Obviously this question is pointed towards two different types of relationships with people... friendships and romance.

 

So the question is when it comes to making friendships or relationships what qualities are most important to you and can make or break the relationship?

 

 

 

For me I find that being honest, trustworthy, respectful towards others is what is most important to me. If I can trust a person or if they can't act decent towards others, I have little respect for them.

 

Also I find that I am usually turned off by people that are selfish. Of course people get selfish now and then, but I really hate when people only care about themselves.

 

Also of course it's a plus for people to be kind, humerous and have common interests too.

 

So what is most important to you?

I just want honesty, communication and.. support.

I hate.. I dunno :/.. people being ungrateful? I dunno tbf, I don't really think about it.

I'd have to agree with that as well. Especially the ungrateful bit. I don't also like people that take too much advantage of others.

I broke off my friendship with some of my friends, because they would expect that I do everything for them but they wouldn't do anything for me in return.

The most important things for me are reciprocity and loyalty. I consider myself a good friend even though sometimes I'm too possessive :/. For me friends are very important and I'd do anything for them and I'd always be there if they need me, but if they are not there when I need them of course I feel bad. I'm too weak to break a friendship though, I've never done that and I hope I won't have to do it

I learned what is to be a good friend from very bad friendships

I'm glad to have had them because they made me a better friend, I looked at myself from different points of view, trying to see what would make the relationship better & I'm still learning..

 

I think the hardest is when you have a friend that never sees what you do for them..

being unfair, always pointing fingers at you, they can never see what they have done wrong & to make themselves look better in front of others they blame you for everything.

 

I can't say I'm the perfect example of anything,

but I'm making new friends & it's a nice feelings to know that they know how to listen & that I can do the same for them..

Toleration when I'm acting stupid + fun + sometimes/often lolz + not stupid is a decent combination for me...

 

Least important is lolz probably, it's more like a nice bonus.

 

I guess my friendships are superficial or something... cuz everyone else is like TRUST and LOYALTY, I don't really care about those so much, mostly I want people that can be fun and stuff...

I don't really care about those so much, mostly I want people that can be fun and stuff...

 

I feel so used.

... :P

What? Oh don't! I mean like interesting too. I think you're interesting and stuff! Don't feel used! xD

 

I guess I have to like them too, I suppose that's a given xP

What? Oh don't! I mean like interesting too. I think you're interesting and stuff! Don't feel used! xD

 

I guess I have to like them too, I suppose that's a given xP

 

I'm joking.

But yes, fun is essential.

Reliability, loyalty, caring. Those are musts.

 

I can't deal with people who are too caught up in themselves and are selfish.

Friends need to be honest, engaging and thoughtful. I don't expect them to be supportive (not everyone is good at the emotional stuff), but a simple acknowledgment is good. I have best friends, and then I have "other" friends. My best friends I'd do anything for, and I know they'd do the same for me. My other friends I may joke around with, talk to every now and then, but there's not much of a personal connection.

For romance, honesty and tolerance are the biggest, followed by like-mindedness.

What can break a friendship: stupidity, selfishness and no communication

Much in the same way as lovers I don't have a set list for what I like. I tend to get on with a lot of people who are all very different. The best way for me to answer this question would be simply to describe my best friends, who have been around for over half a decade and I haven't got bored of, nor have they got bored of me.

 

It's just generally good people. People who don't fuck others over, don't boast, are funny, tolerate my sillyness, are none judgemental when it comes to gender, race, sexuality or drug use, intelligent enough to discuss politics and science in a little detail, and have an interest in some similar music to myself. With all these things usually comes a mutual respect.

 

 

On the other hand I have friends who I get on with and see a lot who are none of those things, so I guess none of those are deal breakers, just preferences.

 

I'll do lovers later.

People who are kind have similar interests, great sense of humour, understanding , just generally someone you can have a laugh with and share things with.

 

things I dislike, when people are too arrogant to apologise or admit they have made a mistake, people who just judge someone from how they look or being racist , being too selfish and not thinking how others may be feeling.

douchebagery

Their name can't be Chris to be my friend.

 

I consider myself very easy going. They have to be at least average in the intelligence department, shower daily, honest. To be honest i love a wide variety of people from all walks of life. I try to meet all kinds of different people and learn from them.

To me friends have to care as much as I care about them, be honest and loyal. Oh, and be fun and outgoing too :nice: I do hate selfish and arrogant people.

 

About relationships, it's about the same, but excessive jealousy is one thing I really hate...

For me there are 3 things that are the basis for a friendship/relationship:

 

honesty

to understand and to be understood

trust

 

friendships:

 

I can't say I have had any super deep friendship in my life so far. I get along well with others quite easily, but most people I know are not reliable. You never know if they talk bad about you behind your back. So, that's another thing I expect from friends that they are reliable and I can trust them.

I have a best friend, but I am yet not sure if she would understand everything I did and that's why she doesn't even know everything about me which sucks, because we actually call each other best friends and she tells me everything. Hm.

about breaking friendships:

I've broken some friendships, because those people were not being honest which disappointed me so much that I broke the friendships immediately.

 

 

about relationships:

 

Well, I have never been in a relationship due to the fact that I didn't want to be together with a random person just because I am lonely and need someone. I still believe in finding some kind of soulmate. I can't name certain qualities that the person should have it is just the combination of different character traits and interests that could make me love a person. Of course there are qualities that the person should have (similar/same interests, sense of humours.......etc...etc...etc...), but they are self-understood. I mean those things everybody longs for I don't need to name them , that would take too long.

This stuff has confused me and still confuses me quite a lot. Sometimes I wonder if I should just wait until my soulmate comes along or if I will get desperate before and be together with a random person just because he is nice to me and has the basic qualities. But I really don't want that. I don't want to end up like that.

 

The wife of a former german Bundeskanzler has died some days ago. She was 91 and she's been married to her husband for more than 70 years. I find that quite impressive. Whenever you saw them on TV you noticed that they were still being happy together. I want to have the same. Sometimes I think it happens too often that people are together with each other because they need someone which makes me think that I might take all that love stuff too seriously and it is not what I think.

About relationships, it's about the same, but excessive jealousy is one thing I really hate...

 

This was the problem with my last relationship, well I used to go out with her best friend (Yes not good) and remained good friends after, so you can understand a certain level of protectiveness and even paranoia. But that jealousy began to extend to other friends who were girls, or even groups of friends with some of them as girls and she'd call a handful of times if I went to a club and it just became impossible to prove that I would have never thought of cheating.

 

I suppose excessive jealousy isn't just about the fear of someone cheating, it's actually them being jealous because you're giving your attention to someone else, even as a friend, I think secretly that was also what it was about.

This was the problem with my last relationship, well I used to go out with her best friend (Yes not good) and remained good friends after, so you can understand a certain level of protectiveness and even paranoia. But that jealousy began to extend to other friends who were girls, or even groups of friends with some of them as girls and she'd call a handful of times if I went to a club and it just became impossible to prove that I would have never thought of cheating.

 

I suppose excessive jealousy isn't just about the fear of someone cheating, it's actually them being jealous because you're giving your attention to someone else, even as a friend, I think secretly that was also what it was about.

Tell me about it! I've been living the exact same thing

 

Have been thinking about becoming a nun lately, wanna join? :cheesy:

Ehhhhhhh nup. :anxious:

:disappointed:

Well I guess it's not really my place either

What's your situation?

Erm what? :uhoh:

THIS:

 

Tell me about it! I've been living the exact same thing

 

What did you think I meant haha?