To make friends

[parachutes_]

I started High School this Thursday and it turns out that everyone in my class knows each other from before, besides me. This sort of makes me the outcast of the class, since they all stay together; sit together, talk together; they all hang out in one big group which I'm not a member of.

This makes it very hard to try to get to know them, I would hate being that girl who "follows" them around. So I avoid doing that, because I know from experience how annoying that is.

Right now I'm by myself, sit around by myself and mostly just text my other friends to keep me busy. So I'm worried they'll think I WANT to be alone and not a part of this group. And I feel that if I don't act soon I'll automatic be the outcast, forever, in this class. People judge fast, don't they?

 

Anyone been in a situation like this and how did you act? How did it turn out? How do you think I should act?

[Darlene_Ihnfsa]

you can see what they like and try to share common interests you have.

 

or try to make another group yourself with other people in similar situation as you.

[Matter-Eater Lad]

Pick your nose a lot. That's how I fitted in when I first started school.

[eff-exx]

Is there anyone that's like you? Anyone sitting at the corner?

[SimpleBlur]

You have to stand out in the best way possible.

 

Obviously everyone is different on the inside, but you have to bring your inside to the oustide, because like you said; people are quick to judge and being judged by seeming like a unique person is the best way to be judged. :nice:

 

By sparking people's attention they'll probably wish to get to know you. That's how it worked with me, anyways.

[parachutes_]

Is there anyone that's like you? Anyone sitting at the corner?

 

Noone.

 

Also, I really appreciate all answers, it does mean a lot. Sorry for my English.

[Miss Lestrade]

Maybe just start talking to them about school work, then introduce yourself. Or if you notice them talking about something that interests you, introduce yourself and offer your opinion. Just be friendly.

[Megalomania]

This happened to me in first grade. Just sit there, listen to conversations a bit, and figure out who you think you'd like to be friends with, then try starting a conversation with them and introduce yourself.

[The Final Track]

Scandinavian school life.

[Josh42]

Is there anyone that's like you? Anyone sitting at the corner?

 

Oh yes, becoming friends with the other girl who's all alone will help her make a TON of new friends.

[Josh42]

Oh and my advice is to stuff your bra :blank:

[Prospekt.]

Oh yes, becoming friends with the other girl who's all alone will help her make a TON of new friends.

 

lol.

[ainsley]

Scandinavian school life.

 

haha, true that!

No but really, this has happened to me many times >____>

And do you sit next to somebody in class? get to know that person, because then you have a reason to hang out with the rest of that persons friends, and then you'll get to know the other people better! :cheesy:

That's what I did :nice:

[kasaa]

i have a girl like this in my class and the problem is she doesn't try to get to know anyone she just sits there by her desk all day, even my most charming of lines haven't made her open up, but who knows what the future may bring :charming:

[harrisonrules]

i use to be really shy

im a pretty social person now

 

it usually helps to have confidence

if you have that then the rest should follow

[Coldplayplusjuanes]

Find one person and take it one step at a time. When you make one friend you tend to make like 20 :)

[harrisonrules]

the key is dont try too hard

just be yourself and you will be fine

[Ohemul]

Story of my life. :shame:

[Soufiane]

I'm 100% sure you'll come to post in 2/3 weeks in this thread saying you've totally passed this stage. ;)

 

wait..you'll get to know each one of the group, and maybe you'll be their queen.

[Reilly]

Change your avatar.

 

I would recommend speaking up in class, I don't mean you have to answer every question, but in class teachers ask questions about different things, like opinions, so you'll get opportunities.

 

It can be hard to speak in front of a group of people when you feel like an outcast, so get it out of the way as soon as you can, because the longer it goes on the worse it gets.

 

Just remember that right now they don't have any opinion of you, good or bad, don't feel like that makes you nothing, but remember that you haven't fucked anything up and just getting noticed will probably intrigue other people to notice you, so they might start to acknowledge you more.

 

I've been in a similar situation but it wasn't quite so bad, there were other people that didn't know the group and everyone was pretty accepting. I wish you the best.

[parachutes_]

I'm 100% sure you'll come to post in 2/3 weeks in this thread saying you've totally passed this stage. ;)

 

wait..you'll get to know each one of the group, and maybe you'll be their queen.

 

Haha, I really hope so.

 

Change your avatar.

 

I would recommend speaking up in class, I don't mean you have to answer every question, but in class teachers ask questions about different things, like opinions, so you'll get opportunities.

 

It can be hard to speak in front of a group of people when you feel like an outcast, so get it out of the way as soon as you can, because the longer it goes on the worse it gets.

 

Just remember that right now they don't have any opinion of you, good or bad, don't feel like that makes you nothing, but remember that you haven't fucked anything up and just getting noticed will probably intrigue other people to notice you, so they might start to acknowledge you more.

 

I've been in a similar situation but it wasn't quite so bad, there were other people that didn't know the group and everyone was pretty accepting. I wish you the best.

 

I will definitely take that in mind, thank you!

 

In seven hours the third chance will start, but we just have two classes, so, I don't know.

[Empily]

Hmmm maybe when you do some group work, make sure you throw yourself into it because then it gives you an excuse to start talking to them and also to show them that you're friendly :wacky:

[Destrokk]

In the firsy day of middle school, people asked me why I was so serious.

And I was like "BECAUSE I DON'T KNOW YOU PEOPLE OMG"

 

I became friends with the girl who said hi to everybody.

She doesn't like Twilight and doesn't like Justin Bieber, so, she's the best I've got.

 

Anyways, at some point your going to know everybody and yeah just keep yourself as you are and show the best of yourself.

And not yo' boobehz.

[ricardo]

Well maybe saying Hi to anyone that sits next to you works. Just be yourself. Or maybe pretend you're someone you're not to get along with them and get fake friends.

[Jady]

It's hard to make friends, I mean good ones. :blank: