Jack Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Does it or has it ever mattered to you? Also, what do you consider to be too big of an age difference? I'd also like you to consider how old you are, which ages you're referring to, the expected level of maturity of someone of these ages, and the age differences in which your/people you know's relationships. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HorrificAttack Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 You basically made my point in your last sentence there, it matters because you have different levels of maturity/desires etc, not because there is anything "wrong" with it, I just feel you probably wont match each other if there is so much of a gap Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Wow Jack. These are really thought-provoking questions. I guess if the relationship works than age doesn't really matter (assuming it's legal.) As long as the two people are happy with each other and happy with themselves I really don't see how age could affect their outlook. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lore Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 if two people have a big big age difference but they have lots of things in common, I don't think it really matters, even if probably the people around the couple will find it weird or innapropiate. also there's this cultural thing... I don't know if it happens everywhere, but, here it's not the same to see an old man with a young woman than an old woman with a young man... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HorrificAttack Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 But seriously, who gives a shit what "society" thinks? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 also there's this cultural thing... I don't know if it happens everywhere, but, here it's not the same to see an old man with a young woman than an old woman with a young man... Why does it matter? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lore Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I'm not saying it's important... it just happens Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Posted January 7, 2009 Author Share Posted January 7, 2009 Can anyone talk from experience here, though? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HorrificAttack Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I've had long discussions with a girl about this, she is a year older than me and at first she thought it was ludicrous to even think of dating someone younger than her, it was just because of what society had drilled into her though, nothing to do with her actual values and beliefs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lore Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 1 year is not a big difference... how old are you? 19, 20? one year is almost nothing.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HorrificAttack Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 No I know, but she still had an issue with it, so it was just an example of the pressures of society. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrMagpie Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I find it matters in Jr. High......although those relationships are usually just crazy little flings. I find that once you hit university/college as long as you're both between 18-28 it doesn't really matter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
raelikescoldplay Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 But seriously, who gives a shit what "society" thinks? wow...i gotta say, i completely agree with you:D i dont think it matters, as long as your happy, my best friend is in love with someome 5 years older than her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
strawberryfields Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I don't think age is really a big difference, if you're old enough/mature enough, and as long as the people truly love each other. My dad recently married someone who is 14 years younger than him, and they now have one of the strongest relationships I've ever seen. As long as you're not a minor, dating someone like 10 years older, I think it's acceptable and okay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CMJBGBWC Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 somewhat. look at demi moore and ashton kusher.. or however you spell his name.. they've been happy together for a long time now and they have a pretty significant age difference. i think it may matter more the younger the pair is though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bonus_mosher Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 the answer is an unequivical-categorically-never-been-so-sure-of-anything-else-in-my-life-one-hundred-percent........ NO. age is not important. if you can find the strength to care about somebody else and them you. don't take it for granted. grab it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EnglishSilk Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 the answer is an unequivical-categorically-never-been-so-sure-of-anything-else-in-my-life-one-hundred-percent........ NO. age is not important. if you can find the strength to care about somebody else and them you. don't take it for granted. grab it. Bravo !- I salute your opinion:) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ApproximatelyInfinite Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 i don't really think it matters, though i can't really imagine myself with anyone drastically older or younger. not because i think there's anything wrong with it--i just don't see it happening for me. i think the younger you are, the more significant it feels. in high school, it was weird for seniors to date freshman or that kind of thing, but one year apart was pretty much fine. in middle school, it was totally weird for someone to date outside of your grade level. at college/uni age, i think it matters much less, though i do find it a bit odd when 19 year old girls are dating 30 year olds or whatever. however, i think it's kinda strange when all those older male celebrities (mick jagger, paul mccartney) marry women that could be their daughters. i don't think there's anything wrong with it, per se, but i feel like whole generation gaps are kinda odd. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Posted January 7, 2009 Author Share Posted January 7, 2009 i don't really think it matters, though i can't really imagine myself with anyone drastically older or younger. not because i think there's anything wrong with it--i just don't see it happening for me. how old are you, though? because you might feel that way right now but if you're teenage, you will likely grow up to work with people who aren't necessarily your age. maybe 2 or 3 years either side of your age, and you won't treat them differently than if they were born on the exact same day as you. i personally don't think it matters at all. i was going out with a girl younger than me and there are differences in maturity levels but at the same time it's not a deciding factor. it wasn't big enough a difference to impact the relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
strawberryswinger Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 i think it's quite important my girlfriend is just one year younger than me (or half a year, if you want) and sometimes i notice some annoying differences... but well, i always say it's not the same being 14-20 than being 44-50, it depends on the relationship and the personality is a big influence too, you can be almost an adult with 15 years old, and you can be a child at 25 you know? hard question... as deep as always jack! :laugh3: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms Magpie Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Well, if the gap is really big, it matters how old you are. If you're 14 and dating a 24-year-old it's different than being 34yo and dating someone who's 44. Personally, I don't know. I don't mind if the guy's 2 or 4 years older than me, everything else is sort of questionable. I don't see myself dating someone who's already finished uni and is now working, no matter how great I think he is. It's just this whole experience problem - no matter the way you look at it, the older person has almost always seen more stuff in life than you have. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iPsy Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I find it matters in Jr. High......although those relationships are usually just crazy little flings. I find that once you hit university/college as long as you're both between 18-28 it doesn't really matter. I totally agree, I would never go out with someone 2 or 3 years younger than me now because you know all your peers would think it strange but yeah when your like 18-28 it is alright because you are sory of mature then! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HorrificAttack Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 18-28 are the same levels of maturity? No. Simply no. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Petit Prince Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 18-28 are the same levels of maturity? No. Simply no. No, certainly not but I think it matters less once you hit twenty. I'd say age different might be a major issue if someone's very young. A fourteen year old will most likely have completely different expectations than a 19 year old. I went out with a almost four years older guy when I was 15. The main problem was that it was my first "serious" realtionship. I was still a virgin at the time and he wasn't really pepared to give me the time I needed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Posted January 7, 2009 Author Share Posted January 7, 2009 No, certainly not but I think it matters less once you hit twenty. I'd say age different might be a major issue if someone's very young. A fourteen year old will most likely have completely different expectations than a 19 year old. I went out with a almost four years older guy when I was 15. The main problem was that it was my first "serious" realtionship. I was still a virgin at the time and he wasn't really pepared to give me the time I needed. I had almost the same thing, except it was 3 years, and I was the guy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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