Petit Prince

He might be nice as friend, I think you need just both need to be clear about what you want. I don't really talk about my feelings either. Well I talk about it to my best friends but I wouldn't tell a guy that I like him unless I'm petty confident that he feels the same. I sometimes wish I was more open about it because I'm sure some guys assumed that I didn't like them because I acted so shy around them. It actually gets worse when I really like someone, I can sometimes barely look into their eyes. It's ridiculous, I know. I've been lucky in the past and most of the people that really mattered could tell that I liked them anyway. Still I feel that I need to change but it's difficult because I'm scared of rejection. Well he didn't use me or anything. I knew that he didn't want a relationship and I didn't want to be with him either (I knew what he was like with his ex-girlfriends and we were in completely different places in our lives) at the time but he seemed like a cool guy and I saw him as a friend. We then started spending more and more time together and we'd sometimes talk till 3, 4 in the morning and we soon started sleeping together. It seemed right at the time and he was very honest about it and he always said that he'd be ok with it if I wanted to see other people as well but I somehow develop feelings for him and wasn't really interested in seeing anybody else. I think one of you is likely to get hurt in those kind of situations. You're probably gonna be alright if you're only physically attracted to someone but if you're really good friends as well, it's gonna get difficult. Yeah sure. He probably doesn't, I'd just be a bit careful after what happened, that's all. At least someone will get it, who really appreciates it. :)

It's weird, isn't it? (The quote, I mean) You can always go and see him if you feel like it. I'd be careful though. He might be nice as friend but he probably isn't ideal as a parter. It might not be a good idea if you really like him though. There's a guy that I met over 5 years ago and I liked him more than I would have liked to admit (he's very attractive and he's got a great personality but he even told me that he thinks that it's ok to cheat on your partner if you're not married). So basically he's an idiot when it comes to relationships. I knew this and I never saw him as a potential partner but we slept together a few times and I started to develop feelings for him. I still see him occasionally and although I've been in a relationship since and I'm pretty sure that 'I'm over him', I'd probably be in the same situation again if we were both single and seeing each other regularly. Your situation might be completely different off course and I guess it can work out, it's just very difficult to be friends with someone if you've got feelings for them. I personally wouldn't give him the guitar straight away either. I'd wait and see if he actually wants to be friends or if he's just being nice because he wants something.

You're making some very good points here. I talked to this person about what happened (for the first time ever) last week and I got very emotional and aggressive. I'm normally a very quiet and shy person and I was quite shocked by my own reaction. However, they've hurt me on several occasions and I hadn't been able to speak up for myself until we had this conversation so it's probably normal to react that way. I felt guilty afterwards though because I hurt them with what I said (which I shouldn't have done despite everything that happened.) It sounds like your situation might be quite similar to mine. I think my main problem is that this person is going to be a part of my life for a very long time and there isn't much I can do about. They're thankfully in a different country so I don't have to see them that often but a text message from this person can ruin my day and I can't function normally if I know that I'm going to see them. I feel like I need to be able come to terms with with what happened (and eventually forgive them) to be able to move on properly because I can't go on like this. It's probably gonna take a lot of time though.

I have no idea. Ask Lory :P

Well I think most people would agree that it's wrong that it's wrong to cheat on your partner regardless of your gender. The problem is that it's often considered socially acceptable for a guy to sleep around but if a girl does the same, she a 'whore'.

Sorry, I didn't mean you personally. I meant those girls who go on about how other girls are acting like sluts. Fair enough if they say it because a girl cheated on her boyfriend. However, there's nothing wrong with it if someone chooses to sleep around if they're single (and being careful). I personally wouldn't do it but it doesn't bother me if other people do.

Funnily enough, it's often girls that call their friends 'sluts'. Why do you even care, I really don't get it.

^ No, the Swiss public could vote on the minarets ban. Don't know what else to say really, I was very shocked when I found out that they actually decided to ban minarets.

True, I actually find it quite annoying. The discussion about Hamilton's driving style reminds me off Jackie Stewart's interview with Ayrton Senna that was also shown in the Senna movie. Stewart basically criticises him for being involved in more crashes than anybody else and Senna goes ' If you no longer go for a gap, you're no longer a racing driver'. I like Hamilton's spirit but I agree, he will need to be more consistent.

He's getting a lot of negative press. I was under the impression that the BBC supported Webber last year, which seems a bit odd considering that a British driver had the chance of winning the title. He's a great driver but I have to admit, he sometimes makes it quite hard to like him. I think he needs to be a bit more careful with what he says in the press but I'm sure he'll learn from his mistakes. :)

Sorry, didn't read your post properly. I agree with you there. However, I wouldn't call people shallow if they genuinely weren't familiar with the person's work (which is obviously quite unlikely in the case of Amy Winehouse).

Amy Winehouse has been around quite recently, so I agree. However, I'm sure some young people genuinely weren't familiar with most of Michael Jackson's music until he died. Quite sad really but I wouldn't call if hypocritical. I've got Amy Winehouse's albums but if the're going to release a Greatest Hit album with a few songs that haven't been released so far, I'll buy it.

I'm not a fan of bow ties, sorry.

^ Well Hamilton's known for taking risks, it paid off from him today but he'll inevitably be involved in more crashes than other drivers because of his aggressive driving style. Really made up it worked out for him today anyway. I think Eddie Jordan made a good point here. Lewis Hamilton didn't make as many mistakes when he was driving a superior car either because he didn't need to take as many risks at the time. There is no doubt that Vettel is very talented but it would be interesting to see him in a less competitive car.

What you're saying is completely normal and understandable. Sounds like you did like him a lot so it might take you a long time to get over it. :( It's particularly difficult in my experience if the person does like you (and maybe even fancies you) even if they don't wanna be with you. Either way, it's probably best not to spend too much time with him because chances are he's only gonna hurt you again. I'm sorry to say but it really sounds like he hasn't changed :embarrassed: What are you gonna do about the guitar?

Same. Thanks! I think some of it was intentional, not sure what to think really. He says it wasn't but I'm finding it hard to believe. Either way, hating someone is only gonna put me down because they might have moved on with their life for all I know. You're probably right though, I takes time to forgive someone who's really hurt you. Well I sent them a message saying that I was sorry if came across as too aggressive and they said that we should talk again in two week's time. Might say that I need more time, they've hopefully understand after all that happened. Yeah. Thanks! Was more hoping to hear how other people deal with those type of situations to be honest. :)

5Live is good if you like football.

I'm moving away soon. I'm quite nervous but I also see it as a new beginning. I won't be seeing this person for a while because they're in a different country, which might make things a bit easier. Still it's eating me up and I feel like I mightn't be able to move on unless I forgive them. Maybe I just need some time, I don't know.

5Live is good for football coverage. Juice FM is just our local radio station. They plays whatever's in the charts.

Thanks *hugsback* I guess so. I've already given it some time, in the sense that I avoided this person for a while. They contacted me saying that we needed to talk and I was hoping this could improve the situation but I feel like I hurt them and things are worse than before now. Sadly, this person was/ is rather close to me so I won't forget about it for a very long time. However, I will need to move on from it and try to see the positive things that came out of the situation.

I only listen to the radio when I'm at work. We normally listen to Juice FM or 5Live.

I know how you feel, I wanted them to know but somehow I feel bad now. See I kind of feel responsible for how they take it, I don't want them to suffer the same way I did. Despite everything this person has put me through, I still like them in a way. He also helped me in some ways but the negative feelings always seem to take over.

Same, I feel guilty for not forgiving him. I know this person has been through a lot and I wanted to treat him nicely despite everything that happened but I ended up hurting him. I really need to be stronger and learn to move on and forgive people.

What?

How do you forgive someone who really hurt you? And do you think you have to forgive them to be able to move on with your life? I recently talked to someone who did some really bad stuff to me. Despite everything they've done I tried to be calm and polite but somehow, emotions took over. It's weird I always thought that I'd feel stronger after confronting them but the opposite seems to be the case. I don't think I said anything hurtful other than what this person did to me and how I feel about. Still I feel really guilty and much worse than before. In spite of everything they have put me through, I didn't mean to hurt them but I just couldn't help it. Anyone ever felt this way? I'm trying to be stronger but it's so difficult. :embarrassed: