I am afraid I suck at that which isn't necessarily a bad thing. I'm quite sceptical about people when I first meet them and I need some time to trust someone. I don't know, it sounds stupid, but I don't want to be friends with just anyone, because they are like collecting friends. I rather stay home than going out with people like this. I wish there were more people out there who are special and have a cool mind and all that stuff. I guess I've just met the wrong people so far.

 

Haha I feel like ranting right now, because I am getting the impression that I met a lot of people who I have never been speciall for....well at least they never really showed me or I was just to stupid to realise. I'm not sure.

 

recently I've been feeling kinda lost when it comes to friendship. I think I don't even know what a real friendship is, because I've always been to nice anyways. Right now there is only one girl who I'd consider as my friend....the others are just people I know and I don't really see them often anymore.

worse thing is that I feel friendships I've had at school are coming to an end....well, I've always been different to them anyways.....wow I am making myself sad right now haha

 

Hm shit

No.

Yes.

When I Was younger I was good at making friends now I'm all shy and Awkward :blank:

No.

It gets more difficult as you age.

No. I prefer being alone. I find it annoying to keep in touch with so many people, and when you leave one out for one week they complain and ask you if you hate/forgot them or something :|

It gets more difficult as you age.

 

I am afraid you are right.

 

No. I prefer being alone. I find it annoying to keep in touch with so many people, and when you leave one out for one week they complain and ask you if you hate/forgot them or something :|

 

haha this. and I am usually the one who gets blamed for it. The friends I made the school I was talking about in my first post.....they blame me for not calling them every now and then....so a month I made another effort (besides others) and it failed and it definitely wasn't my fault...it just showed me how special I am really to them...I think I've never been as special to them as they used to say...it's ok if we are too different, but they shouldn't blame me for not caring about them. so what happened a month ago has shown me that these friendships are just coming to an end...

 

yeah I know people come and go and stuff, but since my best friend has moved to another town some weeks ago I feel quite "lonely" here....well in case of going out and such...it sucks. I want to get out of this

DP

When I Was younger I was good at making friends now I'm all shy and Awkward :blank:

mostly like that.

when younger i was the nightmare of our tutor, cause i talked with EVERYONE in the whole class, even with my 'enemies', i remember during 2 years i was in all possible places and combinations you can think of, with friend, with no friend, alone, and i always talked with someone around me. :confused:

 

thankfully it changed, but it is almost on the opposite extreme now :| people can talk around me, but i hardly will speak mainly cause i consider i can't contribute on their subject or found the topic too simple or something :uhoh: (that at uni)

 

for me is hard to talk with new people (and hardly ever make eye contact and so) unless i know something about them already or we have some common thing that can grow and make a friendship.

 

but usually on a reunion i'm all silent and shy :| just the opposite than when i give an speech that i've prepared well. :uhoh: or when i was a kid.

I am afraid you are right.

What happened to that guy that you danced with at a party or something?

 

Did you guys never date again?

yes. very.

but at this moment I choose not to waste my time going out with people because I'm too busy.

I hope that when things are not so hectic I'll be able to have more free time to make nice friends..

 

@julia I think everyone always, always, always.. finds people that don't suit them. But it's better to hang out with one good one that 10 idiots that in the end will ruin your life. like you said, they are just collecting friends..so their life might seem like the most fun ever.. but I actually think that it only brings them unnecessary drama.

What happened to that guy that you danced with at a party or something?

 

Did you guys never date again?

 

ME? Dancing with a guy at a party?:uhoh:

 

haha:wacky:

 

I guess you are talking about 3 months ago.....if so then no we didn't and I am glad we didn't....since it is just another example of how stupid most people are.

 

(I've just remembered that we did dance haha)

Ha! I thought you guys were dating already for some reason.

But I do get your point, I guess you have to be in proper crowd at the right time - which is something that rarely happens.

Nope, I am utterly shit at making new friends. Even when I was younger I was so bad at it.

Friendship is for the weak.

I Wish I Could be some kind of Outgoing confident person But I'm not

I'm not even entirely sure I've ever really had what people consider "friends", even my relationship with the person I consider my best friend is awkward and not what people think of friendship as necessarily.

No, I'm quite shy and I find it hard to start a conversation with someone I don't know. I've made a few bad experiences with people when I was younger and I think it still affects me but I definitely got more confident in the past few years.

Some people "click" and some don't. That's just how it is. That will ultimately determine whether you make friends with someone.

How "easy" it is has nothing to do with it.

No

I've never really had best friends I've always felt a bit like an outsider.

I Was really close with my friend Liam then he asked me out and it got all awkward Cos I Said no:(

I've never really had best friends I've always felt a bit like an outsider.

I Was really close with my friend Liam then he asked me out and it got all awkward Cos I Said no:(

 

awwww that sucks:hug:

This thread makes me sad. It makes me realize how much people are struggling with this friendship issue.

 

I've always been good at this though. I have a very close relationship with my best friend (who I'm best friend with since primary school :awesome:) and I have 4 other really really close friends who knows everything about me and many of other casual friends. The problem is, they're all pretty far away from me right now. I just have my roommate left (thank god). My best friend has lived in another city for 3 years so we're used to it but my 3 real friends from Uni left the city/country this year! So now I feel like I'm back to start again. You know I'm living this situation when you have courses everyday with the same 300 people group but you don't know any of them and they already know each other (so they are not particulary looking for friends). And honestly it's HARD sometimes. And seriously I'm not a shy person! Sometimes I will go talk to someone to ask them something but it's like impossible to start a conversation from this. They just have their own friends so they couldn't care less about making new ones :disappointed: !

awwww that sucks:hug:

 

:hug: thanks