Privacy

[Lore]

that Chris' affair rumor thread made me think about it.

 

In some message boards (Killers' official board for example) you can't discuss about their private stuff unless the band say something / post pics about it.

 

do you think that discussing the things they do when they are not onstage is good/appropiate?

 

Honestly I don't care about what they do when they're not working, I think their kids are cute and that's all, but it's kinda creepy to know their kids birthday dates, stalk their wives, etc. In my case, I wouldn't go to visit their houses or things like that, I'd visit The Bakery though because it's related to the band.

 

Even if they're famous, I think that being a coldplay member is just a job. What would you say if your boss starts to check what do you do on weekends, who are you dating, etc?

 

Anyway, I've seen the opposite, another message boards where the people make drama about everything concerning a famous' private life and seriously... it sucks.

[lucyb]

Hi Lore,

 

That's a great question/thread. As a mother of 2 young children, I would hate for my children to be discussed by strangers, no matter how well meaning it is. But for all other issues, I figure live and let live. If people post things I dont agree with, I try and ignore them....Im sure Ive also said things people here dont agree with. I dont like the fact that there are some militant members on here who think that their word is gospel. I think everyone is entitled to their opinion, free speech and all that. As someone on here says, the ignore button is a wonderful thing.....

 

I figure this site is for ALL things Coldplay.....

[Guest LiquidSky]

I didn't even know Will had twins!! I'm such bad fan!!!:cry2:

 

but stalking their kids, knowing & stopping by their house (how is that not stalking???)

 

But lately, everyone is just not obssessed with the celebrities but with their kids as well. I mean Suri is like in the magazines stand every week since she was born! Sure she is cute & everything but she is not a celebrity nor is she a young actress either & the same thing goes for the rest of the other celebrity kids but yet they still get stalked..

[Lore]

I agree that we should be able to discuss all things coldplay but from what I know coldplay is a band, and their wives/family/houses/etc are not part of the band. I bet they'd be scared of some posts in the coldplay section :uhoh:

[marie/pims]

I think stopping by their house is taking it way too far.About the kids, well, I only know they have some because they made a statement every time they had one.it's a difficult subject cause obviously Jonny's wife or Guy's ex wife have posted pics of their kids so they don't completely mind.But what I don't like is obviously papz taking pictures of the kids.As a parent you have the right to have control over your kid.Concerning discussions, well, I just ignore it most of the time.Not like anybody can anything about it anyway.It's not like we know know much about their private lives anyways.Well, I don't.

[Darlene_Ihnfsa]

that Chris' affair rumor thread made me think about it.

 

In some message boards (Killers' official board for example) you can't discuss about their private stuff unless the band say something / post pics about it.

 

do you think that discussing the things they do when they are not onstage is good/appropiate?

 

Honestly I don't care about what they do when they're not working, I think their kids are cute and that's all, but it's kinda creepy to know their kids birthday dates, stalk their wives, etc. In my case, I wouldn't go to visit their houses or things like that, I'd visit The Bakery though because it's related to the band.

 

Even if they're famous, I think that being a coldplay member is just a job. What would you say if your boss starts to check what do you do on weekends, who are you dating, etc?

 

Anyway, I've seen the opposite, another message boards where the people make drama about everything concerning a famous' private life and seriously... it sucks.

 

well gwyneth have a thread here where her work is discussed as she is also an known person, if the other band members would be married to such an known person, you'll agree they have a thread too?... if one is allowed, the others in a similar case should be allowed too IMO.

 

same with apple, i opened the thread, just cause people were so stupid critizising her name, c'mon there are more important things in life than discuss a baby name that much, i'm sorry she is stalked :( and at times i'm sorry i did opened that one, my intention was not to allow the stalking, far from that.

 

but i agree with, you, not that long ago i had to report a thread on this board because people were talking about coldplay members relatives, c'mon what does it have to do with their work?, and much more unrespectful (in my opinion) is that some people even stalked pictures...

i would only post them or something if they post them themselves on a music mag or coldplay.com... (that said, i remember there was a thread somewhere with Chris and his sibilings when Apple was less than a year old, and were stalking pictures from paps).

 

but private must be private, one thing is that you go walking in London and you meet them and ask them for a pic or autograph (which no doubt if they were with their family i would simply ignore to ask for anything and let them go with their normal life), after all they are human and need their privacy, sure they have good and bad things, but who are we to judge?

 

i've seen on other boards that personal life discussion is not allowed, although other personal stuff is kinda allowed just with the rule to not be unrespectful towards other board members or the band members. (e.g. Placebo and Brian Molko' sexuality discussion), but i've also seen there that some discussion got closed and disapeared, cause were too personal, and time gave the right answer to the topic discussed...

 

but again we should simply remember 3 things:

they are human as we are, so need their privacy, specially about their families and life style.

secondly put ourselves on their shoes, would we like that people would stalk at our house constantly?, NO.

who are we to judge other people, and if they do good or bad things? (unless those are ilegal, or directly crimes). (I personally will only ask them to be coherent with their life and what they say, thought i know that's hard to balance, and it is just me, i always expect for people to be coherent with that).

 

and Lore, about the boss example, some football coachers need to do that here ;)

 

I'm happy with have had the chance to have seen The Bakery from outside, but not with other things some people do, like go to try to stalk them. :dozey:

[LauraLaura82]

There are lots of people who think just because you're famous your private life Must be public!!! :confused:

What a medieval idea :angry:

I agree with all of you, is absolutely ridiculous take pics of kids, or Cp wives while they're walking down a street with no makeup.....in other words in their everyday life :(

For ex. those absurd pics of stars eating something....: :thinking:

"Ohhhh I didn't imagine they usually have a meal....so they're human...they Eat :shocked2:...ohh thank god!!" :laugh3: :laugh3: :laugh3:

who cares to know they do the same things I do..... sleep...eat...go to toilet, shopping.....:inquisitive:

[marie/pims]

There are lots of people who think just because you're famous your private life Must be public!!! :confused:

What a medieval idea :angry:

 

I think that 's because so many people want to have their 15 minutes these days (Balloon boy!). First they think "celebs" shouldn't complain. Second, I feel like some people would dream to be in these papers just to get some attention.I've read people complain about Jonny Depp not acknowledging them at Disneyland because he was having fun with his kids.What the fuck have we come to?

I think the boys are dealing very well with all that stuff and draw a very sharp line between private and public.

[cpfan50]

This issue seems to crop up a lot and be quite divided in how people feel on this board so I guess it's good to discuss.

 

I personally think this board and the people posting on it do a pretty good job of keeping reference to their personal lives to a reasonable and moderate level. It's the general consensus not to post addresses of their homes and, as far as I'm aware, no fan on this board has actually gone out and followed their families, hounded them for photos and then posted the pics on here!

 

I think it's natural for fans to be interested in their personal lives and while the boys don't flaunt their personal lives, they do talk about it openly during interviews. Will often refers to his wife and how great his kids are and Jonny spoke not so long ago about touring with his fiancee and child and her dancing to his music. On her 1st birthday they wished her happy birthday on stage during a gig. Guy's ex-wife did an article about their home in an interiors magazine while they were married which he must have been okay with her doing, and he happily posed with her for press pictures during her shop opening a few years ago. They are clearly not against people knowing about their family, so as long as it's respectful then I don't see it being such a big deal.

 

I'll probably get shouted at for this but I think it's easy to exaggerate the whole 'stop this horrible invasion of privacy' thing a teeny tiny bit... with the exception of Chris and Gwyneth (who are an exception mainly due to Gwyneth's job), none of the boys and their families are being 'harassed' by anyone - paps or fans. They have all said that they are able to go about their life with no problems at all. People on here posting the odd pic from the internet or wishing their child happy birthday isn't going to suddenly create a media frenzy or harassment campaign.

 

On the whole everyone keeps references of their wives and kids to a respectful level. And we have lots of good moderators on this board who can remove anything obviously inappropriate.

 

To try to enforce an outright ban on anything personal on here will mean editing every interview and article to get rid of any mention of their families - even if the boys say it themselves! If you don't do that, you can't criticize people for referring to their families. Given Gwyneth is mentioned in about every interview that could be a lot of editing! :P Plus I'd personally rather have the whole interview than have a censored version. I think that would undermine the quality of this site, which has always been one of the best places to come for interviews and Coldplay news.

 

Everything in moderation - isn't that the most sensible approach? Be respectful in what you say about their families, don't post where they live, don't follow them around relentlessly snapping pictures of their children and post them here. Surely that's common sense? :confused:

[mc_squared]

Without going to any details, there are a lot of hypocrites on Coldplaying who don't respect the privacy/personal details and private correspondence of other Coldplayers and have even been known to spread untruths about them both privately and publicly, so these people have no right to judge others' behaviour in the first place IMO.;)

Of course, if somebody actually divulged any of the band members' addresses on the board, that would be as wrong as writing a Coldplayer's address (or personal details) on there.

Maybe the posting of the original newspaper story which included a photo of Chris and Gwyneth's new house was wrong in the first place, but once this genie was out of the bottle, there was no turning back and it was bound to arouse curiosity.

To my knowledge, there have been several photos of this house in the press since, so it isn't exactly a secret any more.;)

Of course, I'm sure nobody condones anyone (press or otherwise) staking out someone's house for hours on end to get a "private" photo of them. That's a completely different matter.

The only thing I have a problem with is these sensationalist stories about Chris and Gwyneth, where it's said that Chris is "cheating" on her or something.

That's just ludicrous (possibly harmful) gossip, and it has no place on Coldplaying IMO, as it's both insulting and disrespectful.;)

 

Gwyneth is obviously going to get press attention because she's a major movie star, but I agree that their children should be left alone as Chris and Gwyn have always done their best to keep them out of the public eye.

[eff-exx]

i regretted posting a thread that to me, stepped into one of the band member's private lives.

 

i've learned my lesson since and i will try my best not to make the same mistake.

[mc_squared]

i regretted posting a thread that to me, stepped into one of the band member's private lives.

 

i've learned my lesson since and i will try my best not to make the same mistake.

 

Which thread was it?:confused:

[eff-exx]

Which thread was it?:confused:

 

i mean i didnt exactly post pictures, etc up. it was the one abt jonny's daughter's birthday.

[mc_squared]

i mean i didnt exactly post pictures, etc up. it was the one abt jonny's daughter's birthday.

 

So what did you actually post? If it was just saying "Happy Birthday" I don't really see the problem.:confused:

[EmmaLouiseSmyth]

:thinking:

I'm not going to come on this thread and say that i think it's a disgrace and all that,

simply because i've posted replies mentioning their kids and private life,

nothing too personal about them, but i'm not not going to be a hypocrite.

Now I do think that their privacy should be respected,

no doubt about it.

I think that it should be put out there,

that it is frowned upon to post new threads about their private life.

 

But I feel also that if stuff about their life does come up in a conversation in a thread,

then it's not as bad...

you know?

:confused:

[Raphaele]

I totally agree with you, Lore. I don't care about their private life.

[mc_squared]

:thinking:

I'm not going to come on this thread and say that i think it's a disgrace and all that,

simply because i've posted replies mentioning their kids and private life,

nothing too personal about them, but i'm not not going to be a hypocrite.

Now I do think that their privacy should be respected,

no doubt about it.

I think that it should be put out there,

that it is frowned upon to post new threads about their private life.

 

But I feel also that if stuff about their life does come up in a conversation in a thread,

then it's not as bad...

you know?

:confused:

 

The two threads I felt very uncomfortable about were the ones featuring the photos of Chris asleep on the deck of the ferry as he was travelling to a funeral and the photos of him with the children in the park.

I definitely think his privacy should have been respected on those two occasions.;)

[karenc]

See I'm of the belief that outside of band stuff what any of the members do is up to them! Unless it was having an effect on the band then there isn't really any need for us to discuss it is there? The example of when Chris was asleep on the ferry is one that did bother me quite a bit, that's a rough time and the last thing he needs is someone snapping away and then putting pics all over the papers and internet.

 

Obvioulsy Gwyneth getting attention is acceptable for obvious reasons. On another band's forum that I use you are not allowed to discuss their families etc or post pap pics which have infringed on their privacy i.e. if they're out and about with their kids and families etc.

[mc_squared]

See I'm of the belief that outside of band stuff what any of the members do is up to them! Unless it was having an effect on the band then there isn't really any need for us to discuss it is there? The example of when Chris was asleep on the ferry is one that did bother me quite a bit, that's a rough time and the last thing he needs is someone snapping away and then putting pics all over the papers and internet.

 

Obvioulsy Gwyneth getting attention is acceptable for obvious reasons. On another band's forum that I use you are not allowed to discuss their families etc or post pap pics which have infringed on their privacy i.e. if they're out and about with their kids and families etc.

 

I would be in favour of such a rule.;)

[Ohemul]

I agree, Lore.

I don't give a shit about their wives and children.

 

But being in a band like Coldplay isn't just a job! I don't think Chris thinks "Oh no, another day. I don't WANT to write more songs! I'm fed up with singing and playing!"

[SimpleBlur]

:shrug:

Well I definitely think that their children being treated with Star attention is not okay. :uhoh:

 

But, Chris and his private life, I'm actually not EXACTLY sure (remember, he chose the road to being a Star), however, I think there is some sort of limit... :thinking:

I mean, if you passed by Chris on the street, would you take a pic of him or do as much as ask for a quick autograph? I honestly wouldn't know what do, how many times in your life do you pass by Jonny Buckland or Chris Martin?

[mc_squared]

:shrug:

Well I definitely think that their children being treated with Star attention is not okay. :uhoh:

 

But, Chris and his private life, I'm actually not EXACTLY sure (remember, he chose the road to being a Star), however, I think there is some sort of limit... :thinking:

I mean, if you passed by Chris on the street, would you take a pic of him or do as much as ask for a quick autograph? I honestly wouldn't know what do, how many times in your life do you pass by Jonny Buckland or Chris Martin? :confused:

 

That's a good point. I've been lucky enough to meet Chris once, and that might well be the only time it ever happens. However, everyone did ask him whether it was OK for a photo, and he was extremely polite and patient with everyone.;)

[coldplay_is_louve.]

I agree with this thread 150%.

 

Leave their personal lives alone. Seriously. :dozey:

[*Perrine*]

I totally agree we shouldn't speak about their private lives, however it doesn't do any harm if you say you find Apple cute, or if you post news of Gwyneth since she's at least as famous as Chris :nice:

 

I'm against the stalking, but I think we shouldn't overreact sometimes it's not really a big deal :nice:

[coldplay_is_louve.]

Very well said, Perrine. :D