I have used irony on the internet and now I feel like a fool again HAHAHA

[Guest LiquidSky]

Just let him chase you. Don't think too much of it. There are girls who Just pretty much throw themselves at the guys & I would say that guys just jump at the idea.. idk maybe a response from a guy would be better because I don't really know either. I'm in a relationship right now but it's confusing sometimes and hurtful & other times it's just lovely and lively.

[Gitta Rensolo]

you are right.....I won't think too much about this anymore....I know that it will only pull me down and there is no need for that....it only makes me feel bad....

[Brent]

Guys are assholes man

[Gitta Rensolo]

oooh a guy....maybe you could give an appropriate answer hahaha...

[Brent]

An appropriate answer to what?

[Gitta Rensolo]

I don't know....haha....to what I should think. But you don't have to since I didn't want to think of this too much anymore...

[Brent]

I think that there's only a few good guys out there (and that's coming from me...a guy). Most of us are assholes. But I truly believe there's a person out there for everyone. You should really just keep your eyes open and your heart ready :hug:

 

Sorry if that was cheesy. But it's totally, 100% true.

[Gitta Rensolo]

I think that there's only a few good guys out there (and that's coming from me...a guy). Most of us are assholes. But I truly believe there's a person out there for everyone. You should really just keep your eyes open and your heart ready :hug:

 

Sorry if that was cheesy. But it's totally, 100% true.

 

ooooh well thanks.....:nice:

 

that's what I keep saying to myself and what cheers me up....

 

 

so yeah tonight we've been chatting like we used to do.....:freak:

[Brent]

Be cynical :blank:

[Gitta Rensolo]

don't worry....I am haha...

[Brent]

Also kick him in the balls. I hate douchebags.

[Reilly]

Most of us are assholes.

 

Uh. No.

[Gitta Rensolo]

Also kick him in the balls. I hate douchebags.

 

I could never do that. Well with him. He is definitely no douchebag.....if he is then he has a multiple personality....and that's why it would be pretty strange if he was dating somebody else now and just stopped talking to me....idk

[Brent]

You ----> :hug: <------me

[Gitta Rensolo]

oooh thank you...how nice of you :wacko:

[LauCH]

Just let him chase you. Don't think too much of it. There are girls who Just pretty much throw themselves at the guys & I would say that guys just jump at the idea.. idk maybe a response from a guy would be better because I don't really know either. I'm in a relationship right now but it's confusing sometimes and hurtful & other times it's just lovely and lively.

 

:nod: !!!! This. If he really appreciates you, he will come back and talk to you. If not, he doesn't like you. I'm sorry if that sounds mean, but it's true. You'll find someone, maybe he's just not the right guy!

[Reilly]

Some quality white-knighting from Brent there.

 

I did respond the other night to all this but pressed back space and it went back a page thus losing everything I wrote (And it was a lot).

 

At the time I suggested that not being forward enough is the last thing I could think of why he's backed off, if anything it sounds like you might have scared him (Writing "I showed him many many many times how much I liked him" maybe that was TOO many times) I know for me personally when I'm in a pre-relationship mode (Seeing eachother but not making it official) I don't really like showing/re-iterating feelings too early. I mean saying you really like someone is one thing but if it's repeatedly, and you're saying how you have strong emotions for him etc, that's not far off being in love, or at least I'd think that if I were him. I really think that part of a relationship (Or making of a relationship) should pretty much just be fun and relaxed until it comes to that serious and deep talk of mutual feelings. That's not a law or anything but I think that's how a lot of us work, just recently a friend of mine whos been seeing someone for the past few weeks got a text about how she really misses him (Shes gone for christmas) and actually, I don't think its that strange but he was like "I've only known her a fortnight wtf" basically. I think if I repeatedly got those types of texts, or talked to about 'strong feelings', she can't sleep without me and stuff along those lines, I would really let go quite quickly, or at least tell her to calm down and see how it goes. Because that would just seem like a possibly exhausting situation.

 

So we're not mostly assholes I just think guys are slightly better at remaining calm and being able to function without the girl at the start of a relationship, but some girls tend to really take things too far in their own mind (Like saying you thought he'd be "the one"?), I mean guys can do that as well (1st girlfriend syndrome- where a guy cannot stop texting/thinking about/telling his friends every detail about his new girlfriend) but overall I'd say girls tend to do it more. If you keep having this repeatedly happen to you where the relationships over before it starts, you may be coming on really strongly, even if you don't realise it.

 

But the bottom line is that you've been hurt, by someone you haven't known for that long, and whatever the reasons are for him acting how he's acting, you should try to control yourself because you can't get that emotionally attached to someone you don't truely know yet. It takes a long time to build trust with a person (And more importantly, a lot of time spent with them) and I know at the start it can seem like a really exciting thing but you really can't get carried away, or you'll end up hurt when it's just not necessary and can be avoided. Plus if you are coming on too strongly even if you aren't trying to, if you think like this about someone it's beyond your control how you act sometimes, he'll pick up on that. He might have said he just wants a nice girl or simple girl (Can't remember what it was) and that could be you, but nothings ever that straightforward.

 

This being said, I don't think it would ruin anything if you did politely ask him if he's been busy, as you haven't heard from as much, if he shrugs it off then forget about it, just try not to confront him about it and turn it into a big deal. I don't think it would hurt for you at least give an explanation, he might even want to explain but sometimes it can be really awkward to bring something like that up and it's easier to just act like it never happened.

[Reilly]

Word of advice: Don't date. People who date always end up hurt because they think that the person is serious and wants to be with them and suddenly they have someone else or dating someone else. If a guy is interested in you, don't go on a date with him, he'll ask you out instead.

 

And I forgot to reply to this.

 

What on earth?!

[MaxRide]

Word of advice: Don't date. People who date always end up hurt because they think that the person is serious and wants to be with them and suddenly they have someone else or dating someone else. If a guy is interested in you, don't go on a date with him, he'll ask you out instead.

 

As weird as this sounds, I'm going to go ahead and agree with that. Mostly because I'm aromantic/asexual at the moment and have never been attracted to anyone. :shrug:

[Reilly]

My best advice is don't listen to that advice. I don't even understand it, don't date anyone but wait for them to ask you? And then what, DONT date them?

 

That advice sounds to me like "Lock yourself in a box in your basement", date someone if you like them, obviously, as if that needs to be spelt out.

[Crests]

maybe she means like going on the kind of date you would with someone you just met or something or idk

[Reilly]

MAYBE SHE MEANT YOU SHOULD SHUTUP

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Just joshing. The only thing I can think of is that she meant Jules shouldn't ask any guy out and wait for him to ask. I wouldn't agree with that anyway because it's not the 1930's.

[Guest LiquidSky]

And I forgot to reply to this.

 

What on earth?!

 

My best advice is don't listen to that advice. I don't even understand it, don't date anyone but wait for them to ask you? And then what, DONT date them?

 

That advice sounds to me like "Lock yourself in a box in your basement", date someone if you like them, obviously, as if that needs to be spelt out.

 

maybe she means like going on the kind of date you would with someone you just met or something or idk

 

lol yeah that's what I meant :laugh3:

 

Here going on "dates" or "I'm dating" means.. I'm talking/seeing several people which may or may not be serious so I'm mingle around in the mean time... going on a date kinda means the same thing, if you don't know that they're just "dating around" and you become attached to them and god forbid you slept with them :facepalm: because you thought he was being serious with you and then they start moving to the next person.

 

So I meant don't go into those type of dates, if a guy really wants to be with you, he'll ask you to be his girlfriend instead.

 

Also, it's not good that you become attached to someone so quickly and like the other person said about never being attracted to anyone<<< That was me too! hahaha!:laugh3: until I met my bf. :embarrassed:

[Reilly]

I still don't get it at all. Like, I don't have a single clue what you mean.

[Gitta Rensolo]

Hey Reilly thanks for that honest and long answer.

 

What I have to say is:

I think you got that wrong (though it's not your fault but mine due to that language barrier we are having on here)

Of course I didn't tell him that I like him so much or that I love him or that I have strong emotions for him. That wouldn't be me. I'm notlike that. I think it rather showing him that I think he is cool and that I want to spend some more time with him.

And this is a development in my case haha.

And like I said before. Of course I felt bad or hm kinda shocked when I started believing that there might be another girl. I just felt so disappointed. But the next day it was ok. I didn't feel bad anymore. He didn't directly hurt my feelings it was rather the fact that I believed that this could work out well and that I started wondering what went wrong again. If it was my fault.

 

Really it's ok now. We are still talking to each other and no I won't make a big deal of this I haven't even asked him about anything yet.

The only thing that pissed me of at first was that he seemed to be lying to me. I hate that. I rather want the truth even if it could be hurtful at first. But that's still better than starting to get into a circle of lies which will be even more hurtful in the end.

 

 

So yeah at the moment I wonder if there actually is something wrong. So I will keep talking to him and see what happens.

 

I'm not one of these girls who make a big deal of those things. It was even the first time that I told my best friend about a guy I got to know haha. Usually I don't do that and see first what happens