Some people really are assholes.

Some people really are assholes.

 

learned that a LONG time ago... but for a long time didn't want to accept it...

that i am sick

When someone forgets to log off Facebook, changing their birthday to the day after is much more fun than a perverted status update :awesome:

Some people really are assholes.

 

We all learn that eventually.

 

It'll get better. I promise. :hug:

When someone forgets to log off Facebook, changing their birthday to the day after is much more fun than a perverted status update :awesome:

Wait, do you mean changing it so that tomorrow is their birthday or tomorrow is the day they are born? :wacky:

I learned that I probably shouldn't climb out the window in my room.

Animal Collective has the most fucked up music videos I have ever seen in my life. :freak:

Wait, do you mean changing it so that tomorrow is their birthday or tomorrow is the day they are born? :wacky:

 

Birthday :P

Lots of shit about leukaemia and pheochromocytoma, boring.

Von Hippel Lindau's class was memorable though <3

Someone likes to play with human's fate

Animal Collective has the most fucked up music videos I have ever seen in my life. :freak:

 

hahaha lol yeah

I've learned that sometimes googling something and expecting to find it can be SOOOOOOOOOO FRUSTRATING!!!

that some chances are coming, but they are at the wrong place

that I got an offer from my first choice university. Looks like I'm all sorted for next year provided I do alright in my final exams. I'll most likely be moving to a different city this year, which is scary but also very exciting!

 

 

Also I've learned that some people hate you because you're doing well. I actually knew this before but I find it quite hurtful.

Also I've learned that some people hate you because you're doing well. I actually knew this before but I find it quite hurtful.

 

[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DvUxNb-bl4w]YouTube - We Hate It When Our Friends Become Successful[/ame]

YouTube - We Hate It When Our Friends Become Successful[/url]

 

haha this pretty much sums it up

 

I actually feel like sending this to a certain person but it would be a very bad idea because I might end up losing my job.

YouTube - We Hate It When Our Friends Become Successful[/url]

 

 

So true. So true.

 

I lost a close friend while making my record. he's been an aspiring artist for as long as I have. He hasn't made a record yet (and he's had more opportunities than I have), and seeing that I was doing just that caused him to distance himself from me. I had always helped him out for free (because thats what friends are for). But when I asked if he would like to help with the record, he decided to charge me $150 to use his garage, and $200 to borrow a microphone and a preamp, knowing that I didn't have that kind of money. He's the type that wants what he can't have, and at the time I was in a relationship with a girl he wanted but couldn't have. So he also took it upon himself to try and tell her and everyone else that I was cheating on her (he knows that I despise cheating, and he knows that I know that he's had affairs). He began writing material that sounded exactly like mine. It made me really depressed for a while. I learned recently that most people should be kept at arms length. I tend to put too much emotional value and trust into my friendships.

 

I'm not a "blamer" type of person, rather a "fixer" type person and when things go wrong, I try to make things right. But the most valuable lesson I've learned recently is: Sometimes it's not you, it's them. Sometimes people don't want things to be fixed, in fear of admitting that they've done something wrong. Why invest importance into people who abuse your investments?

that everyone either loves me or hates me

 

c00l

But the most valuable lesson I've learned recently is: Sometimes it's not you, it's them. Sometimes people don't want things to be fixed, in fear of admitting that they've done something wrong. Why invest importance into people who abuse your investments?

 

Duuuuude. -highfive- It's so true. I myself had to learn that not too long ago. :\

So true. So true.

 

I lost a close friend while making my record. he's been an aspiring artist for as long as I have. He hasn't made a record yet (and he's had more opportunities than I have), and seeing that I was doing just that caused him to distance himself from me. I had always helped him out for free (because thats what friends are for). But when I asked if he would like to help with the record, he decided to charge me $150 to use his garage, and $200 to borrow a microphone and a preamp, knowing that I didn't have that kind of money. He's the type that wants what he can't have, and at the time I was in a relationship with a girl he wanted but couldn't have. So he also took it upon himself to try and tell her and everyone else that I was cheating on her (he knows that I despise cheating, and he knows that I know that he's had affairs). He began writing material that sounded exactly like mine. It made me really depressed for a while. I learned recently that most people should be kept at arms length. I tend to put too much emotional value and trust into my friendships.

 

I'm not a "blamer" type of person, rather a "fixer" type person and when things go wrong, I try to make things right. But the most valuable lesson I've learned recently is: Sometimes it's not you, it's them. Sometimes people don't want things to be fixed, in fear of admitting that they've done something wrong. Why invest importance into people who abuse your investments?

 

That's pretty shitty of him to do to you.

 

I'm also similar in the sense that I put trust into friendships and find it very important. But at the same time also not wanting people to take advantage too. I think in that situation I could see why you might not be friends. If I had a friend spreading lies behind my back and charging me for using his music equipment when you did him favors in the past I don't know how long I'd be friends.

 

Unfortunately there are a lot of shitty people out there.

This is why I love How I Met Your Mother. Because the friends in that show have an analogy called the "porch test." And whenever I meet someone, I ask myself "can I see myself being lifelong friends with this person?" Because thats the only kind of friendships that I seek out.

 

The bottom line is: friendships are hard work, and people start to realize that the older they get, but as they say, work pays off in some form or another; whether its lessons learned, or bonds built...

 

my mom was diagnosed with Crohn's Disease about eleven years ago, and she was in and out of the hospital for a few years. While she was at the lowest point in her life, she lost a lot of friends. They were throwing parties and get-togethers and she was too sick to attend. Eventually people forgot about her. She learned that most people don't have the patience to be there for someone during dark times. My mom needed her friends, and none of them were there for her. None of them visited her in the hospital.

 

A friend of mine was confiding in me the other day that he had lost all his friends, and I feel like its appropriate to post my response:

 

The hard reality we all have to face is that people come and go, and most of the time it isn't up to us. Most people are too self-serving to want to put forth the effort to sustain their friendships. Its not about bonding or spiritual connectivity anymore, but more about "what can this person do for me?" Selfish, I know, but that's the majority of people nowadays. Friendships that don't go past the surface are plentiful; they're great to be around in casual, social, or business settings. But when you start to open up to others as a human being, you'll quickly find out how little patience most people have. Most people don't want to deal with their friends' problems. A true friend can, however, and they will be there for you and lift you up without hesitation or complaints, because thats what true friends are for. Its second nature to us. I have to keep most people at arm's length now, because my outlook on friendship is idealistic according to most. But you gotta stick by your guns. Plus, its easier this way. You get to focus on who and what is really important. Like I always say, quality over quantity.

 

Okay, I finished my cocktail. Time for bed.

you guys are so right....I've been learning this stuff esp. in the last 2 years.

 

I've always had friends who took advantage of me. I always listened to them and tried to help them out with their problems....and I think I often forgot my own problems. Well, I didn't forget them, but I never had the impresssion that my so called friends cared for me and my problems too much....that's why I still barely talk about my problems with my friends, because I am not even used to it...It sucks.

I have always tried to keep those friends though since I got too scared of being lonely one day (not only feeling lonely, but actually being lonely)....some years ago I got to know a girl I'd call my "best friend" now, though she doesn't even know everything about me (I guess nobody does except my mum), because there have often been situations where I wasn't sure if I shall trust her or not (which is kinda contradicting with calling her my best friend...)....she moved to another town some months ago...just as some other good friends...

So in the end I actually am left alone at the moment...it sucks, but it has made me "strong"...it has shown me that I really shouldn't care too much about those people who don't care for me and that I should stop making myself too depended on other people just because I am scared about being left alone....and it has shown me that this "best friend" cares much more for me than I thought, because we are still keeping that friendship even though she is not around and we see each other only 3 times a year....

 

and right now I am at a point in my life where I have to make a decision: friends or taking some good chances (job-wise) and meet new people....this is kinda hard (though I must admit that if I chose "friends" I'd neglect these chances I have and I would make myself depended on them again....I'm not sure if they'd do that if they were in my situation....and here we are again...kinda hard to make such a decision when you are at a place where you feel so stuck)

The things go right when you don't care about them and things go wrong when you really need them to be good

it's better to stay out of supermarkets when you are hungry