so true...

 

a few years ago I went through a phase that I had no girlfriends for some months... a work-mate, that didn't like me started saying that I was probably gay... people came to me ask if it was true... my answer: is that a problem if I am?

ah friend came out last month or so.....

 

 

and it doesnt change a thing, we are good friends

Bump! Serious BUMP. Cause I'm back.

Hi Ireentje, pleased to meet you.

 

I'm bi (leaning gay), and I think there's at least one other active member here who's also gay. I haven't come out to anyone yet, but I'm sure it wouldn't be a huge deal to my friends if I would (family is another story). I look/sound/act pretty straight so it's probably going to be sort of shocking for them.

I can tell you from experience that coming out, whether the reaction is positive or negative, is a huge relief ;) Any particular reason why your family would dislike it?

Well my mom is very religious and I know she would like for me to meet a cute girl and have a family and all that. I don't really have too much of a close relationship with my dad or his side of the family, so I don't really care much about that aspect of it.

 

The hardest part of it would be trying to get people to believe that it's not a choice. Honestly I would much rather be straight than gay. But until science discovers a cure it's much less stressful to quit trying so hard to fit in.

I must admit that only my parents, brother & one uncle and his family know out of all my big family. Absolutely everyone else I know knows. The reason I'm not coming out to the rest of my relatives is religion as well. Tends to narrow the mind awfully, that does.

 

I think the country you live in also plays a role, doesn't it?

I'm not sure. I live in South Carolina, which is really conservative part of the country, and I love it here. But I've often considered moving to another part of the world because I don't like the direction American politics and economics is going.

 

I think the gay community sabotages itself by being too promiscuous and silly, and the religious community is incapable of seeing things from other peoples' perspectives. So there's plenty of blame to go around as far as I'm concerned.

 

Then there are so many myths about being gay that simply aren't true. "When did you decide you were gay?" warrants the response: "When did you decide you were straight?"

Well, I think that in the Netherlands the gay community is less "silly" because it's more out in the open, so there's less need for all the attention-grabbing antics.

As for me, I've been out & about for quite some time now. Feels pretty good ;) It allows you to be comfortable with who you are, gay, bi straight, whatever.

hmm i've always wondered about this.

About what? :)

if people on here are gay/bi... i knew there had to be a thread about it somewhere...

hmm i've always wondered about this.

 

Agreed, it's an interesting subject when it's not political or sordid.

 

I've often wondered what makes people straight or gay. Hormones? Genetics? Psychology?

 

I remember reading somewhere they did autopsies on gay Rams (yes, male sheep), and they discovered their hypothalamus was bigger or something. Scans show this part of the brain is what makes us aroused (in humans). So maybe it is physical differences.

Well, me & Aaron (colduser) kind of kept this thread alive back in '06.. but it sort of sunk :)

I'm what my friends would say "A social gay"

 

I'm straight, have a gf, but I act a bit camp sometimes :laugh3: I don't have a a high voice or anything, I don't even know how they see me being socially gay, but apparently I'm very feminine! I have ALOT of female friends, not many male ones, I dragged my gf to see sex and the city and SHE was the one who'd never seen it and the screenplay I spent about 6 months writing is a love story which got it's insperation from Garden State. So there ya have it. :laugh3:

 

@ Jay, that's totally shocked ME! :laugh3: - though I never really thought about user's sexuality's. I have some Bi/gay friends, and I think it's awesome, you shouldn't have to feel pressured into telling anyone, but society these days is so scathing, I know friends who have beeen beaten up because of it. it's horrible.

I think the word you're looking for might be metrosexual :P

I think the word you're looking for might be metrosexual :P

 

:lol: what does that mean!? lol

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Metrosexual :P

@ Jay, tha's totally shocked ME! - though I never really thought about user's sexuality's. I have some Bi/gay friends, and I think it's awesome, you shouldn't have to feel pressured into telling anyone, but society these days is so scathing, I know friends who have beeen beaten up because of it. it's horrible.

 

Hah, well I don't think it's really necessary to go around announcing you're gay because it's sort of irrelevant most of the time, lol. Sometimes you can infer that from being around someone but I don't really seem too gay - I've actually got a deeper voice than most of my straight friends.

 

BTW, Jamie your girlfriend is one lucky gal, because you are a handsome, nice dude. :)

@Ireentj :laugh3:!

 

I mayyy come under that category! :P

 

though I'd never wax my brows or get a manicure.

but I guess I have female attributes.

 

I LOVE gossip

:lol:

 

@ Jay - :) she IS pretty lucky :P and I kow what you're saying, but I meant like telling your family and close friends :)

Well, my gaydar sorts other gay people out most of the time, even if they're not that obvious :)

Well, me & Aaron (colduser) kind of kept this thread alive back in '06.. but it sort of sunk :)

 

Hey You!! I missed you:-) I am back but only on Sundays and maybe some monday and tuesday evenings due to work restrictions:-(

 

It has been a while. Thanks for keeping the thread alive.

 

HOW HAVE YOU BEEN?:-)

Hi Ireentje, pleased to meet you.

 

I'm bi (leaning gay), and I think there's at least one other active member here who's also gay. I haven't come out to anyone yet, but I'm sure it wouldn't be a huge deal to my friends if I would (family is another story). I look/sound/act pretty straight so it's probably going to be sort of shocking for them.

 

 

I sort of fit into the mold of not really "acting gay" if there really is such a mold. Anywho, you will come to the "am I gay or bi" bit in all due time. It has been my experience though that most people who are bi tend to lean more towards that same sex. You sound like you have your stuff pretty well put together. You will be fine.

I sort of fit into the mold of not really "acting gay" if there really is such a mold. Anywho, you will come to the "am I gay or bi" bit in all due time. It has been my experience though that most people who are bi tend to lean more towards that same sex. You sound like you have your stuff pretty well put together. You will be fine.

 

Yo!! How's it hangin'??:rolleyes:

Yo!! How's it hangin'??:rolleyes:

 

 

Hey man, it's been a while for sure. All is hanging well thanks;-) How are you M?