The band members.

[princess_of_china]

Wooooow, hahaha, I haven’t been online for a bit and skip back so many pages to find what niamh <3 coldplay has been saying to and about me. Hm, I think this has grown into something that I was not pointing at. :S

 

Sorry for the long post, but I just want to make some things clearer, since it seems that both niamh <3 coldplay and her cousin don’t understand what I meant to say. I do not wish to start a tacky discussion, I just want to clear some misunderstandings and hope to take away some of the discomfort feelings niamh <3 coldplay seems to have with my posts. If you don’t feel like reading it, then don’t click the spoiler ;)

 

 

First of all: My initial post was about a reply of princess_of_china to Texasluvsjonny. That was all. So it was not directed to niamh <3 coldplay, it was not me saying that this thread was not allowed or that she (or her counsin) should fully read all similar threads. I also didn’t say that this thread is hurting anyone, neither that it is spamming, neither that it should be closed, neither that new people cannot start threads, neither that I hate you guys, neither that she was anti-social, neither that she was doing wrong by spamming.

 

Now that that is made clear, let’s continue to what replies:I didn’t say it hurts anyone and that it was a big deal, so I also don’t understand the fuzz and why you are telling me or anyone why you don’t get it? or why you tell me to calm down :? I am sorry if in the previous post I came off as not being calm, I was completely unaware of it.

 

I also don’t know why several times you have been referring to the term and agreements. I guess you didn’t understand my original post and instead of asking what it was about, just started making sarcastic comments which I didn’t understand and when I asked what you meant, you just said that it was sarcasm. Okay. Well, rather than asking again what you meant with your sarcastic comment, I will just assume that you didn’t get my post, so I will elaborate on that; in the forum rules (terms and agreements I call that) that you (and your cousin ) said to have read when you joined the forum, it is stated (but maybe not that clearly) that anything posted on this forum is without copyright and right of intellectual property, which can be roughly read as ‘you cannot own a thread or post’ also does it say that this forum is owned by some people so you and I do not own it. I mentioned it because your cousin was saying Texasluvsjonny to stay out of her thread, which does not make sense to me, because Texasluvsjonny is a mod and mods are supposed to moderate the whole forum and also do people not own threads. Once again, this does not mean that I have something against the creation of this thread and against your cousin having fun in a thread that she created. Also, my original post had nothing to do with you, though I feel that you took it that way.By generalizing it and ridiculing it into ‘every single thread that is similar to another’ and ‘arguing’ you don’t really win an argument, you know? People on here were not trying to ‘attack’ you or have an argument in the first place. Instead of making the other person look bad, why don’t you try to understand what the other person is actually trying to say? As la.cri.mosa said, this whole thing was not even directed to you, yet you feel the need to defend yourself and your cousin and I am not even sure why, because no one said so far that you were not allowed to start a thread or that your cousin was not allowed. Yet you make it seem that we do. Same for you, I hope you understand that I was not making a big deal out of starting a thread, but that I was having troubles with the way you reacted to a comment of Texasluvsjonny. I also didn’t say there was anything wrong with you spamming. There’s loads and loads of single worded comments being made on this board and hardly anyone falls over that. I only said that the Lounge seems a better place to have a thread with such conversations going on than the Coldplaying section. I meant that in a constructive way, I thought it might help you. And mind that I did not mean to use the word ‘spam’ with a negative tone. It would be hypocrite anyway because I have been making one-word posts as well. ;) Okay? I just think that chit-chat threads suit better in the Lounge section. I think they made it look themselves as if they are unwelcome by their defensive behaviour and writing things down quite the way they weren’t said by people. Also, one of the moderators already in the beginning said something about the thread. That was when princess_of_china had to react in such a passive-aggressive way. But maybe that’s all part of the game, I mean, it’s known that people bond the better when they have a mutual enemy ;) Well, I don’t mind if I have to be the bad guy here, hahaha! If that brings you all closer together, let it be. Though I suspect that the love for Coldplay is already strong enough to bond all of us. Actually, like you are saying here:I agree, Coldplay is what brought us all here. But don’t agree with the last part. I think people in this thread just differ in opinion on a matter and what makes it so negative to have a different opinion about something? I think it can be perfectly fine to discuss things and also as members to think about the functioning of the board without making it immediately sound negative. To me they have written their posts in a kind and constructive way and therefor they don’t deserve the ‘negative’ stamp. I think the reaction to them were a bit less positive though. Maybe you were referring to them? Like when one of them responds again to a post with ‘This is ridiculous.‘

But I must applaud you for the way you could - without being negative yourself – resolve some of the issues in here. You were brave enough to ignore the fuzz and just post about the Coldplay member while others were still replying to eachother over a silly matter. I think I also understand better the kind of responses I got, now knowing their ages :P thanks to you :)

 

Personally I like it when you and others come back at my posts and tell me, like ‘hey, I think you are way off here, because ....’ Fair deal and I think you are good at that. Especially telling me in a way that is not pointed at the person and personal level. This girl niamh <3 coldplay though, still seems to need to learn that sometimes you have to neglect posts or try to see the best in them rather than feel offended by them.

Btw, if my original post or this one is off charge, then people can always report them to a mod :)

As I see it everyone can post in here, even people that question if the thread should be here in the first place and people that wonder why niamh <3 coldplay feels offended while a certain post was not even directed at here. I think this thread became so long because she felt she should respond to all posts that were directed at her even when they were not. It goes both ways, niamh <3 coldplay disagreed with lots of people and responded to them, each time. She also did not have to. Which makes me come to this post: People did not come in this thread to argue with you most of the times. I, for example, did not comment on you, yet you felt the need to start an argument with me :S Also I think that you did not get what most posts were about. You seem to think that they are all about arguing with you and your cousin and about that your cousin was/is not allowed to start this thread. Well, they were not. Neither is this one.

Oops, I didn’t read this when I made my post. I guess I might have put your faith in jeopard :uhoh:

 

I hope you understand that I am not criticising every word posted by someone. I have nothing against you or you wanting to talk about Coldplay. I also hope that you (and your cousin) can take some criticism and realize that it can also be done nice and friendly, for you can learn something from criticism too. I believe it’s even one of the strenghs of humanity to be able to look at things critically. :thinking:

 

 

 

 

 

I understand what you are saying, believe me I do, and I know that the issues have been resolved. But I find that the mention of our ages (my cousin and I) was quite uncalled for. Now I really don't want another argument but that wasn't a fair comment. You told us to tell you if we didn't like something about your post, and I'm sorry if it seems as though I'm asking for an argument, because that definitely is not the case.

 

I already apologized for yesterday, and I know that everything is fine now, so let's just write posts that actually have something to do with the band :)

[Wyrd]

? Why is it bad to mention ones age? I just said that I think I understand better the kind of responses I got, knowing your ages. Why isn't that fair?

[niamh <3 coldplay]

Urgh. Why is this being brought up again.

The mention of our ages was uncalled for because it was kind of depicting what we said in a childish way. Infact, the mention of our ages should tell you just to let it go.

I do not need to learn anything, I was angry because people were arguing and making comments about something so ridiculous.

After the arguments, the thread got back on track and hopefully this would show you how the thread is useful.

I believe the thread does belong in the 'Coldplay' section because it is entitled 'the band members'. I'm not making any effort in replying with super good arguments here, because it all isn't relevant anymore and I dont want to argue over a thread. What's the point.

[niamh <3 coldplay]

Oh and you say these posts replying/arguing back to us we're kind and constructive? The first argumental post we seemed to receive was from texasluvsjonny which had 'guessing she can't read or something' in it. And you blame me for saying 'this is ridiculous'? It is! And you thanked him for that post which was quite uncalled for, not to mention the post in the first place. This is what got us wondering what on earth we had done to make people angry by making this thread.

 

'guessing she can't read or something'. I mean, come on.

[MartinFan]

Oh and you say these posts replying/arguing back to us we're kind and constructive? The first argumental post we seemed to receive was from texasluvsjonny which had 'guessing she can't read or something' in it. And you blame me for saying 'this is ridiculous'? It is! And you thanked him for that post which was quite uncalled for, not to mention the post in the first place. This is what got us wondering what on earth we had done to make people angry by making this thread.

 

'guessing she can't read or something'. I mean, come on.

 

 

 

Well I wasn't going to say anything at all, but texasluvsjonny has been a highly respected board member here, and she is a Mod and has been for along time.

She wasn't being argumental at all and that shows lack of respect for her.

You have a right to start a thread as long as it beneficial, the questions your cousin wanted answered could have been answered in any Chris, Jonny, Will, or Guy thread without having to open another, do you at least agree? I mean your a site editor here on the Coldplay boards so you should have maybe guided her somewhere else, and she maybe could have started a new thread about some importance. If you truely think you and your cousins age isn't a factor, then you will appreciate this message and take it as helpful advice, not ME being mean or critical towards you or your cousin.:)

[coldplaymom]

Here's a short but informative Chris interview

 

https://coldplaying.com/forum/showthread.php?t=90438

[MartinFan]

Sorry posted twice :confused:

Oh and you say these posts replying/arguing back to us we're kind and constructive? The first argumental post we seemed to receive was from texasluvsjonny which had 'guessing she can't read or something' in it. And you blame me for saying 'this is ridiculous'? It is! And you thanked him for that post which was quite uncalled for, not to mention the post in the first place. This is what got us wondering what on earth we had done to make people angry by making this thread.

 

'guessing she can't read or something'. I mean, come on.

 

 

 

 

Well I wasn't going to say anything at all, but texasluvsjonny has been a highly respected board member here, and she is a Mod and has been for along time.

She wasn't being argumental at all and that shows lack of respect for her. We thanked her, because we agreed with her.

You have a right to start a thread as long as it beneficial, the questions your cousin wanted answered could have been answered in any Chris, Jonny, Will, or Guy thread without having to open another, do you at least agree? I mean your a site editor here on the Coldplay boards so you should have maybe guided her somewhere else, and she maybe could have started a new thread about some importance. If you truely think you and your cousins age isn't a factor, then you will appreciate this message and take it as helpful advice, not ME being mean or critical towards you or your cousin.

__________________

Light's will guide you home

and ignite your bones and

I will try to Fix You....

 

 

 

I am the keeper of:

The quote:"I would have just stayed home and masturbated, and that would have been a waste of another day" Chris's Flaming Lips, Bruce Springsteen, and Barrrack to the Future T shirts, The Dragon from Lost, and the Mexican/Coldplay cell phone wave.

[niamh <3 coldplay]

Sorry posted twice :confused:

 

 

 

 

Well I wasn't going to say anything at all, but texasluvsjonny has been a highly respected board member here, and she is a Mod and has been for along time.

She wasn't being argumental at all and that shows lack of respect for her.

You have a right to start a thread as long as it beneficial, the questions your cousin wanted answered could have been answered in any Chris, Jonny, Will, or Guy thread without having to open another, do you at least agree? I mean your a site editor here on the Coldplay boards so you should have maybe guided her somewhere else, and she maybe could have started a new thread about some importance. If you truely think you and your cousins age isn't a factor, then you will appreciate this message and take it as helpful advice, not ME being mean or critical towards you or your cousin.

__________________

 

 

 

 

 

 

Light's will guide you home

and ignite your bones and

I will try to Fix You....

 

 

 

I am the keeper of:

The quote:"I would have just stayed home and masturbated, and that would have been a waste of another day" Chris's Flaming Lips, Bruce Springsteen, and Barrrack to the Future T shirts, The Dragon from Lost, and the Mexican/Coldplay cell phone wave.

 

Who said I would take it that way?

I'm not showing lack of respect for her,mi don't even know her so how can I? It was what she said. It doesn't matter whether she is a global moderator or not, I'm sure she's brilliant at her job and whatnot but I only replied to what I received.

[MartinFan]

Who said I would take it that way?

I'm not showing lack of respect for her,mi don't even know her so how can I? It was what she said. It doesn't matter whether she is a global moderator or not, I'm sure she's brilliant at her job and whatnot but I only replied to what I received.

 

 

 

Fair enough, but too many people on this forum who are new always take things the wrong way. When people write things on the computer, you can't see this person or understand the tones in which they write, so it gets very touchy sometimes, I guess I will leave it at that, and agree to disagree:cool:

[niamh <3 coldplay]

Good shout:)

[Wyrd]

Oh boy.

I apologize on forehand to princess of china and V for yet making another post that is not about the band members, but niamh <3 coldplay seems yet again not to understand my post.

 

Okay, to begin with your first comment: “Urgh. Why is this being brought up again. “ Well, because of what I just said in my previous post: you did not seem to understand what my post was about. But I am glad that your cousin was very understanding.

“The mention of our ages was uncalled for because it was kind of depicting what we said in a childish way.” How does it? I did not say how old you were, and I still do not see how it was depicting what you said in a childish way. “Infact, the mention of our ages should tell you just to let it go.” Wait, so I can’t mention someone’s age, but you can? Are you now using your age as a free-pass for any reply? Or just when it suits you? I thought we all like to be equally treated here, no matter the age, and that’s why you took offence the first place when I said something about your age, but it seems that you want to cling on the age as long as it’s benefitting you. Seems a bit hypocrite, no? I know I should let it go, sorry.

“I do not need to learn anything, I was angry because people were arguing and making comments about something so ridiculous.” Yeah, that might be, but why would you get angry about it while you are fuelling the debate with your replies. It just leads to more replies. If it bothers you and makes you angry, then you might better ignore it and let it be for the meantime that you calm down. Don’t you think that that works better? Hostile reactions usually only lead to hostile reactions. But then again, I don’t expect someone your age to feel the same way about it. That's ok. I might be wrong as well, hahaha! Age does not say anything about how much you know and if you are right. ;) I wouldn't be the first adult to get called back by a much younger person. I still don’t understand though why you get so mad when someone says that this thread has no additional value, because there are already band member threads. It has nothing to do with you. It is just about a thread and nothing personal.

 

Oh and you say these posts replying/arguing back to us we're kind and constructive? The first argumental post we seemed to receive was from texasluvsjonny which had 'guessing she can't read or something' in it. And you blame me for saying 'this is ridiculous'? It is! And you thanked him for that post which was quite uncalled for, not to mention the post in the first place. This is what got us wondering what on earth we had done to make people angry by making this thread.

 

'guessing she can't read or something'. I mean, come on.

Yes, the post was constructive in a way that she said that if princes of china wants to know something about a Coldplay member she can just ask and someone will be happy to help her. Also did she give a reason as to why to not have a thread like this. I agree that her wording on that part you quoted was not particular nice, and neither have I sounded so in all my posts (sorry for that), but that doesn’t justify reacting back in a hostile way. Taking it out of context only makes it sound worse than it was too. And Texasluvsjonny had a point. Which is why I thanked the post. It was not because of that quote. It was because she (she is a ‘she’ not a ‘he’) said your cousin already had member threads to post in and was already aware of that and yet decided to start the thread. I agree that starting bend member threads just because you want to have a thread going on that is yours, is a bad idea. How is thanking a post that you agree with “quite uncalled for”? It is okay if you don’t agree with it, neither does your cousin and I am perfectly fine with that. It just means that we both have a different opinion over this matter. It just seems strange that you have the idea that Texasluvsjonny was angry. She was just questioning the use of this thread and so do I. Just as you are finding this whole discussion useless, so do I find - by now - this whole thread useless.

I even propose the :lock:

[niamh <3 coldplay]

Why bother starting a huge argument about something so pointless.

I certainly do not use my age as a free pass thing, that's why I didn't mention it before coldplaymom asked.

I know we both have different opinions, so I don't get why this whole thing has been escalated into something it never should have been, just because the thread was in the wrong place or something, see you may be getting frustrated at the fact I'm 'not understanding' or something, I do, it's just I've failed to keep interest because arguing over a thread, in my opinion is rather boring. I do get where your coming from, I always have, but like I've said earlier, I only reply to what I receive.

I do not want to analyse each post And comment n full detail, and It may seem unacceptable but I fail to see the need in arguing about this anymore, I thought it might be the end of it in the last post.

[Wyrd]

No, I think you still don't understand.

 

I am not about the thread being in the wrong section, I am now about the whole thread being pointless - both arguments about whether it is pointless or not and having another thread about band members when we already have them. Same for the age thing. I don't know how not mentioning it before V asked your age, shows that you did not wish to use as a free-pass thing. I was merely talking about when you said that I should know better than to reply, because of your age.

 

I don't know, mods is it okay to start a thread in the Coldplay section just because you want to be the thread starter and then just see if it dies or not? I know it had been done before, but I am just wondering when a thread is clogging the board and when it's adding anything to the Coldplay section. I am just afraid that by posting things in here, they might not be posted elsewhere, where they'd be better in place.

[niamh <3 coldplay]

The thread is entitled 'the band members' and it was placed in the 'Coldplay' section.

[Cobalt]

Urgh. Why is this being brought up again.

 

Some people do live in different timezones with other commitments, not their fault several pages have passed but they still have something to say

 

Just sayin'

[niamh <3 coldplay]

Some people do live in different timezones with other commitments, not their fault several pages have passed but they still have something to say

 

Just sayin'

 

Yes, but when they come back and see that it's settled, why would they need to argue again? Even if they did have something else to say, I'd rather not argue:)

[Cobalt]

Yes, but when they come back and see that it's settled, why would they need to argue again? Even if they did have something else to say, I'd rather not argue:)

 

Just because you want the subject to disappear doesn't mean people have to completely forget that they had something to say about it.

[SueDeNimes]

Time to post this pic from the amazing Ashes to Ashes series it seems:

 

 

Many good points have been made in here already and I don't want to bore you with a long multi-quote.

This thread could have happily died down to the 2nd page and become forgotten...

It's true that if you want a thread "of your own" you usually go and create one in the Lounge. That place however isn't for Coldplay related stuff so it's fine in here.

Like has been pointed out many times now there are already existing threads about each member. Yes.

 

Furthermore I want to use this opportunity to "advertise" for my How to search announcement in Multimedia since it applies to the whole forum! :laugh4:

 

niamh <3 coldplay, I think you (understandably - you're related) got a bit too defensive for your cousin and so you can't avoid that other members want to give their opinion about it. Please acknowledge the input that has been given. Asking others "to stay away / out" is not the solution.

 

I don't think it's necessary to close or remove this thread.

But I want to ask you all to remain civil and let the discussions be.

There have been "Random Coldplay facts" threads before, if you want to continue adding info to this one, you're welcome to do so, but please stop discussing the value of this particular one. This wish applies to both sides.

 

The thread is there now and if its original intent is valuable enough for many members: it'll stay active.

If it's not: it'll wander away from the first page and will eventually get bumped by another newbie or a spammer in a couple of years. :P

That's the way it is in forums and whichever way it'll end up: let's please all accept it. :)

 

[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D1NAGhiVqdg]Bruce Hornsby - The Way It Is - YouTube[/ame]

 

I don't think there's that much more to say... :nice:

 

(Yes, I'm in a good mood and believe that a more light-hearted tone can settle this. Fingers crossed we mods don't have to post in here again. I count on you guys! :cool: Have a nice day!!)

[niamh <3 coldplay]

I was getting defensive because people were arguing back with me over something so small/pointless. I understand that people have different opinions, I just didn't see the point In arguing over something so stupid.

 

And, i know, cobalt- yes, I do want it to go away/settle down, and it did. Until someone decided to start things up again. Personally, I would let it go when I see an argument has died down.

[coldplaymom]

I was getting defensive because people were arguing back with me over something so small/pointless. I understand that people have different opinions, I just didn't see the point In arguing over something so stupid.

 

And, i know, cobalt- yes, I do want it to go away/settle down, and it did. Until someone decided to start things up again. Personally, I would let it go when I see an argument has died down.

 

It's time to stop being defensive. Please don't feel like you have to reply to every single post. :)

[niamh <3 coldplay]

I'm not being defensive, if you wanted me to stop replying why are we arguing in the first place?:)

[coldplaymom]

I'm not being defensive, if you wanted me to stop replying why are we arguing in the first place?:)

 

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[niamh <3 coldplay]

It doesn't matter anymore anyway:)

[Wyrd]

it'll wander away from the first page and will eventually get bumped by another newbie or a spammer in a couple of years.

:D like the 10 things I don't like about Coldplay thread that just got revived after being dead for 6,5 year? hahahaha!

 

Thanks for the reply SueDeNimes. I won't question the usefulness anymore.

[MartinFan]

Time to post this pic from the amazing Ashes to Ashes series it seems:

 

 

Many good points have been made in here already and I don't want to bore you with a long multi-quote.

This thread could have happily died down to the 2nd page and become forgotten...

It's true that if you want a thread "of your own" you usually go and create one in the Lounge. That place however isn't for Coldplay related stuff so it's fine in here.

Like has been pointed out many times now there are already existing threads about each member. Yes.

 

Furthermore I want to use this opportunity to "advertise" for my How to search announcement in Multimedia since it applies to the whole forum! :laugh4:

 

niamh <3 coldplay, I think you (understandably - you're related) got a bit too defensive for your cousin and so you can't avoid that other members want to give their opinion about it. Please acknowledge the input that has been given. Asking others "to stay away / out" is not the solution.

 

I don't think it's necessary to close or remove this thread.

But I want to ask you all to remain civil and let the discussions be.

There have been "Random Coldplay facts" threads before, if you want to continue adding info to this one, you're welcome to do so, but please stop discussing the value of this particular one. This wish applies to both sides.

 

The thread is there now and if its original intent is valuable enough for many members: it'll stay active.

If it's not: it'll wander away from the first page and will eventually get bumped by another newbie or a spammer in a couple of years. :P

That's the way it is in forums and whichever way it'll end up: let's please all accept it. :)

 

 

I don't think there's that much more to say... :nice:

 

(Yes, I'm in a good mood and believe that a more light-hearted tone can settle this. Fingers crossed we mods don't have to post in here again. I count on you guys! :cool: Have a nice day!!)

 

 

OMGosh it's the GreatOne:D Where they hell have you been hiding? I need you to send me some more new music to listen to that you have discovered:D