But I think that's part of what you were saying, when you were younger you look up to these older people, then you get there and it's not what you thought, I still feel as confused and incomplete as always, I'm just older now.

i feel the same. i feel more mature than a lot of people around me.

 

I find that life in college is misleading in the sense that yeah u can be different than HS, but people still act as immature as they did in HS/middle school etc.

 

 

i can only hope that graduating will be better

But I think that's part of what you were saying, when you were younger you look up to these older people, then you get there and it's not what you thought, I still feel as confused and incomplete as always, I'm just older now.

exactly, I kept expecting to change into this completely different, smart, human being. And now it seems like some so-called 'grown adults' are just as immature as 10-year old kids. Except they can drive cars, have sex and drink alcohol. I still feel like a kid most of the time, just with different responsibilities and a lessening curiosity with the world.

yeah... i gotta agree here as well.

 

it's kinda sad that some people never seem to grow up

i feel the same. i feel more mature than a lot of people around me.

 

I find that life in college is misleading in the sense that yeah u can be different than HS, but people still act as immature as they did in HS/middle school etc.

 

 

i can only hope that graduating will be better

 

Completely true.

But life doesn't get easier, it gets harder and harder.

And it's gonna be harder to find a friend.

Life changes, yet it seems like most people stay the same. Its whatchacall a paradox.

Completely true.

But life doesn't get easier, it gets harder and harder.

And it's gonna be harder to find a friend.

 

i dunno exactly about that. i mean the one thing i find about college is that it doesn't seem as though there are as many social cliques as HS, though there still are some. at times it may be hard to find friends in the sense that u are tied down to a job or something.

 

life does get harder in the sense of responsibility and being busy so perhaps it might be more difficult to find friends.

 

honestly i'm glad of the internet because it kinda takes me away from those people and lets me communicate w/ people i have a common bond/interest wtih

Life changes, yet it seems like most people stay the same. Its whatchacall a paradox.

 

yeah... people usually stay the same but what changes is i guess responsibility (in terms of getting a job, having a family, etc).

 

of course i'm too young to be going to a high school reunion, but from stories i've read/heard people tend to be the same as they were in high school.

Same here, besides, I'm the boring type, I'd rater stay home and have a good time than going out and get wasted in a party/club, that's probably one of the many many reasons why people don't find me interesting :nice:

Same here, besides, I'm the boring type, I'd rater stay home and have a good time than going out and get wasted in a party/club, that's probably one of the many many reasons why people don't find me interesting :nice:

 

haha same here. i guess i'm not really the adventurous type. i just like to have time to stay home, relax, listen to music. i've always been this way. to me it's the simple things in life. i don't need to do things to extravagent/complex.

I've only left the house a couple of times for the past few weeks

haha same here. i guess i'm not really the adventurous type. i just like to have time to stay home, relax, listen to music. i've always been this way. to me it's the simple things in life. i don't need to do things to extravagent/complex.

 

Haha, yeah, simple things are way better, and since I spend all day in school, all I want to do is come and stay home, relax, listen to all the music I couldn't listen the whole week, read non medical things for a change, but people seem to just want to get out, be in disaster..

 

Being boring is also safe, in a way.

yeah... but at the same time i feel that i should be doing more things and meeting people, though a lot of the people i've met are tools... well at least school.

 

all in all i'm just hoping that graduating college and getting a job will change things and make it better

You are all depressing. Just had to say that. But it's been an interesting read.

 

About the maturity of adults thing, yeah, I've known people who are 30, 35, and still basically act like 14 year old children except they drive, drink, have sex, and all things they treat as a child would, irresponsibly. Unfortunately because they live for the moment and are too stupid or ignorant to think about the future, they stick out as popular, because we'd all love to just do whatever we want all the time but most of us realise we're getting into adulthood and change.

 

From people I've known in high school to now (I'm 22) some have changed, grown in confidence into their personality and don't have problems making friends. Others are still in a shell, seem just as nervous as ever. I think things have completely changed, the popular kids in high school couldn't really care less about how the status quo was back then, but it still seems to affect some people who remember being un-popular in school and have carried that on into university and career life.

 

It's whether or not you let it affect you. I noticed pretty much as soon as high school ended/everyone broke into college, age 16. People don't care if you were popular in the past or not, you'll basically get treated the same, given the same chances socially, but only initially, then it's up to you. To be honest, the most quiet, un-confident people I've met just seem incredibly selfish, in a most unfortunate way, one that I can't even hate. They care so much about how they are perceived, what their impression is on others, because it's like they seem accustomed to worrying about that. But do I really want to know someone who's so self-obsessed that in a way they don't give a slightest fuck about me or people around me? Well no. The only interest they truely have in others is how they are being perceived.

 

Those are kindof extreme examples though. People who look so nervous that they are one more confidence knock away from developing a nervous twitch.

 

I didn't like some of the people I went to uni with, I didn't like some people at my last workplace which I stayed for 2 years, but if you just get on with it, stop letting your squabbling problems with certain people affect your friendships with entire groups of people, it's easier to make friends, even if it's just one or two people, it's important.

I changed in college, became less shy and interacted more, not that I'm saying I stopped being shy, but somehow, being in a new place gave me enough confidence to start talking to other people.

The problem here is that most of my classmates are still 17, and they're.. well.. thinking like high school kids and right now, they're acting like jerks :nice: that bothers me a little.

Also, I don't really give a fuck if I'm liked, like I've said before, I'm studying, not there to be liked, but if someone nice comes, I won't put a wall in front of me.

I changed in college, became less shy and interacted more, not that I'm saying I stopped being shy, but somehow, being in a new place gave me enough confidence to start talking to other people.

The problem here is that most of my classmates are still 17, and they're.. well.. thinking like high school kids and right now, they're acting like jerks :nice: that bothers me a little.

Also, I don't really give a fuck if I'm liked, like I've said before, I'm studying, not there to be liked, but if someone nice comes, I won't put a wall in front of me.

 

i'd say that now i'm the same way as you. i still still idiots and tools in my school, but as each progresses i've become more and more talkative and i guess confident. i'm still very quiet and shy and introverted, but i'm better than i was when i started.

 

also i'm starting to realize i shouldn't care what others think. i'll like what i like and do what i like and if people have a problem whatever.

Same here, besides, I'm the boring type, I'd rater stay home and have a good time than going out and get wasted in a party/club, that's probably one of the many many reasons why people don't find me interesting :nice:

 

I'm just like you. :wacko:

I <3 this thread.

I <3 this thread.

 

Seriously?

I'm just like you. :wacko:

 

Being boring is nice :shrug: :nice:

i like sometime to be boring...haha. i mean it sounds bad, but i like sometimes just doing nothing.

 

 

i like this thread as well... makes me know i'm not the only one

I think that me being a nerd makes me be boring.

You guys should stop listening to Radiohead, seriously.

You guys should stop listening to Radiohead, seriously.

 

never!

Radiohead has nothing to do with it.