebook's part?

 

She's not saying that its a bad thing on Facebook's part, more that if Facebook weren't there it wouldn't be so difficult.

 

 

Why are you sorry for her? She said she wasn't even friends with the people.

 

because she knew them. she doesn't have to be best buddies with them to feel upset that they died.

sorry to hear about it Julia :kiss:

Well it wouldn't be difficult if she wasn't going on dead people's facebook pages, it's not hard to avoid.

 

If my Mum's boss' son's friend died I don't think I would care, let alone be sad. If I cared about every person I had heard of that died, I would be chronically depressed 24/7

Sorry to hear about this.

Well it wouldn't be difficult if she wasn't going on dead people's facebook pages, it's not hard to avoid.

 

If my Mum's boss' son's friend died I don't think I would care, let alone be sad. If I cared about every person I had heard of that died, I would be chronically depressed 24/7

 

well, as you would know if you had facebook, if you go on your own page it tells you when your friends have updated and where they have posted. seeing as though she knew these people from school, its conceivable that people who are her friends are posting things which come up on her newsfeed.

Yes but you don't have to look at the profile or anything, I don't see the problem at all

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I remember this happening to one of my old friends....he had a girlfriend and he had just split up with her.... then a couple of weeks later, she was killed in a car crash :cry:

Her last 'status' was something derogatory against him, and he had to live with that being the last thing she left on the internet! it's so, so sad :(

 

dear god... that's horrible.

Well it wouldn't be difficult if she wasn't going on dead people's facebook pages, it's not hard to avoid.

 

If my Mum's boss' son's friend died I don't think I would care, let alone be sad. If I cared about every person I had heard of that died, I would be chronically depressed 24/7

 

well, I knew all three of them. You know we live in small villages here. You know everyone. It's different to a city- Those people are/were my age- You know them from school, from parties, etc....

It just males me sad to think about this....I know their friends....I know their families, if not even very close....but I know them.

 

It's not that I look at their profiles...this is not the problem-.--but for me there is some character in these profiles....they reveal sometimes many things about single persons....and this makes me really feel strange...other people found groups for dead people on sites like that....

 

sometimes you looked at their profiles.-and you could read how they were planning their weekends etc...and this was a party weekend for them like all the othersand they didn't survive it----I don't really know if you get what I want to say with all this...

 

I find it strange....and it makes me feel weird. That's the issue.

I'm sorry to hear that but I know what do you mean. One good guy was on the euro 2008 game in Austria and he had heart attack (so young but nobody knows why)... he had this profile with excited status about this game, and lot of pics with his girlfriend and similar..

 

tnx god later his gf deleted his profile and there's only group in memory of him