well congradulations for experiencing love, but i know to me it's just a dillusion so i'm just gonna avoid giving myself a false sense of hope

Lol gopher it.

i sound so cynical in this thread!! i'm actually a very happy & optimistic person, just not in love

i dont believe in soul mates, because i like to think theres more than one person out there for everyone.

but i definitely believe in love.

i dont believe in soul mates, because i like to think theres more than one person out there for everyone.

but i definitely believe in love.

 

As Jay said, it's quantum.

i'm actually really surprised that the poll is exactly 50/50

As Jay said, it's quantum.

i agree.

i mean, if you find someone youre truely in love with and dedicated too, why not define them as your "soul mate." i just think there are alot of possiblities for soul mates out there for every person.

 

 

im a fucking hopeless romantic and its sad.

i agree.

i mean, if you find someone youre truely in love with and dedicated too, why not define them as your "soul mate."

 

 

Yea exactly.

Yes is actually up 19 to 16 now because Arizzo accidentally hit no.

hell yea !!

i'm still surprised that it's that close

20-16 now :) For once Coldplayers are optimistic about something...

i'm still surprised that it's that close

i think its that close because people define the phrase "soul mate" differently.

There's probably several.

i'm not really rooting for a side to win

i honestly believe that the whole concept of a "soulmate" is a load of crap. ok, i'm really gonna offend all the guys right now when i explain why.

i know i'm still really young, but when i see the experiences my friends have gone through & just every man i've ever seen...it just really really makes me hate men. but i can't get over how hot they are! that's the only thing they're good for. except for my brother & dad, every guy i've ever met is either a cheater or a beater. & the only good guys i have seen only go for sluts who treat them like shit. i'm not allowed to date & i never have, & i never will b/c i don't want to go through all that head ache my friends go through.

 

i used to be such a believer in love, but then i saw how my cousin who is a guy, & he was awesome he's my best friend, lied to a girl & really acted like an asshole. i was shocked. i guess after that i figured even if this awesome guy that i love (love like a brother) could do this, then there really are no good ones left.

oh, i know the only good guy out there is chris martin, but seriously, we all know that's never really gonna happen, so i've completely abandoned the idea of ever falling in love

 

Ok, I'm going to blow your mind here with something:

 

Enter into relationships with the understanding that there's a possibility it might not work out. It might end badly.

 

Now compare relationships, logically, with life. You KNOW you will die. One day, you'll be terminally ill on your deathbed with only a few hours left.

 

But you don't give up on life, and lock yourself in your room... even though you know this story has a sad ending, you keep on waking up every morning and getting out of bed.

 

So life is really just about racking up experiences, so you can say you actually LIVED. Even if those experiences are mostly bad, with a few good ones sprinkled in, at least you had them... and were able to share your stories with your friends. You might even dump a guy, and then later realize what a terrible mistake you made! Nick had a good quote in his signature, "Those who are afraid of making mistakes, rarely make anything at all."

Relationship advice with Dr. Jay!

I'm still waiting to get endorsed by Oprah.

 

And I want to be compensated with shares of her production company, please.

you'd be like the richest man... i would just be happy to be part of her audience when she's giving out cars :dozey:

No, I don't believe in one true love- because there are lots of good potential matches that could turn into "true love" and I think ultimately love is a choice. It mainly depends on how compatible your personalities are, where you are in your lives, how much you are both willing to put into the relationship...

 

The thing is even "true love" takes a lot of work and self-sacrifice and compromise to hold it together. Love means both people putting the other before themself; it means shared time and shared memories, not just a warm, fuzzy infatuated feeling that will go away in a couple of years (because it always does).

 

Of course those are ideas our society seriously isn't ok with these days. You're supposed to put yourself first-do what you want and what makes you feel good- and love is a feeling you feel in your guts (or at least your pants). Nearly 50% divorce rate... working really well, don't you think?

 

 

This. It's full of win.

How does society tell you to be selfish?

 

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I am a generally selfless person so I guess I must be in love with everyone

i think its that close because people define the phrase "soul mate" differently.

 

Yes. My "soulmate" is actually my best friend. She and I are both girls, who are married with our own children, but we are "kindred spirits" and I do consider her my soulmate. She's not a "mate" in the sense of intimacy or romance, but instead of friendship.

love is a head full of serotonin

 

( sorry don't know why I said that)

Teamocil*

Yeah, seratonin has to do with hunger.