Right, when you message them being fb, tinder anything g

 

Why do the ignore you when you know they seen the message

 

Just fucks me off.

 

Whether you know them or not

 

Isn't it a bit rude?

 

Just really fucking annoying

Why do guys the same thing?

I mean seeing it and still waiting 4 days to answer me :angry:

Why do guys the same thing?

I mean seeing it and still waiting 4 days to answer me :angry:[/color]

 

I'll talk to you

that's nice of you :)

 

Well I think it might be because of not knowing what to answer or be shy or afraid to type something wrong. That's what I suffer with most but I try to answer as soon as I can mostly.

Yeah but what if you send a message on facebook and see that they seen it, knowing it takes seconds or minutes to reply or say be back or reply soon

 

Dosent take long to say something

 

Or is it just me

 

Makes me wonder why I bother

Some people don't go to FB that often. (like me)

Some don't have the time to talk to someone and/or just ignore the notivs they get.

Some people aren't the talkative or social type.

 

So don't be disappointed well you don't get it, be patient and stop flooding them with too much massages if you do that.

I've had the same problem, this girl added me on snapchat, we are both into piano and the same kind of music, so we talked for a bit. About 3 days later, I pop up to her again and try to continue where we left off but she seems dead reluctant and after about 3 messages, just straight up ignores me without any reason given. Really does make you feel worthless :/

Exactly

 

And why isn't always us, men who start the convos

 

Never do they start them

She started it first, then I started the 2nd convo, which she just lost all interest in me... Maybe I'll give her the same treatment next time she tries to talk to me. Give her a bit of her own medicine as it were...

i do that because some people are annoying and ignoring them is best way to set me free from them, because if you say "fuck off i find you annoying" people get offended and start questioning your choice to ignore them. human beings are annoying

That's so god damn selfish. It "sets you free"? To bad the person you're ignoring feels like shit though... Makes your self confidence go down the pan. Tbh, I'd rather be fed a shitty excuse rather than just be ignored.

well what you want from me? its not my fault if someone's annoying and it's not selfish to choose the people you want around, if i find someone annoying why bothering to be nice to him, i just tell them "you are annoying" and i don't try to be a fake friend to him because "i need to be nice to people" lol they feel more like shit when they find out that you don't consider them a real friend and you just faked the whole thing. I prefer being selfish and honest. I love when new people i meet tell me stright away" you're annoying" so i stop wasting my time with them trying to be friend with them

That's fair enough, but when I get ignored, it really does my head in X(

Makes your self confidence go down the pan. Tbh, I'd rather be fed a shitty excuse rather than just be ignored.

 

That's how I feel like when the person I like is absent in the chatroom we always go on and you see him online posting stuff. Very frustrating.

Yeah like the other one said rather ppl tell me they dnt want to tlk etc

^btw you really need to improve your english and start using punctuation because most of time i can't understand what you're saying

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Seriously, you must realise that you are not entitled to a response... especially if you're going to message them over and over again without any form of two-way talk going on.

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I always feel exactly like those comments too.

I guess if you really want a response just go and talk to the person in real life. They can't hide if you are standing right in front of them.

At least if you know them in person and not just over the internet.

A bonus addition of the realisation of not being entitled to a response, is the ability to B KOOL with the situation, or in a more extreme case cut the losses and move on! Yaaaaaaay!

cut the losses and move on! Yaaaaaaay!

Your optimism is kinda making me feel better about it somehow :)

Both men and women sometimes take time to answer a message could be due to different reasons:

- they are busy

- they don't know what to say (say you asked something you never asked before)

- there's been a misunterstanding on something you said and they don't know how to bring it up.

Less often than we think they delay to reply due to not enjoying the other person, but it could be, if you have no low self-esteem and it happens constantly chances are there's something in your personality that the other person dislikes but won't tell you, so either you accept it or you come upfront about it not in a mean way. If you have low self-esteem chances are you are imagining things and really need a good friend to listen to you that's why you get bothered when they don't answer inmediatelly to which I advice you stay calm, may be be honest with your friend and ask them to be patience because you are dealing with something in your life that lowers your self-esteem.

 

I'm getting tired of reading all those complaints or friendzoned post on the internet, either from male or females, a person is your friend not just because you enterntain them, nor are they online for your pure enterntainment whenever you are bored, one should not be kind and caring just to be more than friends, one shall be kind and caring no matter what (unless the other person has been violent or aggressive with you before). Basically if you know a person well you'd be able to know how they feel about you, if they are ignoring you or they are just busy, it seems to me many people pretend to know someone well enough, the evidence is when things don't go as they want they complain "I've been friendzoned", I'd call it not be really caring about your friendship because you are not able to read your friend's feelings. It happens that sometimes we rather be blind to see and admit we've done something wrong to our friend and that's why they are not answering inmediatelly.

 

Hope all those possible causes helps you, but be calm.

Also - don't assume the worst. I used to do this a lot, probably the self-esteem issues flaring up there. But there could very realistically be a variety of reasons why they aren't responding quickly. Realising this, noticing when you start doing it and reminding yourself of these things are the steps towards not worrying so much about it at all

yo people have lives just chill out