And now: do you easily make friends with others?

[Prince Myshkin]

I can speak and get along with pretty much everybody, even if I don't like them. I know people from all sorts of backgrounds. The list of people I respect is very low though.

[Gitta Rensolo]

btw sorry if my thread title is a bit misleading haha....:uhoh:

 

well, I think I cannot even keep a superficial friendship, because I usually don't call or text people I do not care about. I think this is one of the main reasons why I only have a few really good friends....and not really superficial ones....well, I have some superficial friends but sooner or later I loose contact with them anyways...

[ivet]

I hate people.

[Mimixxx]

I have the same close group of friends I've had since primary school and we're all still very close, in fact it was my best friend's wedding last week and now we're all betting on who will be next in our group. I have lost the superficial friends from high school though, apart from the odd message or comment on FB.

 

Same with previous jobs, I've held onto one or two close friends, but not the people I was only friends with in work, but rarely socialised with out of work.

 

I have also made a few close friends from this board too, most of whom I see fairly regularly. Is easier to stay in touch with people you meet online though I think.

[Lore]

definitely it's easier because they are online like every day! :P

 

I have basically the same friends I had in high school, it's been 10 years since I met them. My best friend is a high school friend. Well we used to be like 10 and now we're a group of 4 or 5 girls. I don't make friends easily :blank:

 

My other friends are online friends (I consider a few coldplaying members very good friends even though I've only met 2 of them because they live so far away :bigcry: ). I met some great friends too because of a coldplay fan club here, we do a lot of fun things together and they are way too nice :blush: I went to Buenos Aires to see Coldplay with some of them :wacky:

 

My uni friends are just superficial friends, can't believe I've known them for the past 4 years.

 

I wish I'd live closer to some of you guys :bigcry:

[Mimixxx]

:lol: Some of them aren't on everyday...but okay most of them are :shame:

 

I'm good at tweeting people back, bad at texting people back. :disappointed: And I hide my twitter from my non-Coldplaying friends too. :wacky:

[MichMoch]

Nope, I am utterly shit at making new friends. Even when I was younger I was so bad at it.

 

 

Same here.

[Clocks In My Place]

No, I am quite an introvert. I am actually getting better at it now though. :) (I have 114 friends on Facebook, if that tells you anything. Only few are family.)

I have a handful of really close friends. I don't talk much to my (closest) friends from primary school, but we chat online sometimes or when we meet each other in the street and we make sure to keep an annual tradition. I feel as if we can still talk about private stuff even though we see each other rarely.

I never feel as if any of my friends blame me for not keeping contact, but they are just as bad as I am. :P

I'm in the same class as my best friend, so we basically see each other every day. :)

 

It's hard for me to make friends though, because people don't go much to me. :confused:

 

I find it hard to befriend complete strangers, I can be ridiculously shy. Alcohol helps :P

 

I sometimes feel like the most awkward person in the world, I hate it :bomb: It can come across as quite standoffish and any attempts to prove otherwise usually invloves me over compensating and acting like a dork. :dozey:

 

Once I get to know someone though I'm much less dorky :nerd:

 

I know exactly how you feel! Everything you said. I am like that! :o

[Mimixxx]

And we've actually met...I'm surprised we managed to talk to each other! :P I promise I wasn't drunk.

[Clocks In My Place]

And we've actually met...I'm surprised we managed to talk to each other! :P I promise I wasn't drunk.

Good point. :P Ha, me neither, I swear! :lol:

[Clocks In My Place]

Well, nowadays I have no close friends at all,

just like 3 or 4 superficial friends at uni... :(

Actually, I feel really lonely almost all time... and now I'm feeling sad about it... :P

:hug:

[ivet]

For me, it's hard to make friends.

For one, I don't like approaching people and when people approach me, i guess I come off as ...i don't know. It doesn't help, I guess, that I get tired of people really quick.

 

I used to have a big group of friends and now I have one best friend. All the other friends I used to have, they're still there, but we're not as close and they're more like acquaintances. And even with that. For some reason my bfff is annoying me quite a lot lately.

 

Maybe I just wasn't made to interact with people.

[Gitta Rensolo]

For me, it's hard to make friends.

For one, I don't like approaching people and when people approach me, i guess I come off as ...i don't know. It doesn't help, I guess, that I get tired of people really quick.

 

I used to have a big group of friends and now I have one best friend. All the other friends I used to have, they're still there, but we're not as close and they're more like acquaintances. And even with that. For some reason my bfff is annoying me quite a lot lately.

 

Maybe I just wasn't made to interact with people.

 

sometimes I feel that I am having the same problem....I mean that I get tired of people...I've gotten tired of so many people I used to call my friends...I guess there is nothing wrong with that since it just shows that you have not much in common or you don't fin the other person interesting enough to be your friend....I don't think it is a general thing.

[ivet]

Yeah, maybe I just need to meet new people, or see new faces.

 

For example, when I go off to college, I don't want to be friendless. Then I'd feel lonely and the thought doesn't quite fit with me. I'm hoping then I meet people that I will have more compatible qualities with. And if not, aw wells

 

 

[Magnus]

It's easy to make friends when you meet the right people. Finding the right people is the tough part.

For me, the getting to be friends is not a problem. It's just that, real friends don't come by very often, and only over time you find out who they are. I think one can be considered lucky if they have 2-3 real friends over a life-time.

[Oenona]

No. I rekon it's rather difficult to make new friends and especially to 'keep' them.

 

No wonder that the older you get, the more difficult it gets. At times I feel that everybody out there has those very special friends they have known each other for ages, and they aren't open to new people.

 

As for me, I made the wrong friends too and I really regret I didn't make anything about it earlier... But anyway, you can always start from square one. Just think of all the people that don't live in the same city where they were born and grown. If you just move to another city/village, you're already in this situation - kinda -. So you already have to start from 0.

[cele]

No, actually. I try to get on well with everyone, but my friends friends, what i can really call friend, are a few

[Arwen Evenstar]

^ I see that we both like cookies :D

 

Well, nowadays I have no close friends at all,

just like 3 or 4 superficial friends at uni...

Actually, I feel really lonely almost all time... and now I'm feeling sad about it...

 

I am in the exact same situation, except in my case even the superficial friends that I had have drifted away because I didn't want to be a part of thier crazy lifestyle.

and I do feel lonely qiute a lot, but listening to Coldplay helps a lot :smiley:

[Gitta Rensolo]

I like that this thread is still alive and that it is 5 pages now without going off-topic:blush:

[Ambergris]

No.

 

There was a time when I used to be unhappy about it. But now I don't really give a fuck. :nice:

[Coldplay]

Bump out of interest.

 

Where exactly do you make friends after you've finished school?

[iccp]

Bump out of interest.

 

Where exactly do you make friends after you've finished school?

 

well...you can make friends anywhere...even at the supermarket. i know someone who made a friend while walking on the sidewalk just by asking "are you alright?". i guess it's just sincerity and genuine concern

[Cobalt]

A lot of people apparently have problems with that, believe it or not... unless you're on good terms with your work colleagues it can be a bit hard. Most suggest hobby groups of some kind

 

Also to the above, most people are cautious to talk to strangers. That works both ways. Breaking the ice with a stranger... the thought of it makes me have the sads at the challenge.

[Destrokk]

I find it difficult to make friends at first but easy for me to make best friends :thinking: Which I think is good because I sort of filter through people I don´t like. Some people just befriend everybody and then just have their favorites but then you will have people talking to you a lot thinking that they are your best friend when they are not or you have to say hi to everybody because you know them sorta and I just find that annoying. And I remember that when I started middle school this girl wanted to be everybodys friend by being friendly and social and everything that everybody in this thread say that they lack and at the end everybody thought she was annoying and mostly everybody didn´t talk to her. I was nice to her and she became a friend of mine but she is annoying. So I don´t talk to her that often and she doesn´t talk to me all the time.

I think what I do has its down side, because after school I didn´t feel sad for leaving while everybody was crying (which made me feel like my heart was made of stone) I just didn´t care for them. My close friends can visit me and talk to me whenever they want and the rest were just acquaintances and I wont miss them.

 

Meeting friends after school is an interesting question, because there are so many people and you at some point have to socialize since you see them everyday. But there are usually always situations like that, like doing arens or work. I would love to make friends by traveling.

 

 

And I just made a big post without being ironic, sarcastic or mean :surprised:

[Cyan Kat]

I've never had a best friend, not really just a large group of friends

When lots of people left last year, (only those staying to do A-Levels staying which is me), I was only really upset about one girl leaving we used to chat and have a laugh in classes all the time we never hung out and we didn't have all that much in common so i knew we wouldn't stay in touch but I can honestly say she was a genuine friend to me and we never fell out. I've just finally had the guts to leave the friend group I've hung out with for so long, well it's more split off now and there's one girl who i dislike and she is always favoured over me, though to be honest I don't think they ever really valued me as a friend looking back it just seems that so many of the good times are shadowed by the times they made me feel like crap and paranoid they were talking about me. I suck at making new friends, there are people that I admire and want to be friends with but I am so bad at making conversation and I just feel awkward. Hopefully I'll make new friends if I get to Uni.