BUT SHE DOESN'T WANT TO KNOW ME ANYMORE :bigcry:

 

Y???????

:(

I really hate to hear things like this. Usually under these circumstances it's over something rediculas...but I know that your case isnt. Just give her some space for a while...if she suddenly realizes that youve been a good friend shell come around. I'm doing the samething

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MAYBE YOU BROKE HER HEART HER HEART.

 

 

ok i'm sorry :hug:

:( Sorry to hear about that mate

Sucks dude :(

don't ask us why; we're not psychics

 

but... *CYBER HUG* :wacko:

If you don't know, then we internet denizens clearly would not have any better of an idea with such little details.

^with so few details****

yes we need more details please TP in order to answer your question of "Y???????"

I've already explained in the love thread kind of. but it's been annoying me for too long for me to not say anything about it :/

 

I met this girl at the end of 2009 and we became really close friends. Around this time last year I started to like her as more than a friend and we started to get close, but stuff kept happening to prevent us from actually having a relationship. So it basically was stuck like that for months, we knew we both liked each other but couldn't do anything and had to remain just friends. Eventually it just pissed both of us off and we started to argue quite often and it just ended in December with her deciding she'd rather not know me anymore, there was no reason or explanation given.

 

She has a boyfriend now apparently but I sometimes see her when I'm out and she looks at me, kind of like she's expecting me to do or say something. And another irritating thing about it is that she often is brought up in conversation, my friends will say she's mentioned me, or they'll make reference to it purely to wind me up, or for any other reason. I'd have been more ok with the whole situation if she wasn't being thrown in my face constantly or if we were still friends. I've met someone else recently and I don't know if I like her yet, but the fact that I've got this annoying me makes it harder to try and persue a relationship. :(

:( thats a tricky situation

I've already explained in the love thread kind of. but it's been annoying me for too long for me to not say anything about it :/

 

I met this girl at the end of 2009 and we became really close friends. Around this time last year I started to like her as more than a friend and we started to get close, but stuff kept happening to prevent us from actually having a relationship. So it basically was stuck like that for months, we knew we both liked each other but couldn't do anything and had to remain just friends. Eventually it just pissed both of us off and we started to argue quite often and it just ended in December with her deciding she'd rather not know me anymore, there was no reason or explanation given.

 

She has a boyfriend now apparently but I sometimes see her when I'm out and she looks at me, kind of like she's expecting me to do or say something. And another irritating thing about it is that she often is brought up in conversation, my friends will say she's mentioned me, or they'll make reference to it purely to wind me up, or for any other reason. I'd have been more ok with the whole situation if she wasn't being thrown in my face constantly or if we were still friends. I've met someone else recently and I don't know if I like her yet, but the fact that I've got this annoying me makes it harder to try and persue a relationship. :(

 

If she's giving you that look she probably wants something. Just talk to her honestly and see what she wants out of you, if anything. (Assuming she's willing to be honest with you and so on.)

I had a situation one not too unlike that.

 

 

If she's giving you that look she probably wants something. Just talk to her honestly and see what she wants out of you, if anything. (Assuming she's willing to be honest with you and so on.)

 

^Wisdom

I've already explained in the love thread kind of. but it's been annoying me for too long for me to not say anything about it :/

 

I met this girl at the end of 2009 and we became really close friends. Around this time last year I started to like her as more than a friend and we started to get close, but stuff kept happening to prevent us from actually having a relationship. So it basically was stuck like that for months, we knew we both liked each other but couldn't do anything and had to remain just friends. Eventually it just pissed both of us off and we started to argue quite often and it just ended in December with her deciding she'd rather not know me anymore, there was no reason or explanation given.

 

She has a boyfriend now apparently but I sometimes see her when I'm out and she looks at me, kind of like she's expecting me to do or say something. And another irritating thing about it is that she often is brought up in conversation, my friends will say she's mentioned me, or they'll make reference to it purely to wind me up, or for any other reason. I'd have been more ok with the whole situation if she wasn't being thrown in my face constantly or if we were still friends. I've met someone else recently and I don't know if I like her yet, but the fact that I've got this annoying me makes it harder to try and persue a relationship. :(

This sounds eerily similar to a recent Oracle Q/A. Anywho...

 

I'm not sure why she would say she would rather not even know you anymore, that seems odd. But actually, wouldn't it be best to have things cut off as much as possible? If she were to still hang around with you and talk to you, wouldn't you just want her that much more? Yeah I'm sure it really hurts for her to cut things off like that, it might seem really mean for her to not want to be around, but it is probably better in the long run.

 

I understand that it's got to be rough with it being thrown in your face all the time; in some ways you can't avoid it, but in other ways (your "friends" mentioning things to wind you up) you should try to separate yourself from it as much as possible. Explain to your friends that you don't appreciate them doing that, maybe even throw it back at them and tell them they are being immature.

 

On the flip side... in high school I was on the other side of this. I was "that girl". I felt really bad for breaking things off, but it was just the best thing to do at the time. Even months afterward I felt guilty; and he was in most of my classes so that made it really awkward. And so many times I wanted to just go up to him and try to explain things better, but I had to resist because: 1) at that point I had a boyfriend so it would have looked weird to have a long detailed conversation with him, and 2) it would probably only make him (and for that matter, me) even more upset. And just to back up my feeling guilty, on the last day of classes I took group pictures of my science class, and he intentionally looked down in each one. So that's all I could think of any time that I looked at that picture, was a feeling of guilt.

But I eventually stopped feeling guilty, he eventually stopped letting it get to him, i.e., life goes on. I know that sounds cheesy, but life goes on, time heals you, blah blah blah.

Communication is always the key.

^Seriously. If she's not afraid to have a conversation with you just talk to her. Talking fixes everything, bro.

I get nervous about actually talking to her though... It's been a while hasn't it, plus the fact that she's now blocked me on Facebook, it means I'd have to talk to her in person about it, so if I fuck up or if it's awkward, the results will be much worse.

She blocked you on Facebook? Damn. You're potentially fucked.

 

I'd still say man up and just ask if you can talk to her in person, be all like, "Please, I just want closure" and etc. Focus on how you just want your feelings to be fixed. Chicks dig the feelings. Most girls if they hear you want to make your feelings be better, will be like, omg sensetive, I have to not be a bitch and talk to him because he's so sensitive. If she's not a bitch she'll probably agree to explain.

To be fair I didn't specify on the stuff we argued on, I had my share of arsehole moves which led to us not talking, so I suppose I deserve this. But having said that she did pretty much just as much as me to lead up to this. I guess we were both just as pissed off about the situation as each other. :\

You didnt do anything drastic after so she blocked you on facebook right? Maybe she told her boy friend and her boyfriend forced her to block you :confused:

 

But nether less, please talk to her. I really hate to see another friendship and relationship go to waste over something small...

Maybe she told her boy friend and her boyfriend forced her to block you :confused:

Yeah I was thinking the same thing.

Nah her boyfriend has a lot of mutual friends as me, we sometimes talk on other people's statuses and he seems like an alright guy, he won't have told her to block me.

 

I even had him added for a few weeks before they started going out (I had no idea they knew each other because she'd already been deleted by this point) and he deleted me a few days after they started to go out, so it's no doubt the opposite, she told him to delete me. One of my mates thinks he's a ****** though, but when I ask him why he thinks that he hesitates and never explains why he thinks it.

Nah her boyfriend has a lot of mutual friends as me, we sometimes talk on other people's statuses and he seems like an alright guy, he won't have told her to block me.

 

I even had him added for a few weeks before they started going out (I had no idea they knew each other because she'd already been deleted by this point) and he deleted me a few days after they started to go out, so it's no doubt the opposite, she told him to delete me. One of my mates thinks he's a ****** though, but when I ask him why he thinks that he hesitates and never explains why he thinks it.

 

Just be the bigger man. We all got your back from every corner of the globe. Talk to her. If she says something that hurts you the most, let her be...eventually if she realizes how badly you were treated she'll come back.