roquejose Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 Hi all,I'm 19,still a virgin and have never had girlfriends yet,don't smoke neither drink alcohol,at the moment i'm succesfull in university,I am waiting for the ideal girl but she doesn't come,I'm not shy (perhaps a bit anxious),what do you think I could do? Thank you a lot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Escapist Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 Be patient? Sounds like everything else is going just fine for you. You have two choices really. Either go out and find someone or just wait for someone to find you. The former is more direct of course but it's up to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotdensestate Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 Hm. I assume you're nice, in which case honestly if girls had any sense they would be all over you. Go out with friends and meet people, find a girl you like, hang out with her, tell her. I dunno how to help much besides that. I guess just you can't "wait for the perfect girl," you have to go out there and look and whilst looking wait until you see one you like, I guess, but after that you have to take some initiative, generally. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destrokk Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 I watched Everybody Loves Raymond, and Robert felt lonely and wanted the right girlfriend beacuse the others sucked, so Raymond told Robert that the right girl is out there somewhere. Later, Debra says that you shouldn't picture that ideal girl, or else everyone would be like crap, and you'd have some kind of fear of commitment. Everybody Loves Raymond is the only source of daily values and advice for my life :blank: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotdensestate Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 That's some good advice, Debra. :surprised: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roquejose Posted November 27, 2010 Author Share Posted November 27, 2010 Yes,it's very deep,thank you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ImLovingGuyBerryman Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 roquejose, you sound pretty much exactly like me. Even the same age. :blank: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the_gloaming09 Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 roquejose, you sound pretty much exactly like me. Even the same age. :blank: me too, except older :| I think a lot of it has to do with self-confidence which I don't have enough of. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destrokk Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 19 is not a bad age to be a virgin ya know. 18 is the right time to start dating, since you're more mature and you're ready to take responsibilities, also depending if you are mature for your age. It's not bad to have a boyfriend or girlfriend younger than 18, but IMO I feel like I'd be ready. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cobalt Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 I watched Everybody Loves Raymond, and Robert felt lonely and wanted the right girlfriend beacuse the others sucked, so Raymond told Robert that the right girl is out there somewhere. Later, Debra says that you shouldn't picture that ideal girl, or else everyone would be like crap, and you'd have some kind of fear of commitment. Everybody Loves Raymond is the only source of daily values and advice for my life :blank: BAD ADVICE, HER NAME IS DEBORAH, NINGBAT jk Destrokk :heart: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prince Myshkin Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 It is impossible to make judgement without more information, and ultimately until we all knew you in person, but if you feel you have the necessary attributes to attract a partner then your best bet is to work your way into a position where you will meet like-minded people (or a specific type of person different to yourself if you are filled with self loathing). Are you ever in the position where you are in situations with girls you are interested in? You mention that you are successful at University so would it be possible to involve yourself in some extra curricular activities which may help you mix with people you have yet to meet? Aside to that simply carry on doing what you are doing and something will happen sooner or later I am sure. I know a couple of really nice guys, attractive too, who didn't get a girlfriend until they were at least 22 as they were waiting for the right person. There is no shame in it. Have you ever been in a position where you have made your feelings known to a girl? Or is there nobody around who you have an interest in? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lore Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 me too, except older :| I think a lot of it has to do with self-confidence which I don't have enough of. same here :blank: This is good advice I think Hm. I assume you're nice, in which case honestly if girls had any sense they would be all over you. Go out with friends and meet people, find a girl you like, hang out with her, tell her. I dunno how to help much besides that. I guess just you can't "wait for the perfect girl," you have to go out there and look and whilst looking wait until you see one you like, I guess, but after that you have to take some initiative, generally. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AusKT Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 Hi all,I'm 19,still a virgin and have never had girlfriends yet,don't smoke neither drink alcohol,at the moment i'm succesfull in university,I am waiting for the ideal girl but she doesn't come,I'm not shy (perhaps a bit anxious),what do you think I could do? Thank you a lot. Could it possibly be that maybe your standards are too high? I'm not saying hook up with the next girl that walks past, but are you maybe dismissing girls that you don't see as 'perfect for you'. I guess you need to put yourself out there a little, smile and say hi to girls. Engage in casual conversation and see if that leads to getting to know each other better. You generally need to get to know a girl first before you have sex with them. :P Unless it's one of those drunken hookups :uhoh:, but you said you don't drink. Basically just be yourself, it will happen in time. Goodluck! :) roquejose, you sound pretty much exactly like me. Even the same age. :blank: I'm telling you, there is something seriously wrong with all the guys around you! I still say that they are just too intimidated by your beauty, superior intellect, and funny as shit wit. :hug: me too, except older :| I think a lot of it has to do with self-confidence which I don't have enough of. Maybe you could slowly work on that, by striking up a conversation with a girl while you're in a group situation first? Then as you build confidence you'll feel comfortable approaching girls on your own. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matter-Eater Lad Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 Call her fat, women love that. Be very mean. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rudy_o Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 Hi all,I'm 19,still a virgin and have never had girlfriends yet,don't smoke neither drink alcohol,at the moment i'm succesfull in university,I am waiting for the ideal girl but she doesn't come,I'm not shy (perhaps a bit anxious),what do you think I could do? Thank you a lot. OMG you are so like me. :| Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reilly Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 Call her fat, women love that. Be very mean. What haha?! Women don't like being called fat!! Women hate that! WTF! Women don't like it when you're very mean to them!!! HAHA lulzwutlulzwutlulzwut-lulz. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i'maveryneatMonster.' Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 roquejose, you sound pretty much exactly like me. Even the same age. :blank: Oh well, hello gorgeous. Wanna go out? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reilly Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 *Sexual tension* :anxious: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ImLovingGuyBerryman Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 I'm telling you, there is something seriously wrong with all the guys around you! I still say that they are just too intimidated by your beauty, superior intellect, and funny as shit wit. :hug: :lol: Katie, you're way too sweet, and you flatter me too much! :hug: But honestly, around here there's always much better-looking people than me. (For me at least) it's really not hard to see why guys don't really go for me much. Oh well, hello gorgeous. Wanna go out? Duh. :charming: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Technicolor Sparks Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 Hi all,I'm 19,still a virgin and have never had girlfriends yet,don't smoke neither drink alcohol,at the moment i'm succesfull in university,I am waiting for the ideal girl but she doesn't come,I'm not shy (perhaps a bit anxious),what do you think I could do? Thank you a lot. This sounds like me, except I'm a girl! :P Let's hang out. :wink3: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reilly Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 This is the eharmony thread of the forum. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Megalomania Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 This is the eharmony thread of the forum. Haha! :wacky: Didn't someone advertise some sort of dating site based on your musical tastes a while back? :thinking: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reilly Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 Yeah but that was for matching up homosexual people. Well I'd imagine it was because it was totally GAY Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roquejose Posted November 27, 2010 Author Share Posted November 27, 2010 Haha,well,I'm seeing I'm not alone...Perhaps It has some relation with our musical taste? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Megalomania Posted November 27, 2010 Share Posted November 27, 2010 Yeah but that was for matching up homosexual people. Well I'd imagine it was because it was totally GAY :lol:! Haha,well,I'm seeing I'm not alone...Perhaps It has some relation with our musical taste? Nah, I don't think so. . .:P I think you just need to go out on some dates, take every opportunity to meet new people. :wacko: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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