Do you have or would you prefer to have just one or two quality friends or a whole bunch of friends?

 

In the case of a large quantity of friends, from my experience these are the types who walk around in packs. In other cases people with large group of friends donates his time to different friends at different times. No matter what the layout, having a huge array of friends normally means, you dont know them..in a real sense. You might hang around with them often but because of the large group you dont really get to talk to them on a personal level. People in groups often try to 'show off' and thus, you get a distorted image of people.

 

In the case of few friends, conversation can be one to one. Because of this you know these friends better and learn of their emotions and opinions. However less friends sometimes means less social oppurtunities if you're into spending time with people all the time. in this case you'd probably have a large group of friends anyway. Im kinda just waffeling now, so I'd better stop.

 

Anyway in my case I (probably like most people) have had experience in both departments. Right now Its a bit of a mixture. I used to have 2 or 3 really close friends, however we have now kinda seperated...I now have a bgger group of friends, but because of this you dont feel as close, and I would feel awkward asking them about stuff or taking to them about serious issues. I do still have some really close friends, but none that I am as close to as my old friends. I miss having these close friends, that you can just mess around with and talk too about anything.

friends quality..

quality definitely. to be honest i really dislike/hate when i see people just making friends (for example: MySpace) just because it's cool to have more than your another mate...aghhhh.

 

i think i have like 6-8 real friends and around 30-40 people who are just pick-ups

Hm. I'd say quality.

 

But what if we have a big group of close friends? haha.

 

I have friends that I can talk about whatever I want to with, for the most part. I have two really close friends (one of which as been my best friend for six years, heh.), and a lot of pretty close friends. I've known a lot of my friends since elementary 'n such, and my friends that I just made this year usually have something in common with me to talk about. :P We all go out to lunch together at school, and it's pretty fun--I can engage in a good conversation with all of them... I think. And I've been trying to start a metal band with a few others but it's not really working out. :laugh3:

 

I'm not really good at making friends, introducing myself, etc etc, so I think my friends are my friends for who I am 'n stuff. You can't really be my friend without knowing me, I think. Otherwise they'd just be aquaintences. :confused:

well said :wacko:

no need to go that far, it's the same thing here :wacky:

i have few real close friends and the rest of the time i'm getting social :smartass:

I'm very electoral in choosing friends. I can't be friends with person that annoys me and almost all people around me annoy me somehow :uneasy:

 

I think that it's better to not have friends at all than to be friends with someone you think not really good about.

 

Maybe that's the reason I've never had many friends... The point is if I don't like any of people who try to become my friend I just tell him/her about it, and people think I'm a loner and all.... But I just need to really like my friends so it's kinda hard.

I like to think my friends are somewhere in between quantity and quality.

quality is better.

allways quality :)

quality...

 

no matter what the number of friends, if none have quality..whats the point? :huh:

quality...

 

no matter what the number of friends, if none have quality..whats the point? :huh:

 

yeah, i couldn't agree with you more!

i hate people who love to brag about how many friends they have, it's just so stupid and it means almost always that those are not real friends! and as for me i just need to have people who i really like and trust, i don't care if they're many as long as they are real friends and not just someone you're with not to be alone

 

so of course my answer is quality, always!

I like to give each (when I had friends)..I liked to give them my time..individually.

 

 

I mean, we would hang out only in small groups. That way everyone has their say and doesn't feel uncomfortable and left out. I made sure of that. I hated the feeling of being left out.

 

And in my group, you could always be relaxed and just day what was on your mind. I guess I had an okay group back in the days

First the quality, because one real friend is better than a million of fake plastic friends. Atenea_brit

Quality... I've known too many people who had semi-close friends who had the friends turn on them and (figurativly) stab them in the back. Much better to have people you can rely on.

I'm very electoral in choosing friends. I can't be friends with person that annoys me and almost all people around me annoy me somehow :uneasy:

 

I think that it's better to not have friends at all than to be friends with someone you think not really good about.

 

Maybe that's the reason I've never had many friends... The point is if I don't like any of people who try to become my friend I just tell him/her about it, and people think I'm a loner and all.... But I just need to really like my friends so it's kinda hard.

 

I feel the same!

I've maybe 5-6 real friends , I mean I can rely on them...otherwise the pthers are just people I know and I talk with.

Well my brother has loads of "friends" but they are not reliable...so I prefer to be alone than to be with people who can't understand your situation, problems, or with people that you don't like much...

I say quality.

But what if you are the best quality friend for all your other friends?:thinking:

quality of course

 

being popular doesn't meanthat you have many friends. it's jsut that many people know you and call themselves 'your friends' but actually they're not.

 

i don't understand people shwoing off how many friends they've got. that is just stupid.

 

perhaps i've only got 5 friends that i'm really close to.

quality for sure

 

i have a lot of quantity but they are just there filling time, i hav maybe 3 or so quality friends

quality for sure

 

i have a lot of quantity but they are just there filling time, i hav maybe 3 or so quality friends

yeah, exactly.

those shallow friends are cool to party with or something else ...

but i don't like to talk to them about serious stuff.

I knew everyone would say Quaility, its the obvious answer.

The thread was more to explore the different types of friends people have, and how some people have more friends then others, but still dont have someone to talk to about their problems and such. ie..on the outside it looks like they're really popular and have loads of friends but really these friends dont mean anything.

Quality of friends is better than quantity.

Quantity.

 

Just to be different.

 

Hahaha no, Quality is obviously the better choice, its a good topic though.

 

But still, you have to consider the fact that if you only have 1 or 2 quality friends, its kind of hard for you guys to make the time to see eachother regularly with different schedules and life and whatnot. That could get very lonely at times, because even though you know you have people who care about you, they arent at your disposal like having 20 numbskulls around.

 

NUMBSKULLZ

 

When you have a quantity of friends, your activities are a lot more varied and sociable. If you want to go out on a Friday night, you want to go with lots of people, not just your best friend. If you want to play football or go swimming on a Tuesday morning, one of your 2 best friends may not be able to go with you, but if you know 20 or 30 other people, surely one of them will be up for it and you wont have to go alone.

 

Still, I'd pick temporary loneliness over lack of quality caring anyday.

Reilly i agreee with you

 

quality is good in small occasions or quite moments

but quantity wins when you need loud moments like partying, and socialising, and u can always choose to mingle with one group rather than another and everything is cool

 

with close friends it can get hard

Exactly.

 

Plus, if you only have quantity friends that are for life, theres a good chance you'll end up splitting away from eachother, maybe to other countries. That would be very lonely.

 

In fact, y'know what, I'm going to pick Quantity. Yep! Thats right! And not just to be different, but thinking of it now, I dont need a few close friends who care a lot about me. I want to leave that to my family and more importantly the woman in my life

 

Having a quantity of friends doesnt mean that they have to be dicks, they simply just hang around to make you feel good and have some fun with, and I'm perfectly happy with that.

 

Besides I usually dont like troubling my good friends with my troubled issues and mind anyway.

another plus would be you can only get quality out of quantity......however many people it takes