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[Jack]

If you can all take a minute from posting pictures of yourselves, random people or celebrities, and a minute from spamming to create drama or annoy people or even just for fun, then read this.

 

Today I've had pretty much one thing on my mind for the past few hours. Today one of my best friends found out her little brother (14 year olds) has a large cancerous tumour in his lung. He'd been ill for a few weeks and when it came around to hospital, they found out today what exactly it was.

 

He's in a very critical state and it doesn't look like improving over the next few days as far as we know. He's lost a lot of blood and had way too much fluid in his lungs, and I mean, I only know what my friend's told me. And I daren't ask too many details cause I'm sure it's a strain on her to tell everyone when everyone asks.

 

On top of this, the girl I'm friends with is probably one of the nicest people I'll ever meet. Genuinely. That's not one of them things that people say when things are going wrong for them to make it sound better or anything. If you met her and got along with her you'd find the most energetic, kind, generous, outgoing person you could ever meet. They're a family from the Phillipines and moved all over the world before settling here where I live. My friend herself has hardly been the healthiest girl, as well. She suffers from a condition that causes awful allergic reactions to a large variety of every day foods, substances and so on, as well as excema that causes her to spend weeks at a time in Hospital herself.

 

I don't know her brother personally, nor do I know the rest of the family, so I can only comment on my friend. She finished her first year of University last week and instead of relaxing in the summer, her and her family are spending it worrying whether they're 14 year old brother/son/cousin/friend will survive it.

 

 

 

I just thought I'd post it here. It just puts a lot in perspective. Myself and everyone else probably complain at least once about something every day and when you hear a story like this (and they happen so so frequently, only this time it's involving a person I know) it really sends it home. We're all really really lucky so if you could before you went to sleep tonight, spare a thought or prayer for this 14 year old boy and his family who'll no doubt be unable to sleep.

 

Thanks.

 

 

 

 

(I didn't re-read this so whatever errors or contradictions or repeated phrases I've used, that's not my biggest concern, it's just what I typed as the thoughts ran through my head).

[winigwl]

thats terrible. i really hope you feel better and all ends well for your friend's sister.

i'm really sorry to hear this jack. really sorry.

[Chavi]

I'm really sorry to hear that. It's terrible.

I feel like a selfish, ignorant, stupid person sometimes. We're never thankful enough for the luck we might have. and we sure do complain about too many insignifant things.

My thoughts are with all of them !

[Guest Grace]

i know what you mean, jack.

 

it's one of those things you experience that makes you realise how great your life actually is and that other people have to suffer every single day although they deserve a good life.

 

last year i visited the philippines (my mum's home country; coincedence that that girl's filipino!) again after a few years and what i've experienced there... i can hardly find words for it.

that's what the blog was about. the one you asked for an english translation for.

 

all in can say is that i'm sorry for that friend of yours because i know what it's like when bad things happen to good people (doesn't mean that bad things are supposed to happen to bad people; you get the point.)

 

i hope her brother will get better.

and i hope the best for the rest of her family.

 

imagining what it'd be like if any of us was in her position clearly exceeds our imagination.

[Hotplay007]

oh my gosh. I'm so sorry to hear this. I feel terrible. I hope her bro survives. I'll definitely give a thought and a prayer tonight before I go to bed. Man, that's just horrible. :cry:

[Black Rose]

Hopefully your friend's brother will beat the cancer and they have caught it for good.

 

As someone who has lost both granddads to cancer, i know what your going though

[Pseudonym]

Im so sorry for all this and I surely will give a few moments of silence tonight and pray for you. This really does put things in perspective and makes you thankful for what you have. I really hope this all passes and he gets better.

 

Best of luck, and keep a positive attitude as much as you can. You can always count on all of us for support.:)

[Jack]

Well since yesterday things haven't got better at all. All I know is that the tumour is too big to be removed cause of the risk of it bursting, which would kill him.

 

So the only real hope is that chemo shrinks it so it's small enough to be removed, and hoping it's not spread.

 

But it looks like it's starting to already. He's working with one lung, and his liver and heart have also started to be effected. Today a few hours ago he had a heart operation and the family was told to prepare for the worst, but I've not heard any news since then.

 

 

 

And David, I know, 2 of my grandparents have died from cancer as well. The thing is, even though they were my grandparents, relations of me, I feel more affected by this. Even though I barely know this boy. I just think it's more tragic a random 14 year old boy being hit by cancer with a life time ahead of him than a person who's lived long enough to have grandchildren.

 

Obviously David I don't mean this in an insulting way, I'm sorry for the losses of your grandparents, and anyone. I'm just stating that it's hit me a lot more when the subject of the cancer is a 14 year old boy.

[Darlene_Ihnfsa]

sorry to hear that Jack, i understand that you are affected by that, he is so young. I hope this guy will beat cancer.

 

i'll pray for him, believe me.

My thoughts are with his family.

[Jack]

Ah.

 

I just got more news.

 

He's on a life support machine now, and going through a series of injections.

 

The problem is if they manage to keep him alive, he'll most likely be brain damaged. And it's not a very good chance that they'll keep him alive at all.

 

But obviously my friend's gone to be with her family now so I'm not in contact with her tonight.

 

So the family will find out his fate more clearly later tonight, and I'm sure the news will get to me some time tomorrow so obviously I'll let people know here.

 

But it looks like he's lost his battle.

 

It's insane how in 2 days this can happen. So so quickly.

 

I'm really lost for words.

[Jpw48]

Im so sorry for all this and I surely will give a few moments of silence tonight and pray for you. This really does put things in perspective and makes you thankful for what you have. I really hope this all passes and he gets better.

 

Best of luck, and keep a positive attitude as much as you can. You can always count on all of us for support.:)

 

 

What he said.

 

I can't imagine what you are going through, but it must be beyond belief.

I wish you and your family + friends all the best.

[Jack]

Please, to everyone wishing well to me, don't. I'm fine. I'm just affected by it but it's nothing compared to what this boy, his brother and sister, and whole family and friends are going through.

 

So please, just to clear it up. If anyone needs prayers and thoughts, it's this family, not me.

 

Thanks for all the responses though.

[HorrificAttack]

I don't mean to make this all religious, but what the fuck is a prayer going to do? Why would god choose one person in England to live but let thousands of other innocent people die elsewhere? Praying is just wasting time.

 

Yeah it's bad, but people die all the time, if they aren't personally attatched to me I wont get upset over it or I would be constantly depressed as people are constantly dying who don't 'deserve' to die.

 

I'm not holding anything against you for making this thread, I'm just saying.

 

I'm not saying I don't care, it's not a nice thing, I would have to be some kind of sick human being to not feel sympathy, but since I don't know the person or any of the family I wont let it affect me.

[Jpw48]

I don't mean to make this all religious, but what the fuck is a prayer going to do? Why would god choose one person in England to live but let thousands of other innocent people die elsewhere? Praying is just wasting time.

 

Yeah it's bad, but people die all the time, if they aren't personally attatched to me I wont get upset over it or I would be constantly depressed as people are constantly dying who don't 'deserve' to die.

 

I'm not holding anything against you for making this thread, I'm just saying.

 

I'm not saying I don't care it's not a nice thing, I would have to be some kind of sick human being to not feel sympathy, but since I don't know the person or any of the family I wont let it affect me.

 

Top marks for being sensitive. :veryangry2:

[HorrificAttack]

Top marks for missing my point.

[Jpw48]

Top marks for missing my point.

 

I don't think I missed your point.

The only point here is that you've come into a thread where someone is clearly at a very hard point in their lives, and you've proudly announced it doesn't affect you so you don't give a damn.

I understand that hundreds of thousands of people die every day, but I think that when someone explains their situation like this, and is looking for some support, its not the right place to make your statement.

 

Sorry if that came off as being bitchy, but I think theres logic to my argument.

[Stefan8]

I get your point - it's impossible to feel bad for everyone having a hard time out there.

 

Still, I think it's a good thing to think about these things sometimes. When you are really upset about something little, for example. It puts things in perspective. Lots of people are fighting for their lives - or have to watch people close to them suffer.

 

It affects me that some people get to live such a short time or get really sick at such a young age - while other people spent 100 years in this world. Life isn't fair.

[Jack]

Nathan, I have to admit I think your reply was completely pointless.

 

The point of this thread wasn't to get a group of people off a Coldplay forum to pray together. It was to just remind people what's really important when you feel like something's going wrong for you. To put things into perspective.

 

To some people, like myself, sparing your thoughts or prayers to someone when something like this happens is just a personal thing. I don't do it cause I think if everyone prays then it's gonna make him get better all by a miracle. I do it cause one of my best friends is going through a really roung time, and her little brother's going through a much rougher time. And hearing all about it makes me feel helpless and a bit useless. So if I'm giving my thoughts to them or trying to help them get through this (which is what this thread was actually about) then that just makes me feel a little better.

 

So you don't think praying is helpful to yourself, well fine, good for you. But what was the point in posting it in this thread?

 

If praying for him is a waste of time, what is posting about how you disagree with it?

[Ms Magpie]

I'm sorry to hear that. It HAS made me think about life and death, and I'll surely think about this boy before I go to sleep.

[Starlight]

I'm so sorry, Jack. I wish your friend and her family the best, and hope that things will be okay.

 

I see what you mean by putting things into perspective. I guess I should start doing that. Situations like these really do make you think about your own life. And it's a shame that it happens to the best people.

[Guest Grace]

as i already mentioned that trip last year made me put everything into perspective.

whatever it is - a bad mark, being rejected, a quarrel.

everything turns out to be completely pointless.

[fifi]

It's actually shocking how quickly that tumor progressed jack!

I can't imagine how the family must be feeling! I personally couldn't imagine anything like this happening to me or my family because I've got a somewhat carefree attitude towards everyday life, but it just takes something like this to make you stop and think how quickly life can just pass you by!

I hope he will be alright, given the circumstances! Keep us posted :)

[Jack]

They're using drugs to shrink the tumour, and hopefully getting him off life support tonight.

 

It looks a lot more promising now.

 

I'll post more when I know it.

[Aleluvscp]

I hope he's strong enough to fight it ...he'll definitely be in my prayers.

A few days ago I also discovered that a cousin of mine has a tumor. She's a wonderful girl and she's six months pregnant so I'm really worried... as is the entire family.

This kind of stuff is really hard but sometimes it can bring a family even closer and they can get through it.

 

a lot of luck!! :)

[JPB]

They're using drugs to shrink the tumour, and hopefully getting him off life support tonight.

 

It looks a lot more promising now.

 

I'll post more when I know it.

 

 

*Bump*

 

 

Thought this deserved to be on the first page. Hope the outlook has gotten better, must be a really tough time for you all at the moment