Do you tend to befriend losers?

[Cyan Kat]

That was a great story Greg, Theres this quiet girl in my year she is insane at times but she is Hilarious :lol:

[Alice]

Yeah Greg is right actually.

 

I don't want to sound like a bad person but honestly I won't usually go talk to people who look like loosers to me. If they come to me I won't send them away of course !

[Gitta Rensolo]

I think I would show them that I didn't want to be friends with them. Not in a direct way but in my typical indirect way.....I certainly know how to avoid people and how to show them I don't really want to interact with them.

[Petit Prince]

No, some people are losers. I know it's subjective, but if you try and make friends with people you have nothing in common with, you haven't got a clue that you have no means of socialising with them or connecting with them then you're a loser. There are people who obviously suck at life, there is no denying it. I'll still keep befriending them though. Out of sympathy.

 

I befriend them because I feel sorry for them. And then I regret doing it. And then I can't shake them off. And then people avoid me because I have the loser tagging along. When I first started College I was playing cards with a bunch of people and I saw a guy at the side on his own watching and looking sad. He was about 18 stone, looked quite a lot like donkey kong and had a dragon t-shirt. I'm not being cruel, this is an accurate description and I'm not making fun of him by saying this, it's just what he looks like. Anyway he was so fucking happy when I asked him, it was the third day and I'm pretty sure he was the only person who hadn't made a single friend. It became clear that we had nothing in common and he was a psychopath (one day when we were playing cards he got beat so picked up a chair and threw it through the ceiling and stormed out). It took me a year and a half to get rid of him and when I finally did he sat on the table next to me all the time watching me.

 

It's all well and good saying we are all losers, or saying it's subjective whether someone is a loser or not, but if you put yourself in a position which you clearly don't belong and you are at the bottom of the pecking order in that chain then you are a loser. He didn't have to be a loser, he could have hung out with like minded people, which he actually started doing towards the end of college but he didn't.

 

So he's a loser because he happened to be mixing with the wrong crowd? Well he might have been a loser to you because you and your friends didn't wanna spend your time with him. Doesn't mean he sucks at life. It just took him some time to meet the right people I guess.

[Prince Myshkin]

That's where I struggle. I just hate seeing people alone, it gets me so down and so I speak to them and I'm kind to them. I can never get away from them after that haha.

[Prince Myshkin]

So he's a loser because he happened to be mixing with the wrong crowd? Well he might have been a loser to you because you and your friends didn't wanna spend your time with him. Doesn't mean he sucks at life. It just took him some time to meet the right people I guess.

 

He put himself in a situation where he was a loser and didn't do anything about it to stop it. Sorry if that offends you but everything is about perception and to some people he wouldn't have been a loser, but in that situation he was. I never said he sucked at life.

 

And yeah, it did take him some time to meet some people he could relate to, and then he found himself in a situation where he wasn't a loser. Good for him and good for us. We wished him no harm.

[EmmaLouiseSmyth]

^^ those "losers" and those sort of people tend to gravitate towards my friends and I

:bigcry:

[Crests]

I'm friends with Emma, does that answer your question?

 

loljk :lips:

[EmmaLouiseSmyth]

and I'm friends with crests :charming:

loser or what! :kiss:

[ViVA Child]

nope, the losers are the people who think their too cool for me :p

 

im nice to everyone until they not nice to me personally

[Lore]

I don't label people, I dislike some people but being a loser it's not a reason to do it :uhoh:

[mc_squared]

 

im nice to everyone until they not nice to me personally

 

Ditto.;)

[eff-exx]

I make friends; loser, coolios, it really depends on how you perceive that person you befriend. I'm not a biggie myself.

[cp13]

I befriend losers because they are awesome losers. Which is kinda contrary. . .

[Megalomania]

I'll talk to said loser a bit, see if they actually deserve being a loser or not before befriending them. :lol:

[LoryABjerre]

Have you ever considered moving away?

 

 

To answer the question. I wasn't very popular as a kid. I lived in a small village and I didn't have a lot in common with the people I went to school with but there was no one else. I felt a bit lonely and I was bullied in Secondary School because I wasn't one of the 'cool kids' who never bothered to do any work for school and got drunk and stole from shops instead. Things got a lot better when I went to a different school to do my A Levels. I made some good friends and I no longer dreaded going to school.

 

I try not to categorise people. I think I'm way to old for that anyway. There is so many people on my course that there isn't really a group of losers and a group of cool kids. There's just different groups of friends. There's obviously people who find it hard to make friends at uni or work but I don't think they get bullied most of the time. There's also a lot of staff nights out etc. that should make it easier to make friends.

 

Anyway I'm probably not the one who befriends people who sit on their own. Mainly because I'm very shy so I wouldn't really start a conversation with someone I don't know. If I get to know them and we get on well, it certainly wouldn't bother me if they haven't got a lot of friends though.

 

my story is a little different. I've always been studious in school, and even first class. I do not bragging either, just being a refuge and forget the injustices. I had a friend at school. I have always been perfect for teachers. and the director of the school his favorite. it was horrible for me.

bah you know I was beaten at school little girl by the guys ado. humiliated, finished off by my personality and values in this period of school but as many others people.

I could not continue my studies. not more for my psycho was much difficult then I was in a professional school but it was the same, adults students not changed.

and now I am a loser and even became an anti-social. but I have my real values, good or bad. nobody is perfect.

 

H.S I like this song for us all that we are all losers by the people

 

 

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[mc_squared]

nobody is perfect.

 

 

Exactly. Certain people would do well to remember that before casting stones at others.;)

[Technicolor Sparks]

I don't tend to befriend them, but they tend to fall in love with me.

 

I just hit the fourth loser to do so. It's a problem.

[Empily]

My college is actually quite good :lol: There aren't many people who I would actually consider losers :wacko: at least not in my classes :p

 

When I was in my last year of school, a little year 7 girl started following behind me when I walked to school. It happened a few times and I usually just ignored her but after a while I thought maybe I shouldn't be so mean and I turned around to talk to her. However it turned into everyday that she now followed me religiously and she would literally hide and wait behind a wall for me so she could follow me :blank: I had nothing in common with this girl and our journey to school usually consisted of her talking the whole way there without me saying a word. I was starting to think about maybe trying to shake her off somehow but then one day she suddenly dived behind a tree and told me that there were people who used to bully her walking infront of us, so I felt sorry and just allowed her to follow me until i finished school :lol: I guess maybe because I was older it maybe made her look cooler or less of a target. If it made her life easier then hey, I guess it was worth it.

[mc_squared]

I was starting to think about maybe trying to shake her off somehow but then one day she suddenly dived behind a tree and told me that there were people who used to bully her walking infront of us, so I felt sorry and just allowed her to follow me until i finished school :lol: I guess maybe because I was older it maybe made her look cooler or less of a target. If it made her life easier then hey, I guess it was worth it.

 

That was a very nice gesture. Good for you.:cool:

[i'maveryneatMonster.']

I feel like some people making huge emphasis on "we're all equals" were bullied or lonely some time of their lives.

This is not a negative comment btw, just an observation.

[Electric.Candy]

um yes and no. :thinking:

 

I had a friend before but I didn't know she's a loser, and when I was in 5th grade I used to make fun of someone in our class, though we became friends when we went to high school.

 

Some losers I befriend, some I do not; like my classmate in my first year of college. he's a self-proclaimed 'communist', he thinks he's smarter than the rest of us and he flirts with 1/4 of the girls in class (I guess being bitchy to him helped so he doesn't even talk to me. phew)...nobody can relate to him except the smartest guy in our class. he's the kind of guy that even you want to be nice to him, you just can't.

 

I can befriend a loser if I know he/she is not a loser-worthy person. I just don't like to befriend assholes (those that are not usually 'losers', you know what I mean?).

[Gitta Rensolo]

I feel like some people making huge emphasis on "we're all equals" were bullied or lonely some time of their lives.

This is not a negative comment btw, just an observation.

 

I see truth in that

[Prince Myshkin]

Exactly. Certain people would do well to remember that before casting stones at others.;)

 

I don't see anybody in here casting stones at others? Everybody in this thread and everybody in the world would be a loser in certain situations. The key is not to continuously put yourself in those situations when you know you aren't going to improve as a person, create a positive effect on those around you or even enjoy the experience.

 

Everybody is a winner in certain situations too. I'm not saying people should stick to what they are good at but there are certain things that aren't worth pursuing.

[mc_squared]

I don't see anybody in here casting stones at others?

 

I wasn't referring to anything said in this thread.

 

Everybody in this thread and everybody in the world would be a loser in certain situations. The key is not to continuously put yourself in those situations when you know you aren't going to improve as a person, create a positive effect on those around you or even enjoy the experience.

 

Makes sense.

 

Everybody is a winner in certain situations too. I'm not saying people should stick to what they are good at but there are certain things that aren't worth pursuing.

 

Yup. Shows like X Factor and Britain's Got Talent spring to mind.;)