Just wondering what everyone's opinion on this is. What are yor personal experiences?

 

There is someone, who quite clearly asked me on a date. I do like the guy but I don't see him in that way. I'd really like to get to know him better and do things together... as friends.

 

I find it very hard to tell someone. Like if I'm trying to say it in a polite way, a lot of guys don't seem to get the message.

very very difficult, but maybe yes after some time

nah you can do it. if you're quite clear about your intentions, it can work.

 

i know this from experience ( i was the one liked ) and we were pretty good friends for years.

i guess, it gets really annoying after a while.

I'd say no, personally.

 

As hard as you try to keep things friendly they're always going to take little things you do or say to mean more than it actually does.

 

In my experience, maintaining a friendship only leads them to believe there's still a chance of something more.

what I meant was that if the other person had found asomeone else to love then you can be friends, but it can be a little uncomfortable being together too much time

nah you can do it. if you're quite clear about your intentions, it can work.

 

The easiest thing to do would be to say you're with someone else. Don't really wanna do that though because there is someone but I don't want my friends to know about it at the moment. Its way too early plus he knows the other guy.

 

So I will kind of have to tell him that I'd like to go for a drink at some point but that I'm not interested in a relationship. So hard.:embarassed:

I'd say no, personally.

 

As hard as you try to keep things friendly they're always going to take little things you do or say to mean more than it actually does.

 

In my experience, maintaining a friendship only leads them to believe there's still a chance of something more.

 

Happened to me before. I think it's partulaly difficult if the other person's drunk.

 

Still I've always liked the guy and I'd find it quite sad if it was the end of our friendship.

I think this is why I have so little friends that are girls is because they think that I want something more from their friendship.

maintaining a friendship only leads them to believe there's still a chance of something more.

 

why does that sound all to familiar? :(

Well, it's worked for me!, This girl asked me out about a year ago, she's nice, but I just didn't see her in that way ;), Well, I am still friends with her, actually quite good friends and I still know that she fancies me, people have told me, but I don't mind, I think she is quite happy with the things the way they are for the moment ;)

The easiest thing to do would be to say you're with someone else. Don't really wanna do that though because there is someone but I don't want my friends to know about it at the moment. Its way too early plus he knows the other guy.

 

So I will kind of have to tell him that I'd like to go for a drink at some point but that I'm not interested in a relationship. So hard.:embarassed:

 

nah this was when i was in school. she liked me for quite a long while as well, and she'd ask me out quite often but i just told her i didn't like her like that. i dunno how it affected her but throughout we always maintained a really good friendship. mutually, as well. i never made jokes about it, or told anyone else what she'd say to me. i just said that i wanted to be her friend only and it was fine.

I remeber when that happened to me... it hurt a lot

 

Still I've always liked the guy and I'd find it quite sad if it was the end of our friendship.

if he is a friend of your he shouldn't end your friendship for that. :thinking:

if he is a friend of your he shouldn't end your friendship for that. :thinking:

 

We are but we don't really do things together just the two of us. We usually go out with a couple of friends.

 

I'd like to get to know him better, I'm just worried he might end up getting hurt.

no.

It depends, it's not a yes or no answer, you can with some people, not with others

It's possible, but you should tell him immediately that you don't see him in that way. I guess it'll be hard for him to accept it, but if he respects you, he'll still treat you nicely and won't end your friendship. :)

I lost my bestfriend that way :cry: and I haven't had one since then

Well,the answer for your question depends of a lot of factors:

What kind of friendship you have with him? You met the guy where you work?,from school?

He was in a relationship before?

You were in a relationship before?

 

My experience said that is one of the hardest things to try and normally it does not have a happy ending for all.

no, cause they are always thinking about getting in your pants while your are having a converstation about how your day was. (omg did the mom actually say that?)

no, cause they are always thinking about getting in your pants while your are having a converstation about how your day was. (omg did the mom actually say that?)

 

Is not 100 % true cause not all the guys think/act like that.

who's talking about the guys? hahahahahaha, just kidding. i know what you mean. so It's a gray area and really depends upon the situation. thank god i am happily married and do not have to worry about all of this. I have a wonderful husband who loves me and so glad i am not dating. its hard.

yea, but, personally, i think its harder if they seriously like you. i have a friend and we exchange silly love notes:rolleyes::laugh3:

It's quite difficult to be friends with someone who wants more than a friendship simply because you probably don't feel comfortable anymore when you're with him. It did happen to me and I tried to do my best to keep our friendship, but things got totally out of hand :(

 

And yes, for some unknown reason [most] guys don't seem to get the message when you tell them in a polite way that you only want to be friends. Either they don't get it or they don't want to.