This question has been floating around in my head for a couple days, after hearing some stuff at work, where it seems relationships are happening on a musical chair style contest.

 

The poll question is which of these 4 possible scenarios in your opinion is worst?

 

Background - Sue and Sally are sisters, Sue is older by a year, Sue's best friend is Lucy, they have known each other for 6 years. Sue has a boyfriend who is called Gary, they have been going out for about 2 years, again after knowing each other for 6 years.

 

Scenario 1:

Sally is in love with her sister's boyfriend Gary, and when Sue is away one evening working, Sally sleeps with Gary, where Sally makes the first move.

 

Scenario 2:

Basically the reverse of Scenario 1, Gary is secretly in love with his girlfriend's sister and one evening decides to sleep with Sally, where Gary makes the first move.

 

Scenario 3:

Lucy is in love with her best friend's boyfriend, and one evening she sleeps with Gary, where Lucy makes the first move

 

Scenario 4:

Basically the reverse of Scenario 3, Gary is secretly in love not with Sue, but with her best friend Lucy, and one evening decides to sleep with Lucy, where Gary makes the first move.

 

Yes I know Scenarios 1&2 and 3&4 could have been made into 1 scenario.

 

Other than the poll, has anybody ever betrayed your trust etc?

1.

I just couldn't believe that my SISTER would do something like that.. The guy can be a jerk yeah. No problem with that. And friends are just friends. But my relative??

 

That'd be just too much

Hmm I think that in terms of betrayal they're all as bad as each other.

 

A betrayal is a betrayal whether it's from your sister, friend or partner. It's still a trust that has been broken.

 

I do think there's a margin for error though, depending on the situation.

1. is the worst. they're sisters!

1. is the worst. they're sisters!

 

I'm agree

hmm ... I wanted to vote for the second option, but I made a mistake and voted for the first one.

 

but both are terrible, though it must be worse if your relative betrays you.

I would just rather not be in any of these situations.

They're all evil! I guess 1. is the worst, but they're all equal in my mind.

 

In my case, years ago, Gary left Sur...for his best friend Mark!!!!!:o:o

how shocking!

It WAS! My guy left me for another guy. I have absolutely no prejudice about homosexuality, but it's still strange to find out your bf has been in the closet.

I'd say number two.

 

That would be terrible having your boyfriend secretly love your sister instead of you.

they're all horrible scenarios.

i don't know.

the least terrible ones are the ones where the guys makes the first move.

 

i could easily forgive my sister somehow. i don't know why. maybe because i am not as close as sisters are supposed to be to each other.

 

personally, scenario number 3 would be the worst one.

if my best friend would do that to me my world would fall apart. she's really the closest person to me ever.

but... since lucy and sue have only known each other for 6 years i'd go for number 1.

one is the worst.

 

 

how about this? :\

 

sally is in a relationship with gary. lucy had slept with gary several times before he met sally. lucy then meets sally through gary and the girls become best friends. sally doesn't know that her friend slept with her boyfriend. the relationship becomes complicated. sally is unhappy with her relationship with gary and decides to talk to her friend lucy. she even considers breaking up. should lucy tell her what happened?

 

the thing is

 

it would obviously be a bit unfair on gary as he didn't want his girlfriend to know.

 

would you want to know if you were sally though? should she know?

well, the fact that lucy slept with gary doesn't matter then.

of course, it would make sally feel odd and she'd probably go really mad, but it does not have anything to do with the current problems she has with gary.

 

i don't think she neccesarily has to know about it.

if i was sally i wouldn't want to know.

well, the fact that lucy slept with gary doesn't matter then.

of course, it would make sally feel odd and she'd probably go really mad, but it does not have anything to do with the current problems she has with gary.

 

i don't think she neccesarily has to know about it.

if i was sally i wouldn't want to know.

 

what if lucy knew gary wasn't erm the most faithful person though?

 

i know it's not betrayal but it's so awkward. if sally tells lucy everything, it somehow isn't fair on her not to tell her what she knows. or is it?

 

thanks for your opinion though. argh this sucks.

oh, if gary is the obvious arse... then it'd be just right if lucy told sally everything about gary.

 

in case lucy is a true friend and not as deceitful as gary.

If I were sally, I'd want to know, even if it hurt, because it would be better than tormenting myself wondering about it. I can forgive cheating alot more than I can forgive lying about chearing.

well it's not that obvious. he's a nice person and a good friend of lucy's. he just told lucy more because they were never in a relationship. lucy doesn't know if gary cheats on his girlfriend. she just knows that he's the kind of guy, who slept with a lot of girls.

This looks like something off Arrested Development. Anybody else watch this genius show?

If I were sally, I'd want to know, even if it hurt, because it would be better than tormenting myself wondering about it. I can forgive cheating alot more than I can forgive lying about chearing.

 

he's not cheated though. i think she should know. then again her boyfriend could deny it. i'm wondering who she'd believe then.

IMO the scenario 1 is the worst,but even if the sister make the first move you also have to blame the boyfriend

definitely 1.

 

If that ever happened to me I couldn't forgive them, especially the person who made the first move,

I'd have to kill them

 

and I'd hate to have to take the life of a family member, so with that said. 1

This is too complicated. Can't they all just sleep together?:laugh3: (pardon - just me being silly again..)

If I was Sue, and Sally made the first move on my boyfriend, I would be devastated. So I would have to kill Sally. And if she didn't make the first move, I would kill them both.

As I have never been 'in' love with someone, I have never been betrayed in the sense of love, but I have been betrayed by so-called friends in the past :(