My grandma is in the hospital. I love her to death. About 2 months ago she was diagnosed with Lung Cancer and 2 blocked arteries. She said that she was gonna refuse ALL treatment. They told her she had a year. its been a month since then and she is in the hospital. Barely can move and is fully depending on Oxygen. Whenever she moves she gets short of breath. YOu can seee the fear in her eyes. What's worse, they now have added Emphesyma and COngestive heart failure. She might have 1-3 weeks left. I feel so helpless.

 

I feel like i want to bawl but can't i have to staty strong for my two younger siblings. I havent cried about this once so all the emotion is still inside me.

 

Please pray for her or something. Idk what to do. i feel so lost.

Manggg I'll pray for your grandma.

thanks man. its not looking good for her :(

Can't imagine how it feels. Things will be alright in the end.

Aw, I'm so sorry. :hug: My grandfather is close to being in the same position, I know how it feels. :sad:

thanks. it sucks doesn't it. and i go visit her everyday. and they start getting all emotional on you saying do this and do that.

Yeah. :sad:

Honestly, i've never listened to so much coldplay in my life. i've been binging since

I can't say I know how it feels because it's different for everyone, but I've been in a similar situation and well, just hope things will be ok! :hug:

^ thanks lore means a lot. :love:

:sad: I'll pray for her.

This must be really tough for you.

Yah it is. I'm just trying to take it day by day.

i know how you feel, i went through this with my grandma and grandfather:cry: it's tough:( i'll pray for her, and for you to stay strong:(

^thanks :hug:

how did you get through ? i just wish i could do more :(

I was pretty busy with exams and school and didn't have much time to think about it, and my older brother was wonderful through everything and helped me and our younger sibling accept what happened and explained we had be strong for mom....i hope things will get better:hug:

I lost my grandmother when I was 8 I know exatly how you feel this is the worst feeling ever

(and now I don't have any grandmother or grandfather)

I hope I could do something more than just believe...

^ i know :(

i just hope she dies in her sleep peacefully and not in pain. like not being able to breathe or something, that would be awful.

Bless you and your grandmother David :heart:

^AMY ! i haven't talked to you in forever. How are you ?

And thank you <3

That's really sad, 3 out of my 4 grandparents were dead before I was born, so I just have one grandmother who I see all the time.

 

About 6 years ago me and my father visited her on a weekday night, and she wasn't speaking properly, and had a fixed facial expression, she had a stroke, and it took about 10 or 15 mins to realise this. She could only respond to questions with "aye" (Irish slang for yes) and often seemed unresponsive, then my dad called an ambulance.

 

They told us that she had a good chance of retaining her speech and being able to live independently, she didn't get her speech back, but she is living semi-independently with regular visits from my family (It's a huge family, she had 10 children).

 

Now, it was so scary when we began to realise that she isn't going to be just fine. She was such an able bodied person before that, gardening, going to the shop, simple things, but for the elderly they can obviously be hard, especially as she is quite old. But it was the shock of losing her when she was in such a normal, vibrant state, emotionally its hard to deal with. With elderly relatives its a lot easier to accept that they don't have much time left when they have been ill over a long amount of time, that way you at least know it's coming. With my grandmother, she was fine one minute, and on deaths door the next.

 

But she's showing incredible resolve, that was years ago, and after the initial hope that she'd be fine, we realised that she was in a critical state. I guess it's improved since then, because she's a real fighter, but at least now if she does die, I'll be able to accept it.

 

^ i know :(

i just hope she dies in her sleep peacefully and not in pain. like not being able to breathe or something, that would be awful.

 

I think you're accepting it too, it has to happen, we can't all live forever. I don't pray, but I wish you the best and I hope my take on things relates to your situation in some way.

I never really knew what it was like to have a grandparent. Two died before I was born, one had crippling Alzheimer's and died when I was 7 or so, and the other (Brazilian) only spoke Portuguese and just died last year. So I never saw her that often.

sorry to hear that. I just hope you'll be strong for your soblings :smiley:

Sending love and prayers! :nice:

I'm sorry to hear, death is a hard thing. Make sure you give her lots of love before she goes.

 

This also just made me remember how one of my best friends died last year, September 5th. He was only 13. So I guess I can kind of relate. RIP Jamie.

:hug:

I've never been in this situation exactly David cause I never knew my grandparents, but I've had cousins who I love dearly pass away. I was only seven at the time but now I just like to think about what I did get to know of them. It brings back happy memories.

I'll pray for you grandmother.