every crush is like a white water rapid

[Abracadabra]

^^OMG, sorry but I had to facepalm. Or at least :rolleyes: (only without that smile on my face)

[Cyan Kat]

Wise words.

 

I hear those crocodiles ticking 'round the world.

I never understood that metaphor

[Mark]

I never understood that metaphor

 

Me neither, wanted to balance the thoughtful lyrics with something that didn't make any sense.

[Imke]

I never understood that metaphor

 

Captain Hook and the crocodile that swallowed his watch and was therefore ticking? What have you been watching in your childhood? D:

 

This was one of the metaphors that actually made sense! :P

[Cyan Kat]

Captain Hook and the crocodile that swallowed his watch and was therefore ticking? What have you been watching in your childhood? D:

 

This was one of the metaphors that actually made sense! :P

I Know the reference I just don't get it's relevance in any way to the song

[Imke]

I Know the reference I just don't get it's relevance in any way to the song

 

Welcome to Chris Martin's head, I guess? :uhoh:

[Coeurli]

I Know the reference I just don't get it's relevance in any way to the song

 

My guess is that it means the character knows he's being watched, and that he can hear the "crocodiles" watching him (because of the clocks ticking)

 

But, yeah, Chris Martin's head :nod:

[Mark]

Does this guy like Coldplay, Kat?

[rainplay]

Didn't read through all of this, so I apologize if I'm just saying what's already been said!

 

In my opinion, you should find something that you both like, talk about it. Get to know each other. Maybe become friends first. You said you only hang out with him in big groups? Try and get into a one on one situation. Just don't sit around and let him get away or lose interest.

 

Can't tell you how many times I've missed out on people, and opportunities because of my self consciousness and commitment issues. Just make sure he knows you're interested. Don't make it obvious though. Guys don't like it to be too easy, just subtly touch his arm when your talking, laugh at his jokes, etc.

 

But do not, do not, do not pretend to not be interested or be embarrassed of coming across like you are into him. I did that before, played the whole 'hard to get'..'I have no feelings' thing and the guy ended up giving up on me and just finding someone else..

 

So yeah, just follow your feelings. The worst thing that will happen is he just doesn't feel the same way..And that might feel like a big deal initially, but trust me, you do get over it!

[Cyan Kat]

Does this guy like Coldplay, Kat?

nope :blank:

and you know what it doesn't bother me

[Cyan Kat]

Didn't read through all of this, so I apologize if I'm just saying what's already been said!

 

In my opinion, you should find something that you both like, talk about it. Get to know each other. Maybe become friends first. You said you only hang out with him in big groups? Try and get into a one on one situation. Just don't sit around and let him get away or loose interest.

 

Can't tell you how many times I've missed out on people, and opportunities because of my self consciousness and commitment issues. Just make sure he knows you're interested. Don't make it obvious though. Guys don't like it to be too easy, just subtly touch his arm when your talking, laugh at his jokes, etc.

 

But do not, do not, do not pretend to not be interested or be embarrassed of coming across like you are into him. I did that before, played the whole 'hard to get'..'I have no feelings' thing and the guy ended up giving up on me and just finding someone else..

 

So yeah, just follow your feelings. The worst thing that will happen is he just doesn't feel the same way..And that might feel like a big deal initially, but trust me, you do get over it!

well I'm not sure about hard to get

I just feel awkward and don't know what to do with myself sometimes and eye contact is weird for me

[Mojo Pin]

If you never try, you'll never know :blush: /Typical coldplay fanboy reply

 

Just ask him out when you're ready Katusky, don't put more pressure on yourself or you'll get even more anxious and insecure. Good luck! :huskyhug:

[Coldplay]

It's because he's worth it that this is so hard

Ehh you can't guarantee that.

But you should still do it so you learn from it and grow as a person. You become more brave and confident and stuff. So the next times you try to approach someone you fancy, it isn't this hard.

[Cyan Kat]

If you never try, you'll never know :blush: /Typical coldplay fanboy reply

 

Just ask him out when you're ready Katusky, don't put more pressure on yourself or you'll get even more anxious and insecure. Good luck! :huskyhug:

okay thanks Ren :hug:

[Cyan Kat]

Ehh you can't guarantee that.

But you should still do it so you learn from it and grow as a person. You become more brave and confident and stuff. So the next times you try to approach someone you fancy, it isn't this hard.

yeah that's why I want to ask him in person

and not just message him.

[Mojo Pin]

okay thanks Ren :hug:

I'm pretty shy myself irl and i used to have a really hard time asking girls out but don't think about that too much or it gets worse.

 

The worst thing that could happen is that he says no but like Dee said, that helps you grow as a person and its easier the next time you try to approach someone you like.

 

Ps. I'd tell you to get a bit tipsy and ask him out but that would be bad advise.. though that always worked for me back in the day :drunk:

[Mark]

But do not, do not, do not pretend to not be interested or be embarrassed of coming across like you are into him. I did that before, played the whole 'hard to get'..'I have no feelings' thing and the guy ended up giving up on me and just finding someone else..

 

You know what, I've waited a long time for someone to say this. :smug:

 

It's the most annoying thing in the world when a girl does the "hard to get" thing, because a lot of girls do it to keep you on your toes. It's like someone offering you a lift home, and you keeping them standing in the rain, going "Ooh shall I, sharn't I?"

 

Of course it's different if you don't actually mean to act disinterested. But there's a difference between that and hard to get. You're obviously shy, and he'll see that and find it cute, don't worry about that. :)

 

But at no point, and I mean no point, test him on how interested he is in you; for example, don't stand him up, ignore his calls, flirt with other guys, tell him you might not be interested in him, and that he's "got to be lucky".

 

We're simple creatures and we need diagrams for a lot of things girls say. We interpret these signs as "being messed around." :\ If you're as nice around him in real life as you are on here, you'll be fine.

[Mark]

I'm pretty shy myself irl and i used to have a really hard time asking girls out but don't think about that too much or it gets worse.

 

The worst thing that could happen is that he says no but like Dee said, that helps you grow as a person and its easier the next time you try to approach someone you like.

 

Ps. I'd tell you to get a bit tipsy and ask him out but that would be bad advise.. though that always worked for me back in the day :drunk:

 

If nothing else, it gives you a sterling excuse. Last time I told a girl I fancied her, her reply was "We're friends, so I'll put it down to us being drunk." I don't drink. But it was nice that she made the excuse for me. It's because she was thoughtful like that, that's why I liked her, ironically :D

[Coldplay]

You know what, I've waited a long time for someone to say this. :smug:

 

It's the most annoying thing in the world when a girl does the "hard to get" thing, because a lot of girls do it to keep you on your toes. It's like someone offering you a lift home, and you keeping them standing in the rain, going "Ooh shall I, sharn't I?"

 

Of course it's different if you don't actually mean to act disinterested. But there's a difference between that and hard to get. You're obviously shy, and he'll see that and find it cute, don't worry about that. :)

 

But at no point, and I mean no point, test him on how interested he is in you; for example, don't stand him up, ignore his calls, flirt with other guys, tell him you might not be interested in him, and that he's "got to be lucky".

 

We're simple creatures and we need diagrams for a lot of things girls say. We interpret these signs as "being messed around." :\ If you're as nice around him in real life as you are on here, you'll be fine.

:nod:

It's not just men (or women) who dislike this. I'm just a dumb kid who's never been in a relationship, but I find that to be a pretty irritating quality in general, it shows lack of maturity and sincerity.

[Mark]

:nod:

It's not just men (or women) who dislike this. I'm just a dumb kid who's never been in a relationship, but I find that to be a pretty irritating quality in general, it shows lack of maturity and sincerity.

 

Not having been in relationships doesn't make you dumb, neither does being a kid.

 

It's observation, not old age, that brings wisdom.

[Destrokk]

But Coldplay, he needs to love Coldplay :angry:!!!!!

 

Seriously Kat, don´t chicken out! just remember all of us behind your back chanting "do it kat! do it!"

[Wyrd]

Yup!!!!! and some of us have been there.

 

I so know the situation of chickening out when you wait for him, and wait and then give up and go home. In high school it was for me like that, a bit too many times. One guy I liked for so long during high school and I wanted to talk with him but I didn't dare. Each time we saw eachother it got actually harder to do it, because I chickened out before so basically it never got that far. I then wished I had done it the first few times I had the chance because then it still looked like a barrier I could overtake. It's like diving in the deep, it's like you bungee jump, but hey the feeling afterwards is just as great. And as had been said before, you get stronger from it. It will make it easier next time to ask/tell another guy. This is a practice/experience thingy :S

 

and not really about this but yeah: I also dislike this hard-to-get thing. !!!

[Cobalt]

And the hardest part

Was letting go, not taking part

You really broke my heart

 

And I tried to sing

But I couldn’t think of anything

 

And that's why I repeat the word 'part' :chris:

 

Sorry I'll stop being unhelpful now

[Cyan Kat]

I'm pretty shy myself irl and i used to have a really hard time asking girls out but don't think about that too much or it gets worse.

 

The worst thing that could happen is that he says no but like Dee said, that helps you grow as a person and its easier the next time you try to approach someone you like.

 

Ps. I'd tell you to get a bit tipsy and ask him out but that would be bad advise.. though that always worked for me back in the day :drunk:

yeah except I'm never invited to any of the parties or nights at the pub they all go to and I'm not such a great drinker anywayz I'd probably tell him something really dumb.

[Mark]

yeah except I'm never invited to any of the parties or nights at the pub they all go to and I'm not such a great drinker anywayz I'd probably tell him something really dumb.

 

Do you think you're maybe overthinking this?